All I’m allowed to do as the first mother and biological parent of these children, is send them gifts, and I have absolutely no confidence that they are reaching my children and my letters being read. People like to talk about the truth like it’s some thing that’s individual, but, truth is just basic honest reality and the reality is that I am also the mother of those children and they have told me that I am not. And that my daughter will get to choose whether or not. This is how they are raising her like them, to abandon their birth family, and disregard it as something that is not important and replaceable . They take them on fancy trips to Mexico but absolutely shut me down if I ever consider meeting halfway between the 18 hours that separates us that I have driven probably hundreds of times and only maybe three times have I actually seen my children even though the parents promised they would never  Keep me from seeing them and if I was in the area, they would make it work. Of course, that was all pre-adoption adoptive parents have two sides, the one they present to you and they want your baby, and the reality that they show you once the adoption is final, and they have all the power. This was very clear when in the first adoption,  The APs, under my request, stopped in to see me at the place I was staying on the way home from the hospital with my baby, I could tell they really didn’t want to, but the adoption wasn’t final yet. Second time the adoption had already been final, as I had been with my baby for a month in the hospital as she was a preemie,  And I requested to visit her on my way home and they denied it. I absolutely guarantee you that if I was bringing that baby to them and dropping her off on my way back from the hospital going through their town there would’ve been absolutely all the time in the world, and they would’ve dropped everything to make sure that I could stop in because I had something they wanted. How sick is this, that this is being allowed, that this is not considered biological abuse, and that children are actually allowed to be raised like this, to their extreme detriment ? We criminalize physical, sexual and even verbal abuse and harassment, but there is no repercussions for lying to birth mothers in vulnerable positions, who desperately want their children to be together or, do you have access to their children just not able to raise them. It’s pretty disgusting, but these types of abuse this biological isolation that’s happening in almost every adoption  And open adoptions turned into close adoptions because of adoptive parents reneging on their commitments to the mother of their children, is producing the exact same mental health issues, as if they were beaten or severely neglected. Where is the accountability?