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Educate people about emotional abuse to end the cycle

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As a victim of emotional abuse, I know how difficult it is to live under that type of immense control. Abusers use manipulation tactics to control their victims. This keeps the victim fearful of leaving and becoming independent. Emotional abuse is defined as acts or omissions by the parents or other caregivers that have caused or could cause serious behavioral, cognitive, emotional, or mental disorders (www.americanhumane.org). It is a form of domestic violence- violence toward or physical abuse of one's spouse or domestic partner (education.yahoo.com). Caregivers who belittle, ignore, and harass their children give them psychological damage. What may seem like a harmless joke could end up being the start of a treacherous, abusive relationship. The reason emotional abuse is not nationally recognized is because unlike victims of physical abuse, we do not come out of it with scars, cuts, or bruises. There is no evidence to prove the abuse- all we have are stories, which people choose whether or not to believe. Unfortunately, most times people do not believe them. For people who are not educated about emotional abuse, it is difficult to decipher between a harmless joke, and what could be the start of a traumatic relationship. Most people prefer to avoid conflict, so they choose to ignore the situation. Unfortunately, when the doors close at night, many of us are forced to deal with the abusers ourselves. The reason I created this is because we, as victims, need to take the power and put it back into our own hands. I want people, victim or no victim, to come together and get educated about emotional abuse. Education is power, and with it we can make a change. Educate yourselves, take that knowledge, and do something to prevent emotional abuse from continuing. If you see someone getting bullied, report them. If you see someone you think may be suffering from abuse, offer a service to them. If you are a victim, there are people, places, and websites that are willing to help you get out- you just need to know about them. (Services will be attached.) You deserve to be free- to have a chance to discover who you really are, without someone over your shoulder telling you who you should be. If we get educated, we can give our peers and even give ourselves this opportunity. Sign this pledge, and let's end emotional abuse together. Here are some basic statistics about emotional abuse, just to get an idea of how big of an issue this really is.

1) In a study of 1,000 women 15 years of age or older, 36% had experienced emotional abuse while growing up; 43% had experienced some form of abuse as children or adolescents; 39% reported experiencing emotional abuse in a relationship in the past five years. (www.child-abuse-effects.com)
2) 3 out of 4 (74%) respondents personally know someone who is or has been a victim of domestic violence. (www.thehotline.org)

3) 83% percent of respondents strongly agreed that domestic violence affects people in all racial, ethnic, religious, educational, social and economic backgrounds.(www.thehotline.org)

4) 2 out of 3 (66%) strongly agreed that domestic violence is a serious, widespread social problem in America. (www.thehotline.org)

5) While 4 out of 10 (43%) ranked fear that the abuser will find the victim as the number one reason a victim would not leave his/her abuser, over a quarter (28%) thought that finding access to money/income to support the victim and/or children was the most important problem. (www.thehotline.org)

6) Despite the alarming rate of domestic violence, almost half of domestic violence abuses are not reported; remember - the opportunity to report Domestic Violence offenses in an anonymous fashion is also available to you upon contacting the National Domestic Violence Hotline through their 24-hour telephone number: (800) 799-7233 (www.thehotline.org)

Services to contact if you are in trouble

1) National Domestic Violence Hotline
www.thehotline.org
Phone Number: 1-800-799-SAFE or 1-800-787-3244
You can also e-mail (it can be anonymous)
Contact available for the deaf or hard of hearing and in other languages.

2) After the Trauma
www.afterthetrauma.org/contact.html
E-mail, but you can include a phone number if you prefer
(Less than 24 hour response)

3) NSPCC
This is a website for adults who need support for their children.
Phone: 0808 800 5000
Text: 88858- Response usually within 3 hours. Free & 24 hours a day.
E-mail: help@nspcc.org.uk- Response within 24 hours
Contact available for the deaf or hard of hearing and in other languages.

To learn more about emotional abuse, go to:
- http://www.americanhumane.org/children/stop-child-abuse/fact-sheets/emotional-abuse.html
- http://www.counselingcenter.illinois.edu/?page_id=168
-http://www.lilaclane.com/relationships/emotional-abuse
-http://psychcentral.com/library/domestic_quiz.htm (This last one is a quiz to take if you feel you may be in an abusive relationship)



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