In this time where discussions about domestic abuse often revolve around female victims, we often overlook a significant reality: violence against men. Despite prevalent stereotypes, men can also be victims of domestic abuse, facing various forms of mistreatment from their partners or other people. However, societal norms often downplay their experiences, leading to silence and stigma. According to the 2017 National Demographic and Health Survey by the Philippine Statistics Authority (PSA) “incidence of male abuse is on the rise, affecting 12-15 out of every 100 couples in the country.” This highlights a troubling trend of increasing abuse affecting numerous couples. Yet, many male victims hesitate to speak out due to fear of judgment.

Stereotypes play a significant role in perpetuating this silence. The belief that men are inherently stronger or immune to abuse contributes to harmful gender norms, undermining the experiences of male survivors. While physical violence often takes center stage, it's important to acknowledge that abuse can manifest in other ways, such as emotional manipulation and financial control. By recognizing the full spectrum of abuse, we can better support survivors and address the complexities of abusive relationships.

Despite the prevalence of violence against men, The Philippine Daily Inquirer stated that legislative efforts to address this issue remain lacking. Advocating for laws that acknowledge the gender-neutral nature of abuse and ensure equal protection for all individuals, regardless of gender, is essential.

"Domestic Violence Against Men," by Lyle Therese A. Hilotin-Lee, J.D., an article from FindLaws stated that underreporting is usual and there were situations where the agencies meant to help victims of domestic abuse treat male victims with indifference. However, through social media, awareness of domestic violence against men has grown. With this, raising awareness and advocating for an improved environment for the male victims, we can make a safe space for men to speak up for themselves.

Now is the time to take action and break the stigma of violence against men. Violence against men are violent acts that are exclusively committed to men or boys where men are over-represented as both victims and perpetrators of violence. Republic Act 9262 tackles who would be protected by the law and the said word, male pronouns “his” can also be found in several parts of proposed law which includes their protection of any physical or sexual violence. Giving men the same right to speak up and protect themselves under the law should be provisioned by the authorities to be able to break gender stereotypes.

At its core, this advocacy aligns with the principle of gender equality. Just as women deserve safety and freedom, so do men. By challenging stereotypes, amplifying the voices of male survivors, and advocating for change, we can create a culture of empathy, support, and equality. 

Watch the story of Carlo, a 29 years old husband who was married for 3 years to his abusive wife, who stabs him with a pen, even worse a knife.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mlzq3VkT0Dw&ab_channel=GMAIntegratedNews

Watch the experience of different male children who experienced sexual abuse in the Philippines. It was also stated that according to the national baseline study on violence against children in the Philippines, the number of men who experience abuse is higher compared to women.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KBTEIzXCTnk

Join us in breaking the silence and standing in solidarity against all forms of violence.