BUILDING BRIDGES + SHATTERING SILENCE: Petition For Change Against Protection Order Abuse
BUILDING BRIDGES + SHATTERING SILENCE: Petition For Change Against Protection Order Abuse
The Issue
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BUILDING BRIDGES, SHATTERING SILENCE:
A Petition for Policy Changes in Intimate Partner Violence Rights Against Protection Order Exploitation and Paper Abuse
I am reaching out for support and resolution in my legal matter in Jackson County. I am writing and hoping for an opportunity to look at Missouri’s policy regarding the rights of wrongfully granted protection orders and the consequences for abusive Respondents. The alarming efficiency and need for repercussions and policy change to “balance the scales” is critical to victims of domestic violence survivors.
I met my abuser in March of 2021 on a dating app. What started as a fling turned into what feels like a life sentence and has forever changed me.
September 9, 2021, will forever be marked as the day I lost my voice. In an effort to break free from my abuser, Christopher Buske, I instead was punished with over 12 fraudulent protection orders and violations, creating a lifelong collection of blemishes on my record that will last a lifetime due to his relentless crusade to terrorize me. I am one of many who have inherited a life sentence indebted to this abusive man.
Since October 2022, this individual has filed over 12 protective orders and violations against me. He is ProSe in every single suit against me.
From October 2022, he has filed over 70+ false police reports on me, including one alleging burglary. As a licensed realtor, this is detrimental to my profession and reputation and has caused extreme damage to my career.
In the last 5 years, he has filed 10 protection orders on his ex-girlfriend and her husband.
In 6 years, he has filed 43 lawsuits in Jackson County Circuit Court.
I believe no issue has presented a greater challenge to Family Court than the epidemic of domestic violence, particularly narcissistic and paper abuse, and an increasing rise in intimate partner violence. Victims of intimate partner violence lose a total of 8.0 million days of paid work each year. The cost of intimate partner violence exceeds $8.3 billion per year.
Between 21-60% of victims of intimate partner violence lose their jobs due to reasons stemming from the abuse. I personally lost my career, lost my savings and stocks, became homeless, and have accumulated over $123,000 in legal fees due to intimate partner violence by the actions of a vindictive ProSe Plaintiff, Christopher Buske.
On October 28, 2022, Mr. Buske made false statements, with no evidence presented, to be granted an Ex-Parte from Jackson County from the Honorable Judge Busher in an effort to keep me out of my home after he locked me out of my completely furnished home.
Mr. Buske claimed Ms. Jessup was a squatter.
Mr. Buske claimed Ms. Jessup assaulted him on July 5, 2022.
Mr. Buske claimed Ms. Jessup stalks him daily, both personally and online.
Mr. Buske claimed Ms. Jessup harasses him daily.
Mr. Buske claimed Ms. Jessup called his clients daily and made false statements about him.
Mr. Buske claimed Ms. Jessup texts him daily.
Mr. Buske claimed Ms. Jessup was suicidal.
Mr. Buske claimed Ms. Jessup threatened his life and family.
Mr. Buske claimed Ms. Jessup assaulted him on September 17, 2022.
The Honorable Judge Busher denied the Ex-Parte order. On October 31, 2022, Mr. Buske called the Jackson County Courthouse and altered his claim to get the Ex-Parte. Mr. Buske called the court, stating I conveniently showed up on the evening of October 29, 2022. Since Mr. Buske was in fear for his life, he didn't file or report these incidents until three days later. Mr. Buske also added to the Ex-Parte claim additional events that allegedly occurred in July 2022 and September 2022 and assault incidents he forgot to mention on the original night of 10/28/2022. He stated to the court that he forgot to mention it on the original 10-28 petition. The Honorable Judge Busher granted the Ex-Parte.
On the day of trial, December 13, 2022, Mr. Buske asserted that he again had no evidence and admitted lying to obtain the ex-parte. Judge Busher dismissed the case.
After a heated phone call on July 17th, 2023, about our ongoing civil case, Mr. Buske filed for an Ex-Parte on July 19th, 2022, three days later, claiming the ONE phone call was “Harassment.” On July 19th, 2023, I was given a Protection Order from Honorable Judge Zhang in The Jackson County Circuit Court. Using the exact same allegations and dates from a year prior with Judge Busher and adding I was at his home trying to burn down his house, he was granted the Ex-Parte. The trial was set for October 11, 2022. Between the dates of July 19th, 2023, and October 11, 2023, he filed 12 police reports in different jurisdictions and cities with false allegations and duplicated the same allegations.
On October 11, 2023, the day of trial, Mr. Buske admitted under oath to the court that he lied to obtain the Ex-Parte order.
a. Under oath, Mr. Buske admitted Ms. Jessup was never at his home that night nor threatened to burn it down.
b. Under oath, Mr. Buske admitted Ms. Jessup never threatened his life.
c. Under oath, Mr. Buske admitted she had never physically assaulted him.
d. Under oath, Mr. Buske admitted Ms. Jessup never made death threats to his family or harmed them.
As a last hail mary, he submitted a false report to Judge Zhang alleging I violated the Ex-Parte. The court never presented the report to me to review and confirm its validity.
Mr. Buske played a false audio recording that was not only edited and spliced but was a clip of the original call. On the night of that call, he threatened my life, and I asked not to be recorded. I stated to the court that was not the complete call, and it was recorded illegally under State statutes as I was a resident of Nevada, an all-party state.
IF THE LAW IS "BEYOND A REASONABLE DOUBT," HOW CAN I HAVE A PROTECTION ORDER WHEN MY ABUSER ADMITTED UNDER OATH IT WAS A LIE?
HOW CAN I BE GIVEN A PROTECTION ORDER UNDER THE ADMISSION OF A FALSE STATEMENT OF THE PETITIONER?
HOW CAN I BE GIVEN AN ORDER OF PROTECTION BASED ON A FALSE AND FRAUDULENT EX-PARTE AND A FALSE VIOLATION OF THE ORDER?
HOW CAN A DUPLICATED VIOLATION HE HAS PREVIOUSLY FILED IN 3 DIFFERENT JURISDICTIONS 30 DAYS PRIOR??
Why would a court ever award any order or award based on the admission to the court the PETITIONER LIED?
The court's approval of this order ruined my life. The power that Judge Zhang gave Chris Buske is inexcusable and will forever follow me. For the next six months, this man's actions became more extreme and destructive to me, my livelihood, my mental health, my family’s financial status, and my career.
Intimate partner violence affects not only the victims themselves but also family and friends. My parents have relocated, closed and changed bank accounts, and drained their 401K accounts. At the very worst, my mother returned to work after being retired for 10 years. In just this past year, my parents took out a second mortgage on their home to pay for attorney fees due to the impact of Christopher Buske and his relentless retaliation of lawsuits against me. The reality is, there are no neutral people regulating the behavior of judges and attorneys; it’s basically the Wild West in our courtroom, and he knows that thus he can say and do whatever he wants, and there’s zero accountability and no ramifications for abusers.
No one is born an abuser. This is a learned behavior. The courts only enable the abusers to continue their abusive behaviors. Paper Abuse is harassment and stalking and becoming a larger challenge that needs attention.
Judges can help stop abusive litigation with a specific court order restricting Abusive Litigation. The order can prohibit Abusive Litigants from filing new lawsuits without court authorization and limit the number of court filings, especially ProSe litigants.
Sadly, Missouri is the third highest-ranked state of people who have experienced a form of domestic abuse, according to the World Population Review. A national domestic violence organization found that 41.8% of Missouri women (and 35.2% of Missouri men) experience intimate partner physical violence, intimate partner sexual violence, and/or intimate partner stalking in their lifetimes. The report also found that in 2022, a domestic violence incident was reported every 23 minutes and 39 seconds.
In 2022, the report found there were a total of 26,435 domestic violence incidents reported in the state, not including incidents reported to the Kansas City, Kan., Police Department. There were a total of 8,592 restraining orders filed due to abuse and 5,883 restraining orders filed due to stalking, with 707 incidents of stalking.
With Missouri being the third highest rank state, we are at a crisis point in Kansas City, making Domestic Violence the highest in over 20 years, far outpacing any years on record.
We need state legislative action on several previously discussed items to address our problem.
Intimate partner violence (IPV) is a risk factor for suicide, and studies have found that IPV may be a contributing factor in 4.5–6.1% of suicides: 49.7% of people who attempted suicide in the past year had experienced IPV at some point, and 23.1% had experienced it in the past year.
Intimate partner problems were identified in 26% of all suicide cases where circumstances were known, and IPV was identified in 43% of those cases. In 30% of cases where IPV was determined, there was an argument or fight that was immediately followed by suicide.
Survivors of intimate partner violence are twice as likely to attempt suicide multiple times, he points out, and cases of murder-suicide are most likely to occur in the context of abuse.
Last year, a week before my birthday, I was left at a point where the only way I would be free of him was if I was 6 feet under. I had attempted to end my life on my birthday in an effort to erase my life in existence if I had expired on the day I was born. I truly felt if I’m dead, he can't find me or sue me anymore. Because he told me even bankrupting me wouldn’t stop him. He wants me in jail for running my mouth about him.
Simply put, why would someone want to sue someone who has nothing left? ....To destroy me off this off this planet.
Feeling hopeless and the only way out to escape his abuse, I attempted suicide three times in 2 years. Two of those attempts by myself, failing twice before, I sold my storage unit and belongings and found a hitman I found on the dark web. Every day for 30 days, I would wonder when my last day would be, the last day I would finally be free of his torment. I didn’t want to live in a world anymore where he could find me and know i had no one to report him to or help me.
Before I met my abuser, I never had a record, not even a seat belt violation. I had a thriving career. Now, because of his continuous harassment, I have tried to move out of state; I have changed my name and changed my phone number. I have deleted and created new social media accounts; once he finds out I want to move, he files a motion to restrain, and the court keeps granting, forcing me to remain here against my will. It’s incredibly triggering to see him in court month after month.
My daily morning routine begins by waking up in a panic and crying. Taking my first of four Adderall of the day, as due to my extreme exhaustion, my efficiency is completely depleted, combined with sleeping 2 hours a day. Around 8 am, I begin my rounds, and (now on a first-name basis) I call the police stations and court clerks in different municipalities to see if there are new police reports filed. Then, by 10 am, I start researching case law and statutes to work on any motions or legal brief filings since I try my best to do the best I can ProSe, as I was forced to have my attorney withdraw due to being financially drained by Mr. Buske.
He never stops harassing me—the courts are his legal playgrounds. He uses the courts to inflict suffering. He constantly, and I do mean continually, has me in court. His non-retained lawyer helps him to wear me out. He wants to inflict as much suffering as he can on me, and the court itself enables him to.
In an effort to constantly have a running log, I have started sharing my location 24/7 with my sister and mother as a Real-Time GPS tracker to keep a verification whereabouts for court proceedings as an alibi. I have sacrificed privacy by giving myself a personal Air Tag.
On May 31st, 2024, in an effort to make him stop, I sent a Cease and Desist to Mr. Buske after his 24 attempts over the last year threatening my family, friends, and even my attorney during HIS active Protection Order. He was even bold enough to contact a mutual client in an effort to obtain my medical records and alleged I was a child molester.
On June 6th, 2024, at our Protection Order hearing, Mr. Buske stated and reported to the court and Judge Sarah Castle (filling in for Zhang) that I violated the order by sending the Cease and Desist. Judge Castle ordered that the Cease and Desist be contacted, and I am not allowed to contact Buske or his family or speak on social media.
Again, the court shamed me for speaking out, and my abuser can make heinous allegations, obtain my medical records, and make multiple threats to my family, friends, and clients.
WHY IS MY “NO” NOT ENOUGH? The cease and desist I sent is asking him to stop all reckless and malicious actions towards me and defaming statements. I am speaking about this on social media because no one is listening to me, and the level of manipulation this man is doing is 7 years deep, not just with protection orders but the millions of dollars he's stealing from Jackson County and other victims with his other lawsuits. Judge Castle telling a victim not to say anything on social media is another example of trying to silence a victim.
WHEN IS ENOUGH ENOUGH??
I am asking state officials to implement a policy change similar to those other states have for Protection Orders for Mutual Contact Orders, giving rights to both parties to further prevent abuse from the Petitioner abusing their own order.
As if I haven't sacrificed enough, 3 days ago, on Thursday evening, June 6th, 2024, I was raped by two men in Westport. After repeated attempts from the police advocating for me to make a report, I refused out of fear. As scared and helpless as I felt, I still was worried If I made a report, they would run my name through the system and see all the reports and history my abuser has done and not believe me.
These three years have left me completely empty and worthless. I have collected so many badges of trauma that I have become completely dissociated from life. I haven't even begun to start to process any of the events because I just keep collecting more events of trauma.
I feel as if my life is not important. I have no control over my life or body. I feel as if my body is a buffet. Everyone can use and abuse me.
I speak up and say no more and leave my abuser; I'm punished in court and reported to authorities with false crimes...
I ask for protection and for authorities to make him stop threatening my family and clients. I am told he can talk to anyone, but I can't talk to him...
He can ask for my medical records and allege I am a child molester, but I cannot report it because it's his order. No mine. He isn't in violation...
I try to report his behavior to authorities and the court; I'm punished at the hearing for contacting my abuser...
I legally attempt to say stop with a Cease and Desist; I am not allowed to speak to him...
I speak out on Social Media to get help, I am ordered not to speak about the abuse or case on social media....
I'M TIRED OF BEING SHAMED FOR ASKING TO STOP BEING ABUSED. IM TIRED OF BEING SILENCED BECAUSE I AM SAYING NO. WHY IS MY NO NOT ENOUGH? STOP HURTING ME.
I would ask that our senators and representatives vote on legislation to enhance funding in Missouri and address how we can provide more tools for law enforcement and prosecutors to connect jurisdictional systems and cross-reference to prevent abusers from filing multiple and duplicate orders in different municipalities.
The proposed policy will give rights and a voice to victims of retaliatory protection orders and become a defense tool against the "DARVO monster" (deny, attack, and reverse victim and offender).
I could tell you a million abusive things he has done to me, in addition to the other victims he has left bankrupt in Kansas City, frauding the Jackson County Court System with fraudulent and frivolous lawsuits, but the issue is the people who are enabling it.
He’s going to be an abuser at the end of the day. If not me, then somebody else, but it’s the court system and Jackson County judges, the key players, that are enabling these abusers and enabling this to keep going on.
In addition to expanding city government record data systems to cross-reference counties to eliminate abusers from order shopping, make better use of taxpayers' dollars and police officers, and most importantly, remove the loophole abusers use to manipulate the court system by going to different municipalities and filing duplicate charges or previously dismissed charges.
Given our challenges, I respectfully request that you join my efforts and help my voice reach a larger platform and audience and help me call attention to any support in petitioning change for Missouri's law regarding petitioners' rights to violating a protection order and request that you call a Special Session of the Missouri General Assembly with a focus on addressing domestic violence and paper abuse tactics for intimate partner violence in our cities.
I am committed to employing a comprehensive range of social services and strategies to combat domestic violence, both presently and in the years to come. However, I believe that targeted intervention from Jefferson City is vital to curb abusers' exploitation of the legal system, misuse of resources, and manipulation of judicial proceedings in Kansas City. Such measures would empower more victims to come forward, secure in the knowledge that legislative safeguards exist to shield them from harm within our communities, where fear often silences their voices.
I don't consider myself a "victim." I am an example. Like others, I will persevere through these challenges, but our voices, our law enforcement community, and all Missouri residents need to change quickly.
PLEASE HELP ME RAISE MY VOICE THAT A WOMAN'S "NO IS ENOUGH"
Even if you don't know me, please sign this petition showing your support and helping me raise awareness and being a voice to creating change in our policies against Domestic Violence and giving rights to victims of Intimate Partner Abuse.
Sincerely,
Alice Kensington (previously Erin Jessup)
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The Issue
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BUILDING BRIDGES, SHATTERING SILENCE:
A Petition for Policy Changes in Intimate Partner Violence Rights Against Protection Order Exploitation and Paper Abuse
I am reaching out for support and resolution in my legal matter in Jackson County. I am writing and hoping for an opportunity to look at Missouri’s policy regarding the rights of wrongfully granted protection orders and the consequences for abusive Respondents. The alarming efficiency and need for repercussions and policy change to “balance the scales” is critical to victims of domestic violence survivors.
I met my abuser in March of 2021 on a dating app. What started as a fling turned into what feels like a life sentence and has forever changed me.
September 9, 2021, will forever be marked as the day I lost my voice. In an effort to break free from my abuser, Christopher Buske, I instead was punished with over 12 fraudulent protection orders and violations, creating a lifelong collection of blemishes on my record that will last a lifetime due to his relentless crusade to terrorize me. I am one of many who have inherited a life sentence indebted to this abusive man.
Since October 2022, this individual has filed over 12 protective orders and violations against me. He is ProSe in every single suit against me.
From October 2022, he has filed over 70+ false police reports on me, including one alleging burglary. As a licensed realtor, this is detrimental to my profession and reputation and has caused extreme damage to my career.
In the last 5 years, he has filed 10 protection orders on his ex-girlfriend and her husband.
In 6 years, he has filed 43 lawsuits in Jackson County Circuit Court.
I believe no issue has presented a greater challenge to Family Court than the epidemic of domestic violence, particularly narcissistic and paper abuse, and an increasing rise in intimate partner violence. Victims of intimate partner violence lose a total of 8.0 million days of paid work each year. The cost of intimate partner violence exceeds $8.3 billion per year.
Between 21-60% of victims of intimate partner violence lose their jobs due to reasons stemming from the abuse. I personally lost my career, lost my savings and stocks, became homeless, and have accumulated over $123,000 in legal fees due to intimate partner violence by the actions of a vindictive ProSe Plaintiff, Christopher Buske.
On October 28, 2022, Mr. Buske made false statements, with no evidence presented, to be granted an Ex-Parte from Jackson County from the Honorable Judge Busher in an effort to keep me out of my home after he locked me out of my completely furnished home.
Mr. Buske claimed Ms. Jessup was a squatter.
Mr. Buske claimed Ms. Jessup assaulted him on July 5, 2022.
Mr. Buske claimed Ms. Jessup stalks him daily, both personally and online.
Mr. Buske claimed Ms. Jessup harasses him daily.
Mr. Buske claimed Ms. Jessup called his clients daily and made false statements about him.
Mr. Buske claimed Ms. Jessup texts him daily.
Mr. Buske claimed Ms. Jessup was suicidal.
Mr. Buske claimed Ms. Jessup threatened his life and family.
Mr. Buske claimed Ms. Jessup assaulted him on September 17, 2022.
The Honorable Judge Busher denied the Ex-Parte order. On October 31, 2022, Mr. Buske called the Jackson County Courthouse and altered his claim to get the Ex-Parte. Mr. Buske called the court, stating I conveniently showed up on the evening of October 29, 2022. Since Mr. Buske was in fear for his life, he didn't file or report these incidents until three days later. Mr. Buske also added to the Ex-Parte claim additional events that allegedly occurred in July 2022 and September 2022 and assault incidents he forgot to mention on the original night of 10/28/2022. He stated to the court that he forgot to mention it on the original 10-28 petition. The Honorable Judge Busher granted the Ex-Parte.
On the day of trial, December 13, 2022, Mr. Buske asserted that he again had no evidence and admitted lying to obtain the ex-parte. Judge Busher dismissed the case.
After a heated phone call on July 17th, 2023, about our ongoing civil case, Mr. Buske filed for an Ex-Parte on July 19th, 2022, three days later, claiming the ONE phone call was “Harassment.” On July 19th, 2023, I was given a Protection Order from Honorable Judge Zhang in The Jackson County Circuit Court. Using the exact same allegations and dates from a year prior with Judge Busher and adding I was at his home trying to burn down his house, he was granted the Ex-Parte. The trial was set for October 11, 2022. Between the dates of July 19th, 2023, and October 11, 2023, he filed 12 police reports in different jurisdictions and cities with false allegations and duplicated the same allegations.
On October 11, 2023, the day of trial, Mr. Buske admitted under oath to the court that he lied to obtain the Ex-Parte order.
a. Under oath, Mr. Buske admitted Ms. Jessup was never at his home that night nor threatened to burn it down.
b. Under oath, Mr. Buske admitted Ms. Jessup never threatened his life.
c. Under oath, Mr. Buske admitted she had never physically assaulted him.
d. Under oath, Mr. Buske admitted Ms. Jessup never made death threats to his family or harmed them.
As a last hail mary, he submitted a false report to Judge Zhang alleging I violated the Ex-Parte. The court never presented the report to me to review and confirm its validity.
Mr. Buske played a false audio recording that was not only edited and spliced but was a clip of the original call. On the night of that call, he threatened my life, and I asked not to be recorded. I stated to the court that was not the complete call, and it was recorded illegally under State statutes as I was a resident of Nevada, an all-party state.
IF THE LAW IS "BEYOND A REASONABLE DOUBT," HOW CAN I HAVE A PROTECTION ORDER WHEN MY ABUSER ADMITTED UNDER OATH IT WAS A LIE?
HOW CAN I BE GIVEN A PROTECTION ORDER UNDER THE ADMISSION OF A FALSE STATEMENT OF THE PETITIONER?
HOW CAN I BE GIVEN AN ORDER OF PROTECTION BASED ON A FALSE AND FRAUDULENT EX-PARTE AND A FALSE VIOLATION OF THE ORDER?
HOW CAN A DUPLICATED VIOLATION HE HAS PREVIOUSLY FILED IN 3 DIFFERENT JURISDICTIONS 30 DAYS PRIOR??
Why would a court ever award any order or award based on the admission to the court the PETITIONER LIED?
The court's approval of this order ruined my life. The power that Judge Zhang gave Chris Buske is inexcusable and will forever follow me. For the next six months, this man's actions became more extreme and destructive to me, my livelihood, my mental health, my family’s financial status, and my career.
Intimate partner violence affects not only the victims themselves but also family and friends. My parents have relocated, closed and changed bank accounts, and drained their 401K accounts. At the very worst, my mother returned to work after being retired for 10 years. In just this past year, my parents took out a second mortgage on their home to pay for attorney fees due to the impact of Christopher Buske and his relentless retaliation of lawsuits against me. The reality is, there are no neutral people regulating the behavior of judges and attorneys; it’s basically the Wild West in our courtroom, and he knows that thus he can say and do whatever he wants, and there’s zero accountability and no ramifications for abusers.
No one is born an abuser. This is a learned behavior. The courts only enable the abusers to continue their abusive behaviors. Paper Abuse is harassment and stalking and becoming a larger challenge that needs attention.
Judges can help stop abusive litigation with a specific court order restricting Abusive Litigation. The order can prohibit Abusive Litigants from filing new lawsuits without court authorization and limit the number of court filings, especially ProSe litigants.
Sadly, Missouri is the third highest-ranked state of people who have experienced a form of domestic abuse, according to the World Population Review. A national domestic violence organization found that 41.8% of Missouri women (and 35.2% of Missouri men) experience intimate partner physical violence, intimate partner sexual violence, and/or intimate partner stalking in their lifetimes. The report also found that in 2022, a domestic violence incident was reported every 23 minutes and 39 seconds.
In 2022, the report found there were a total of 26,435 domestic violence incidents reported in the state, not including incidents reported to the Kansas City, Kan., Police Department. There were a total of 8,592 restraining orders filed due to abuse and 5,883 restraining orders filed due to stalking, with 707 incidents of stalking.
With Missouri being the third highest rank state, we are at a crisis point in Kansas City, making Domestic Violence the highest in over 20 years, far outpacing any years on record.
We need state legislative action on several previously discussed items to address our problem.
Intimate partner violence (IPV) is a risk factor for suicide, and studies have found that IPV may be a contributing factor in 4.5–6.1% of suicides: 49.7% of people who attempted suicide in the past year had experienced IPV at some point, and 23.1% had experienced it in the past year.
Intimate partner problems were identified in 26% of all suicide cases where circumstances were known, and IPV was identified in 43% of those cases. In 30% of cases where IPV was determined, there was an argument or fight that was immediately followed by suicide.
Survivors of intimate partner violence are twice as likely to attempt suicide multiple times, he points out, and cases of murder-suicide are most likely to occur in the context of abuse.
Last year, a week before my birthday, I was left at a point where the only way I would be free of him was if I was 6 feet under. I had attempted to end my life on my birthday in an effort to erase my life in existence if I had expired on the day I was born. I truly felt if I’m dead, he can't find me or sue me anymore. Because he told me even bankrupting me wouldn’t stop him. He wants me in jail for running my mouth about him.
Simply put, why would someone want to sue someone who has nothing left? ....To destroy me off this off this planet.
Feeling hopeless and the only way out to escape his abuse, I attempted suicide three times in 2 years. Two of those attempts by myself, failing twice before, I sold my storage unit and belongings and found a hitman I found on the dark web. Every day for 30 days, I would wonder when my last day would be, the last day I would finally be free of his torment. I didn’t want to live in a world anymore where he could find me and know i had no one to report him to or help me.
Before I met my abuser, I never had a record, not even a seat belt violation. I had a thriving career. Now, because of his continuous harassment, I have tried to move out of state; I have changed my name and changed my phone number. I have deleted and created new social media accounts; once he finds out I want to move, he files a motion to restrain, and the court keeps granting, forcing me to remain here against my will. It’s incredibly triggering to see him in court month after month.
My daily morning routine begins by waking up in a panic and crying. Taking my first of four Adderall of the day, as due to my extreme exhaustion, my efficiency is completely depleted, combined with sleeping 2 hours a day. Around 8 am, I begin my rounds, and (now on a first-name basis) I call the police stations and court clerks in different municipalities to see if there are new police reports filed. Then, by 10 am, I start researching case law and statutes to work on any motions or legal brief filings since I try my best to do the best I can ProSe, as I was forced to have my attorney withdraw due to being financially drained by Mr. Buske.
He never stops harassing me—the courts are his legal playgrounds. He uses the courts to inflict suffering. He constantly, and I do mean continually, has me in court. His non-retained lawyer helps him to wear me out. He wants to inflict as much suffering as he can on me, and the court itself enables him to.
In an effort to constantly have a running log, I have started sharing my location 24/7 with my sister and mother as a Real-Time GPS tracker to keep a verification whereabouts for court proceedings as an alibi. I have sacrificed privacy by giving myself a personal Air Tag.
On May 31st, 2024, in an effort to make him stop, I sent a Cease and Desist to Mr. Buske after his 24 attempts over the last year threatening my family, friends, and even my attorney during HIS active Protection Order. He was even bold enough to contact a mutual client in an effort to obtain my medical records and alleged I was a child molester.
On June 6th, 2024, at our Protection Order hearing, Mr. Buske stated and reported to the court and Judge Sarah Castle (filling in for Zhang) that I violated the order by sending the Cease and Desist. Judge Castle ordered that the Cease and Desist be contacted, and I am not allowed to contact Buske or his family or speak on social media.
Again, the court shamed me for speaking out, and my abuser can make heinous allegations, obtain my medical records, and make multiple threats to my family, friends, and clients.
WHY IS MY “NO” NOT ENOUGH? The cease and desist I sent is asking him to stop all reckless and malicious actions towards me and defaming statements. I am speaking about this on social media because no one is listening to me, and the level of manipulation this man is doing is 7 years deep, not just with protection orders but the millions of dollars he's stealing from Jackson County and other victims with his other lawsuits. Judge Castle telling a victim not to say anything on social media is another example of trying to silence a victim.
WHEN IS ENOUGH ENOUGH??
I am asking state officials to implement a policy change similar to those other states have for Protection Orders for Mutual Contact Orders, giving rights to both parties to further prevent abuse from the Petitioner abusing their own order.
As if I haven't sacrificed enough, 3 days ago, on Thursday evening, June 6th, 2024, I was raped by two men in Westport. After repeated attempts from the police advocating for me to make a report, I refused out of fear. As scared and helpless as I felt, I still was worried If I made a report, they would run my name through the system and see all the reports and history my abuser has done and not believe me.
These three years have left me completely empty and worthless. I have collected so many badges of trauma that I have become completely dissociated from life. I haven't even begun to start to process any of the events because I just keep collecting more events of trauma.
I feel as if my life is not important. I have no control over my life or body. I feel as if my body is a buffet. Everyone can use and abuse me.
I speak up and say no more and leave my abuser; I'm punished in court and reported to authorities with false crimes...
I ask for protection and for authorities to make him stop threatening my family and clients. I am told he can talk to anyone, but I can't talk to him...
He can ask for my medical records and allege I am a child molester, but I cannot report it because it's his order. No mine. He isn't in violation...
I try to report his behavior to authorities and the court; I'm punished at the hearing for contacting my abuser...
I legally attempt to say stop with a Cease and Desist; I am not allowed to speak to him...
I speak out on Social Media to get help, I am ordered not to speak about the abuse or case on social media....
I'M TIRED OF BEING SHAMED FOR ASKING TO STOP BEING ABUSED. IM TIRED OF BEING SILENCED BECAUSE I AM SAYING NO. WHY IS MY NO NOT ENOUGH? STOP HURTING ME.
I would ask that our senators and representatives vote on legislation to enhance funding in Missouri and address how we can provide more tools for law enforcement and prosecutors to connect jurisdictional systems and cross-reference to prevent abusers from filing multiple and duplicate orders in different municipalities.
The proposed policy will give rights and a voice to victims of retaliatory protection orders and become a defense tool against the "DARVO monster" (deny, attack, and reverse victim and offender).
I could tell you a million abusive things he has done to me, in addition to the other victims he has left bankrupt in Kansas City, frauding the Jackson County Court System with fraudulent and frivolous lawsuits, but the issue is the people who are enabling it.
He’s going to be an abuser at the end of the day. If not me, then somebody else, but it’s the court system and Jackson County judges, the key players, that are enabling these abusers and enabling this to keep going on.
In addition to expanding city government record data systems to cross-reference counties to eliminate abusers from order shopping, make better use of taxpayers' dollars and police officers, and most importantly, remove the loophole abusers use to manipulate the court system by going to different municipalities and filing duplicate charges or previously dismissed charges.
Given our challenges, I respectfully request that you join my efforts and help my voice reach a larger platform and audience and help me call attention to any support in petitioning change for Missouri's law regarding petitioners' rights to violating a protection order and request that you call a Special Session of the Missouri General Assembly with a focus on addressing domestic violence and paper abuse tactics for intimate partner violence in our cities.
I am committed to employing a comprehensive range of social services and strategies to combat domestic violence, both presently and in the years to come. However, I believe that targeted intervention from Jefferson City is vital to curb abusers' exploitation of the legal system, misuse of resources, and manipulation of judicial proceedings in Kansas City. Such measures would empower more victims to come forward, secure in the knowledge that legislative safeguards exist to shield them from harm within our communities, where fear often silences their voices.
I don't consider myself a "victim." I am an example. Like others, I will persevere through these challenges, but our voices, our law enforcement community, and all Missouri residents need to change quickly.
PLEASE HELP ME RAISE MY VOICE THAT A WOMAN'S "NO IS ENOUGH"
Even if you don't know me, please sign this petition showing your support and helping me raise awareness and being a voice to creating change in our policies against Domestic Violence and giving rights to victims of Intimate Partner Abuse.
Sincerely,
Alice Kensington (previously Erin Jessup)
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Petition created on June 8, 2024