A helpless mother wants to reunite with her children
A helpless mother wants to reunite with her children
I’m Aysha Montasir, 35 years old. I’m an Bangladeshi very helpless woman. There has been a big tragedy with me. It was a very devastating incident for me. I don’t know, from where I can get the help in the world for that. therefore, I decided to write my situation on change.org. Hope to gets some help and support.
On the 2003 in Bangladesh, I had been married with a Bangladeshi Greek foreigner. As my husband went to Bangladesh to get married. so the same year I had moved into the Greece with my husband. after then, we started to living a couple life. I have given the birth of four children. my four children had born by surgery. I love my children more then anything else in the world. although I wasn’t happy with my husband. because my husband is a gambler and alcoholic. so there was always a conflict of between us. Sometimes he beaten me after become drunk. my husband even stopped to go to work regularly for his bad habits. Eventually he was become a useless person. As he got no job. our family was in a big money crisis. I have worked part time as a babysitter, but unfortunately that wasn’t enough money income for my family. So we were struggling for the money. suddenly my husband’s and my Greek visa was gone expired, we needed to renew our visa. but very unfortunately, there was also needed a lots of money, what we could not arranged, to renew our Greek visas. so did not renew our visas. meantime, the Greek financial system was collapsed. on 2017 my husband planed to move to the Germany from the Greece for the children’s better future. so I also agreed with my husband to move to the Germany. so on the June 2017 our whole family went into the Germany.
after we arrived in the Germany, my husband applied for Asylum seekers in the Germany. He lied to the German immigration officers. He told that, we are refugees, we don’t have anywhere to go. we fled from the Bangladesh with the children. Our lives is in danger. We need Shelter in the Germany. Then we have been given a house in a village of Langendorf, in Germany. also the German government started to giving us the money for the living cost of our family. each month they have given us about €1400 euros, as the living cost of our family. as i mentioned before, my husband is a gambler and alcoholic. He always needs the money. after getting that money, he was getting more greedy. he wanted to keep the full amount of €1400 euros at him. so he can spend the money or can gambling with the money. but I did not allowed that. We has four children, so I said to him, we needs to spit the money between of us. every month he can keep €700 and the rest of €700 euros i’ll keep that. but my husband wasn’t happy with that, he wanted to keep the full €1400 euros each month. So every night my husband when he become drunk, he brawled with me about the money. he also has beaten me about that. But I tolerated his torture my whole life. on the 1st of January 2018 at the night, I was got very angry with my husband, I left house without my children. then i stayed one night in the hotel. In the next day, I went to my house, after seeing my presence in the house, my husband instantly called the police. I felt something different in my house. Then I noticed, my elder son doesn’t wants to talk to me. Finally the police arrived in our house, my husband started to complain about me to the police that, I’m a prostitute, I keep relation with many man. Also he said to police that, I have watched the porn movies with my elder son. All are the allegations against me is completely false. It was my husband’s conspiracy. But the police officer has not seemed to be understood the situation. So they suspected me, and the police told me that, I have to stay outside of my house, they cannot let me to stay in the house with my husband. Because there is big conflict between of us. So the police will investigate the report. So they took me to a another house under Zülpich town council in Germany.
After few days I got a letter from the court, it was for court hearing date about my children custody. My husband is a well educated person and can speak good English. I’m a very law educated woman. I ain’t speak English or German. So it was very tough situation for me to hire an Lawyer for the court hearing. Because I don’t know anybody in Germany except my family. My main weakness was i won’t make any conversation in German or English. But somehow I managed to hire an Lawyer, then I attended to court hearing date with my Lawyer. On the court hearing date my four children were present in the court. ( Son- Moein Rahman, born 20.11.2004, Son- Elahi Rahman born 18.09.2006, Daughter- Tihsi Kolsom, born 07.12.2010, Daughter- Karima Kolsom, born 24.09.2012. )
My husband is a evil human being, all he wants to keep the money of the children. he manipulated my both Son’s mind. So on the court date my both sons has reluctant to stay with me. Also they made some horrible complaints about me. Particularly my elder son told to the honourable Judge that, I have watched porn film with him. I’m a characterless mother. I have teaching them shoplifting. Those all things said my son against me, it’s only because of his father. His father convinced him to made all those false statement about me. But my both little daughters has been given the statement in the court in my favour, they said in the court that, they wants to stay with their mother. They are loves their mother more then anything else. They are doesn’t wants to stay with the father. But the Judge didn’t let me to take my daughters with me because of my elder Son’s statements. So the judge asked for some more time to investigate the actual situation. The Judge did not understand who is telling the truth the boy or his mother? the Judge has arranged temporary meeting with my daughters in each week.
Meanwhile my husband had put very pressure on my daughters. Why they have said in the court that, they wants to stay with me. He even beaten the girls. My girls are very little so they are very scared, they did not said anything about it to anyone. After then, They also started to listening to their father commands like their brothers. each week my daughters refused to meet with me. Because their father will get angry at them if they come to visit me. So my daughters started to continuously refusing to see me. my husband completely succeeded to manipulated my four children mind. Whenever the children’s carer went to the village to bring my daughters to see me, my daughters refused to visit me. Then my husband took my children to German immigration office to make false compliments about me. He said I always annoying him and the children. He also said that I’ll hurt my children. If they don’t send me back to Bangladesh. My husband also has received special help from a Red Cross Officer in Germany. My husband and my elder son requested to German immigration agency to deport me to Bangladesh. I’m a big burden and problem for them. Meantime I cannot speak English or German, so I couldn’t protest anything properly. I even didn’t find any person to help me in this situation. Honestly I didn’t find a person to represent me. It was a very hard situation for me. Even the German authority did not provided me any Bangali interpreter to explain my issues. I had a lots of about my husband’s conspiracy about me. But I did not get any interpreter to make my conversation with the police and others. I lived about 20 months in Germany separately without my children. Always was hoping that, At least I’ll get my daughters custody. Even any social worker or support worker hasn’t meet with me in the Germany. I did not received any appropriate help from the German government. Each time my husband made the complains about me and succeed to made me guilty. It’s seemed like the German authorities, the Court and Police had believed in my husband complains.
On 03.09.2019, at the midnight the German immigration officer has arrested me, and deported me to the Bangladesh instantly in the same day. I begged them for have some Marcy, I told them that, I have four little children in the Germany. I begged them to don’t send me to the Bangladesh without my children. I asked them to see my children for a last time. As they were going to deport me to the Bangladesh, but the heatless police Officers, They forced me get into the plane. They did not listen my a single word. Even the cruel German police unconscious me to get into the plane. The treatment I got from the German police officers, it was totally unacceptable, inhuman, and horrible. I was very terrified about that. How could they have sent me to Bangladesh without giving my children with me? When the family court procedure was still ongoing. Now I’m in Bangladesh, I’m feeling like, I’ll never see my children anymore. The German government did the very wrong with me, how could they separated me from my children lives. My both daughters are still minor. I don’t know, where I should go? Or what can I do to get my children back. I don’t know, if I can see them again? I did not get my Human Rights in the Germany. They kicked me out from the country without giving my children. I’m the mother of those four children, Who has given the power to the German authorities to isolate me from my children?
I have tolerated the torture of husband in my whole life, just because of my children. I don’t wanted to keep my children away from their father. Now I cannot live like that. Without my kids. Now I’m in Bangladesh, today or tomorrow I’ll kill myself. Because of my children. I have four little children but unfortunately nobody is living with me. Therefore I believe, I’ll get help from here. Please brothers and sisters sign this petition to help me to reunited with my little children. I desperately need your help and support.