Protect my rights as a parent in Japan

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  • When I gave birth to my second child everything was fine till 3 months post partum. I was tired and I was sad because I was like I was being controlled by my husband  (without going into to much detail about or marital relations) . I had not taken one moment for myself in a little more than two years.... I  believed i had developed mild post partum depression  8 months ago,  I was also extremely exhausted and the main focus on my therapy was to take care of my own needs.  I sought treatment  and after 1 month of therapy I was ok (granted I had work to do with my daughter in person) when I came home my husband had hired two nannies and wouldn’t let me sleep with her her all the time, i also felt uncomfortable bc the nanny’s ONLY took care of my daughter. I had to do all the cooking, cleaning and take care of my son bc my husband would mostly be busy .... I begged and pleaded for him to get rid of the nannies who where doing MY job and he didn’t feel comfortable, yet was upset bc I wasn’t paying for them. He would let my son be with me for as long as I wanted but I could only see my daughter for no longer than 3 hours a day. It really depended on what he wanted as he believed he had custody of the children. Because I had left for a month to help myself.  This whole time he never supported my post partum depression and I believe is using it against me,  He locked me out of the house and at that point decided to file for custody and relocation yesterday and since I hired a lawyer he hasn’t let me c the kids as much as I am legally allowed. There is a big stigma on post partum depression and I believe it’s totally normal, especially when raising two under two with no emotional support from your spouse living so far away from you’re family, we r in Tokyo they are in LA. He recently revoked my Japanese dependent visa as I was a housewife and not working, I will have to leave japan in 30 days so we are trying to expedite the case. I hope this petition can not only help me see my daughter more as she is 10 1/2 months old and I feel guilty for missing and not being apart of her life as a baby. I gave up my job to be a mum and now my kids are being raised by two nannies while I sit at home and “twiddle my thumbs ” I hope my case can bring awareness and create less of a stigma on women going through the same thing. This petition has reached more people than I imagined and I hope more of you can speak up in the comment section about my interaction with Finn or both kids if you have seen it! Thank you guys so much. please continue to follow the case by reading my updates

 here are some external links about mental health issues in japan...

my lawyer wont even bring up my post partum depression. im so confused.

somehow my husband is allowed to do what he wants like take the kids out of school for no reason but i cannot. WHY!

 https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5639118/

https://ps.psychiatryonline.org/doi/pdf/10.1176/appi.ps.201200518

 

i have also attached the most recent letter i have written my lawyer

 

SATO SAN

In court we didn't make weekday guidelines thats what i specifically asked for.

its very important.

I DID NOT SAY ANYTHING bad to Marissa i just asked her if what he said was true. (he told his lawyer she told him i was dangerous and couldn't be left alone with the kids for longer than 2 hours, which i think he made up)

i wouldn't pick him up tomorrow morning i would pick him up after his nap…. anyway me not spending time with the kids is bad for them and unstable. if they say no can you ask her what she wants from me. i don't understand. they r psychologically damaging my kids, by being inconsistent, and not providing a weekly schedule. they said they would make an agreement, and my email to jonathan has nothing to do with my ability to take care of the kids, you need to state this! also. you received what i had written to Marisa and it was not threatening at all i was only trying to get proof for u although i know u told me not to email her. i cannot just sit back and let mind games and lies be told, so next time just don't tell me. i'm really fed up with the way i am being treated. it is extremely damaging to the kids health and mental status…. DO THEY NOT UNDERSTAND THAT. i asked you in court today to start the order immediately… why was it up to jonathan to agree? I told you that if it wasn't court ordered i wouldn't get any time with the kids, this is why i asked that, AND I WAS RIGHT!


and in regards to ignoring your alerts i think its best i have no contact with Marisa either since clearly she is reporting back to jonathan i'm not sure whether its bc she is wondering why he said those things or bc she didnt say them and she's upset he was two faced. I DO NOT UNDERSTAND WHY ME WRITING A MEAN EMAIL TO JONATHAN AFTER HE HAS BEEN IGNORING ME FOR 3 DAYS, TRYING TO GET MY WASHING MACHINE FIXED, FIGURING OUT WHEN I CAN SEE FINN AND LUNA, SEEING IF FINN IS OK, IF HES IN SCHOOL ETC IS BAD. HE TOLD ME LAST WEEK I COULD SEE HER. I HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO FAITH THAT I WILL BE ABLE TO SEE THE KIDS..

IT IS PSYCHOLOGICALLY DAMAGING TO BE SO INCONSISTENT WITH THE CHILDREN. LAST WEEK I HAD FINN 4 times NOW I HAVE HIM ONCE IF IM LUCKY and i get to MAYBE see LUNA FOR HALF A DAY……………………………………………………….
IT REALLY SEEMS LIKE NOBODY CARES ABOUT THE WELFARE OF THE KIDS AND HOW MUCH THEY NEED ME, LOVE ME and need a consistent and healthy family life. QUITE FRANKLY IM disappointed. IN YOUR ABILITY TO PERSUADE HIS LAWYER,  USE TACTICS, do whatever you have to do i don't care. but that email had nothing to do with the kids and once again he is not going to let me see them? so he is punishing me again? YOU CANNOT STAND UP TO HIS LAWYER AND SAY THAT EMAIL HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH JILLIANS ABILITY TO TAKE CARE OF THE KIDS. IF JONATHAN WANTS HER TO BE NICE SHE NEEDS MORE TIME WITH THE KIDS….. i will be nice when i have at least one sleepover with luna a week and i'm able to take her out from 9-5 pm2-3 times a week FOR NOW …. THAT IS WHEN I WILL BE NICE. (btw i totally ignored him yesterday bc his lawyer said she would try to convince him to let me sleep with my son and he said no)  so obviously leaving him alone, being mean, being demanding NONE OF IT MATTERS. He's too selfish and self absorbed

 



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