i left hospital 2 days after a csection in agony and couldnt do an awful lot for myself and my baby. i was on a ward and rushed out with just co-codamol for pain relief and injecting my belly by myself. i didnt feel anywhere near ready to go home just yet and i was terrified. the hospital was severely understaffed my my babies life was put at risk alone for that reason hence why the emergency c section was needed as i was ignored during labour due to no staff and that made my labour experience traumatising as my baby got stressed and his heart rate dropped. it would be nice for mums to be heard for once and given the proper care after having a baby. its nice to be able to have someone to lean on during such a vulnerable and worrying stage in life . extra support can go a long way !
Include training in awareness of how not everyone experiences pain or discomfort the same. Interoceptive differences, especially for neurodivergent people (including, importantly, unaware and undiagnosed neurodivergent people) are too often overlooked or misunderstood by professionals. Also include proper teaching of pelvic floor health for new mothers, I was clueless about it, a poor quality photocopied sheet is not enough information to help a mother prevent years of avoidable pelvic floor issues. Especially when the birth was a difficult one.
It’s important that women also receive the same attitude babies recieve when it’s time for birthing. Improved attitude can lead to less complications due to the stress on the mother being low. Saying “as long as the baby is okay” really stresses new born mothers out as they believe it’s their duty to make sure the baby is okay, and not themselves either.
I had my first baby June 2024. After expressing how unwell I was feeling and them knowing I had high blood pressure but nothing prescribed and it being palmed off as something I ate for breakfast I had a diagnosis of Preeclampsia. I was in hospital for a month before I had an emergency C Section. I will say the care before hand and the explanation of what is going to happen was fantastic, I felt so happy but then I had my baby and it went downhill from there. My daughter was 7 weeks premature and whilst I was laying up in a hospital bed she was in NICU. The aftercare of my surgery was horrendous. The midwife’s slated me for seeing my daughter whilst not giving me any pain relief after waiting 5 hours then told me it was my fault because I went to see my daughter for 1 hour!!!!!
They left me in pain all night, when I needed the toilet they did not help me to stand or walk I was told to do it myself as I was “Fine” to do so. I was fully ignored and also given a medication which I am allergic to. The whole experience after my birth was horrendous and if it wasn’t for my partner helping me I would never have been able to get to my daughter. The pain I was in was horrendous but nobody listened when I said I could no longer put pressure on my legs to stand or walk. How women are treated after birth is absolutely shocking and sickening. Something needs to be done and being “under pressure” is no excuse to treat mothers like absolute dirt!
Had an emergency C-section with my first which there was no help first time mum aswell then had a planned due to it being the safest way , which went into an emergency which was very scary . Was in out of hospital after that and they was so bad . Was no support
It’s important for us new moms and moms who have had baby’s before to get the help and support they need from hospitals and it’s so annoying that while we are pregnant they try everything possible to make you feel uncomfortable as a mom especially me as a new mom I felt so degraded and the once I had my little one they basically threw me out like rubbish and didn’t even come check on me while I was still there they came the next day ans passed me her red book and said we could leave it’s disgraceful how they are treating parents
I was still in the hospital after my baby was placed in the SCBU unit after an emergency c-section back in 2022, I didn’t receive any visitation from nurses while waiting for the epidural to ware off, once it had I got out of bed and with the help of my partner got dressed and left the room, I wasn’t given any pain medication and walked from my ward to the unit my son was on, once I’d seen him and decided to head back to my room for the night I couldn’t stand up straight as I was in that much agonising pain from the c-section, my partner asked for a wheelchair for me as I didn’t think I could make the walk back, the nurses on the SCBU unit rang mine to see if someone could help and were told “she walked there so she can walk back”. Once back on the unit I requested pain relief and was told I could have two paracetamol, it was agonising and the trauma my birth and after care have given me is like no other.
I hope future women don’t have to suffer as many of us have in the past.
Paracetamol makes me throw up and pain relief doesn't work for me, tablets I can't absorb.
I've got 3 earthside babies and 1 angel baby, never offered anything to help with any pain, due my rainbow in October and hoping something changes as I know my body will mire than likely be in more pain this time round.