On Friday the 9th of July, we received some devastating news.

Our previous IVF clinics donor manager called us advising that our donor has pulled out of the donor programme. With this, he has made the decision that all created embryos with his gametes are to be “destroyed”.

This now means that our three babes on ice, the three potential chances of expanding our family and our three half genetically our embryos, will be terminated based on the decision of this human.

He did have the choice to pull out of the programme and let the existing allocated families with embryos created keep them… but for some reason this was not the path he chose.

Victorian legislation covers this man to make this decision on behalf of all of us. We have NO say in this choice whatsoever. We, the couple who emotionally, financially, spiritually and wholly wanted to take this journey to become parents have now been stripped of this and are forced to start from scratch.

We have been advised that we are 1 of 6 families that have been affected by this choice. Unlike every other state in Australia, Victorian Legislation (The Assisted Reproductive Treatment Act 2008) allows their sperm and egg donors to withdraw consent up until potential transfer of a created embryo. 

Without consent of the families. 
Without acknowledgment of the families. 
Without consideration of the families. 

The Victorian Legislation MUST be changed to protect the heartbreak for people who have no other options but to rely on the availability of donors to create families. 

You can follow along in our flight to have this legislation changed along with our IVF journey VIA our Instagram accounts below: 

@another.thought.in.frames

@our.queer.home