Susan Skalicky <skalicky.susan@gmail.com>
7:00 PM (0 minutes ago)
to Peter.Milobar.MLA
Hi Peter,
My name is Susan Skalicky, I am a birth mother of two children that I’ve placed for adoption with the same family. My circumstances have made me acutely aware of the desperate need for change to Adoption Acts, to protect the vital biological connection between birth families and adoptees. Numerous studies have shown that adoptees are not coping well for many decades, exhibiting alarming symptoms equivalent to children who have been physically or sexually abused. They are at minimum 4 times more likely to commit suicide than non-adopted children, and that alone should be enough to provoke immediate change to our adoption infrastructure. Not to mention the severe decline in their mental, emotional and psychological well-being as a result of being biologically isolated from birth. Please take some time to review my petition, as I am very passionate about this, and believe our current adoption laws are not in the best interests of the children, nor birth families and only benefit adoptive parents. This goes against human rights. It goes against the adoption act itself that regularly refers to the “best interests of the children” and yet that is not taken into account when the child is being placed, most specifically through private adoptions. Please share this as widely as possible and sign. I would appreciate any help you provide. Adoptees across the province and worldwide deserve better than an antiquated adoption law that has not grown with adoptions. Adoption reform is long overdue as adoptees are exhibiting the same symptoms of children that have been physically abused and nobody has been doing anything. The severely heightened risk of suicide is an alarming statistic on it's own that demands immediate reform, because abuse of little children should never be protected by any law, adoption or otherwise. This is not even to include the statistics on their mental health; reported that they have a much higher chance of suffering from severe depression, anxiety, trouble forming emotional attachments and much more. Why are we allowing this abuse to continue? These are truly the most abused children- their behaviors and mental health are proof of that. Broken Promises Create Broken Children, and we can certainly see that as a result of these "Open Adoptions" that very few, if any adoptive parents are keeping open and honoring throughout the course if the childs life. Most of these adoptions would not have happened without strong commitments made between two parties, and there is no legal consequence for breaking them, yet even a drive thru "marriage" in Las Vegas, that doesn't involve the future of children, has more legal repercussions than broken openness agreements that most birth mothers believe the adoptive parents would never break, otherwise they never would have agreed. I will exhaust all avenues of support, as my two daughters have been adopted. I am wanting to completely overhaul the broken infrastructure of adoption in order to meet the needs of the entire adoption triad, not just the adoptive parents, who are the only ones currently profiting from the biological abuse and isolation they are legally allowed to inflict on vulnerable birth mothers and their children.
I am asking of you and your office to help me put together a bill that we could pass, in order to start a drastic overhaul of the Adoption industry as the Add-Option Movement. This is to promote inclusivity and working together for the children's best interest, which current adoptions are far from. Please inform me on any steps you need to gather support as I will be driving this as far as I can, as one of many mothers devastated by current day and yet extremely antiquated adoption practices.
Kind regards,
Susan Skalicky
Kind regards,
Susan Skalicky