More strict changes need to be implemented at Find a Grave (FG). Granted after many years and a ton of outpouring from the genealogical community some changes have taken place, but it is not enough.
  
Find a Grave memorials are to honor those that have passed and to share the burial information where they are interred in cemeteries or on mantels. The creation of memorials started out as people trudging through cemeteries taking pictures of gravestones and uploading them to the web site with the inscription information. It has grown to include memorials of people cremated and ancestors that have no known burial locations. The creation of these memorials has become central to some genealogical research.
  
Yet there are some people who have taken creating memorials to all time low. They eagerly await the publishing of death indexes or scour obituaries to jump on FG to create a memorial. Sometimes these memorials are created before some family members are even aware of the death. This practice is abhorrent to true genealogical minded people and those that have had these memorials created before they are even done morning the loss of their loved ones.
  
For years people have been complaining about the practice of creating a memorial of a recently deceased person just days after their passing. It has shocked and aggrieved people to see these memorials and it is further incensed when the creators refuse to transfer the memorials to the family member as per FG rules. These creators hit an all-time low when, on the same day as the Texas elementary school shooting, an end-user on FG published the Uvalde victims' memorials which consisted of 14 children and 1 teacher...and sadly the teacher's spouse who died of a heart attack. These families had no time to process this horrific event before someone posted memorials and photos of their children. This not only happened with Uvalde, but also with the other recent rash of domestic terrorism. This re-victimization of these families needs to stop. Per FG’s own guidelines it states: "When adding memorials for those who are recently deceased, if you are not a family member and it is too soon for the burial information to be known, please wait until the burial information is known to create the memorial," and "be sensitive to family members" (https://support.findagrave.com/s/article/Memorials-for-those-who-are-recently-deceased accessed June 15, 2022). However, FG does not enforce their own "suggestions" since the above are not "rules."
  
The genealogical community wants http://FindAGrave.com and their owner, http://Ancestry.com to update their terms of service by taking the following steps:

1. Refuse to allow anything to be posted for 90 days (about 3 months) unless the poster is family.
2. Refuse to allow anything to be posted about a child’s death for at least one year unless the poster is close family.
3. Eliminate the number of memorials created and/or managed on end-users' profiles.

Please sign the petition to let them know that you agree with these steps.

Or as Judy G. Russell wrote in her blog dated 31 May 2022:

"The fact that Ancestry has thus far refused to do it means we’re not being heard the way we need to be heard.

So let’s try some different way.

Let’s go to the top.

Deborah Liu is the CEO of Ancestry. Her LinkedIn profile is https://www.linkedin.com/in/deborahliu Her Instagram account is https://www.instagram.com/debliu_/ She can be reached by regular mail at Ancestry’s corporate headquarters at 1300 West Traverse Parkway, Lehi, Utah 84043.

If you think Find a Grave can do better, let her hear from you.

Politely but firmly."

For additional information, please see:

• https://support.findagrave.com/s/article/Memorials-for-those-who-are-recently-deceased (Accessed 15 Jun 2022)
• https://www.legalgenealogist.com/2022/05/31/ancestry-this-ones-on-you/ (Accessed 15 Jun 2022)
• https://thedanielsgenealogy.medium.com/slow-and-steady-1c48de763b19 (Accessed 15 Jun 2022)

The memorial pictured: https://www.findagrave.com/memorial/182496455/dorcas-hope-lloyd (Accessed 17 Jun 2022)