If you truly love those children unconditionally, and you were aware as any person with a brain could be, of a biological need that we’re all born with for our biological connection that we were created for, why would you ever want to hinder the mother of your children from loving them? If you truly love them unconditionally like you claim to, why would you hinder them from having a relationship with their birth family so they can establish their biological identity? Instead of forcing them into another way of life and trying to control things the way you want so the child turns out the way you want instead of the way they were intended to? You don’t think this will come back do you? You don’t think that this is actually biological abuse? And that these children will be very angry when the truth comes out one day, and at a time when it’s already extremely difficult to be a teenager, they will be bombarded with even more confusion and feelings of anger because you suppressed that relationship and when is far is to actually cause significant more grief to the person that gave you the life that you have? But you can call that gratitude? I’m always amazed at all the lies.