I am a mother fighting for the long-term safety of my biological child. My ex-partner and I, who were in a same-sex relationship, underwent IVF treatment and welcomed two beautiful daughters into our world. These children currently reside with each of us, as we both have our names on their respective birth certificates. However, when one parent has committed acts of abuse and violence, should they still retain the rights to apply for an arrangement order? 

Early in our custody battle, my ex-partner enacted physical harm onto me, in the presence of our children. More horrifyingly, she once burnt my eldest with a cigarette at the age of 6 and put fault onto her for trying to take a phone from her hand . Nonetheless, she continues to press for more custody of my residential child, ignoring the distress this pursuit inflicts upon my daughter who exhibits fear at the prospect of leaving her current home. 

It is important to note that England and Wales have the highest rates of violence against women in Europe, according to a 2014 survey by the European Union Agency for Fundamental Rights. Yet, astonishingly, the law currently allows perpetrators of domestic violence to apply for child arrangement orders. Such legal provisions overlook the trauma of victims and the long-term effects on the children involved.

This law must change. The rights of the birth mother, especially in a same-sex relationship, should be prioritized when the other parent has proven to harbor abusive tendencies. The wellbeing of children and the maternal rights of victims of abuse should not be compromised by systematic oversights.

Please, help us amend these child arrangement laws to better protect our children and support the victims of domestic abuse. Sign this petition to make a change; because every child deserves to grow in a safe and nurturing environment.