I Am My Daughter's Voice
I Am My Daughter's Voice
Allow me to begin by saying that my only goal has always been what's best for my daughter's mental, physical & emotional well-being. All of which have not been seriously taken into consideration by anyone else. I love my little girl more than anything in this whole wide world. My daughter will be 9 years old in May of 2020. Where the courts placed my daughter, with her Paternal Grandmother and Paternal Step Grandfather, along with her drug addicted Father; whom is in & out of jail; is far from a safe, loving & fit environment. I don't understand myself how her Father is allowed a driver's license because he sees a neurologist for seizures. What happens if he has a seizure with our daughter in the car? I, myself am a recovering addict with 9 and a half months sober & clean. I was only granted supervised visits with my daughter, at her Paternal Grandmother’s request & house.
I have defeated & overcome all of the odds that have been placed against me so far. I was in a very abusive relationship that I was able to escape from after six years & even during that time; the welfare of my child always came first & foremost. I have a job, I now own my own home as well as my own car. I was even able to buy my Mother a car. I have been in counseling for my drug addiction. I have been in several groups for my addiction & to help with my self esteem issues from the trauma I endured in my past & past relationship.
I have been bullied around by the court system; when it comes to my little girl; not only by the courts but also by my daughter's Paternal Grandmother, her Paternal Step Grandfather & my child’s Father. Needless to say, I've had enough. I’m finally standing up for myself.
I’m fighting for my daughter as well. If I don’t then who will? I've even witnessed those three people, bully my daughter & call her horrible names. I've overcome so many obstacles & I’m still looked down upon. I’m treated as less than. All while my daughter's Father has been in & out of jail & is living with our daughter with his mother, the Paternal Grandmother. She has sole custody of our daughter.
I’m done being bullied & being made to allow my daughter to be bullied as well. It’s clear that her Father's side of the family have some kind of pull; in the town I live in with the court system. I’ve worked so hard in my recovery and still feel like a failure. It’s so unfair to my daughter & myself. My little girl is hurting so much due to all of this. Her Father gets to live with her & is able to fail drug tests as well as being arrested at least twice within the last month or so. How is this even possible?
I want to petition the courts & have him, (My daughter's Father) removed from the home; if my daughter is forced to continuously live there. I also want to petition the courts to regain full custody of my little girl. There is nothing more to this story than power, money, & control. I don’t have those three things so I’m only left with supervised visits until the courts say otherwise. I get that. I truly do. But why does the father who is actively using, get to physically live with our minor child? I have remained as strong as I can through all of this. I went from having nothing to having everything I could possibly need. The only thing missing is my daughter. In the meantime, while I work on custody, I just want her safe.
I will remain in my sobriety & will work on my recovery. I haven’t had one relapse through all of this. I have been bullied so much and a person can only take so much. But using is not the answer.
My daughter needs me to be her voice. I will always be her voice... always. Please. I’m asking you to help me petition the courts to have her Father removed from the home until he has at least one year clean and sober &/or to bring my little girl home to me. Do this for my daughter. What if it was your child?