If you are fortunate enough not to have to deal with the courts in order to see your children, many of you are probably unaware of how biased the court systems are in favor of mothers regardless of each situation. And if you are like us and have had the misfortune of going tiredly through the courts for parenting time to no avail, then you know just what we mean! Children need their fathers in their lives! The court systems MUST change!

It is quite sickening and heinous that willing and able fathers have to fight so hard for even a few days worth of time with their own children. Why shouldn't good fathers be given the same rights as mothers? This is about the child's well-being, not because of an angry parent who can't get over his/herself. And lawyers and judges are contributing to the problem just as bad as the narcissistic alienating parents.

The judicial system is supposed to be in place to provide justice. There is nothing just about denying a good father time with his own children. KIDS NEED BOTH PARENTS! It is an absolute outrage that still in 2018 we are going off the assumption that just because someone is a mother, the children are better off with them. That's ridiculous! After everything going on in the news these days where people are calling for the elimination of assumptions in order to create positive changes, you would think that father's rights would be high on that list.

Sure, mothers are important in their children's lives, but certainly not more so than their fathers. Deadbeat dads are responsible for creating this false sense in the court's eyes that ALL fathers are undeserving of equal rights to their children. Of course, some probably don't deserve equal rights or any rights in some cases. But, the same thing can be said for some mothers. It needs to be decided on a case by case basis like anything else! Each is different! We are comparing apples to oranges, bike tires to tractor tires, Democrats to Republicans! 

Michigan, where we live, is not a 50/50 state. In our county of Ionia, the best the judge will give us is Thursday nights every other week, and Thurs night-Sun at 3pm on the opposite weeks. We have alternating holidays as well. That is not even close to equal time! The only way it can change is if the mother has some sort of case against her that causes a change in circumstances. How is that fair? My husband is an amazing father, has no record whatsoever, and would give anything for his children. There is absolutely no reason he shouldn't have equal rights. (If you want even further proof of the corruption and injustice, the judge was taking selfies in the court room with their mother's lawyer before our case was heard)...nice, right?

In our case, we have gone through the system only to be told verbatim by the judge that we are being "frivolous" in our attempts to see the children more. Frivolous?? The definition of that word is "not having any serious purpose or value." How can anyone think that a child's opportunity to spend time with their father is without purpose or value?? Family time is THE MOST important time. A child will hold onto memories of times spent with their father forever! Time goes by so fast and we cannot get it back. If you have children, you know this all too well. One minute, they're lying in your arms completely dependent on you, and the next they're kicking a soccer ball across the field, calling you on their own cell phone to be picked up, and before you know it, going off to college! PLEASE, PLEASE see the value in giving fathers what they equally deserve. These children (and fathers) need us to advocate for them in a system that clearly does not.