In August 2024, my father passed away after facing the challenges of Alzheimer's disease. Although, the relationship was broken with his family- it doesn't mean no one cared. His battle was made significantly harder due to a conflict of interest between his care and those managing his medical decisions. His next of kin, his wife, who held power of attorney over my father, had been granted a  temporary restraining order and was pressing charges against him after a domestic dispute caused by Sundowners. It raises a troubling question about how someone with conflicting interests could be allowed to make critical decisions regarding a person's wellbeing and treatment.

Power of attorney laws currently allow individuals to make crucial medical decisions on behalf of those who are unable to do so themselves. While this is ordinarily a supportive and necessary measure, it becomes worrisome when the appointed individual holds adverse feelings, legal actions, or restraining orders against the person in their care. This creates a potential conflict of interest that may negatively impact medical choices, welfare, and ultimately, the lives of those who cannot advocate for themselves.

Imagine a loved one of yours, already suffering from a debilitating disease, having their care compromised by unresolved personal disputes or legal matters. Every family deserves the assurance that their vulnerable members are receiving unbiased and loyal care, free from conflicting motives that clouds judgments and decision-making processes.

I propose that we urgently reassess the criteria and establish clear, stringent safeguards in the power of attorney laws. It’s crucial to implement that, when there’s a conflict of interest such as existing restraining orders or ongoing legal disputes, an unbiased, legal and monitored guardian appointed by the courts should take over medical decision responsibilities. This could include a panel of professionals or an individual with no personal involvement with alternate vested interests.

This change is imperative to ensure that those who cannot make decisions for themselves are in the hands of those ethically and legally equipped to do so. It’s time we prioritize the safety and well-being of our vulnerable loved ones over outdated procedural norms.

Please join me in calling for a change in these laws to protect our loved ones facing difficult times. Sign this petition to advocate for those who cannot speak up for themselves. I have a second meeting with state representatives in NJ on November 10th and would love to show them all of the people who would support this important change. Thank you for reading.