Petition Update: Stop Blaming Victims — Hold Abusers and the System Accountable, Including Marriage Fraud

Too often, society looks at victims of domestic violence as if they are the problem. When a survivor speaks out, people judge the emotional pain, the trauma, the disability, or the crisis moment—while ignoring the years of abuse that led to it. This is exactly what happened to me in Case No. 17D007339.

But the truth is clear:

It is not the victim. It is the abuser who must be held accountable—along with every attorney and judge who enabled the misuse of the system.

My story is not only one of domestic violence. It is also a story of marriage fraud, where my ex-husband used me, my disability,  and my lumpsome of cash and our 13-year marriage to gain residency, a green card, and eventually U.S. citizenship. While he benefited from the protections and opportunities of this country, I was left homeless, isolated from my children, financially destroyed, and punished for speaking out. A system that should have protected me instead silenced me.

Despite clear warning signs—including domestic-violence arrests, alcoholism, Child Welfare involvement, and evidence of coercive control—the family-court system failed to investigate the fraud or the abuse. Instead, it rewarded him with full custody while ignoring the truth, the facts, and my need for ADA accommodations.

This is not just my story. This is happening to parents across the country.

The Change We Are Demanding

1. Victims of domestic violence—and victims of marriage fraud—must be guaranteed free legal representation in family court.

Survivors should not lose their children simply because they cannot afford an attorney. Family court should not reward the person who has more money or a lawyer willing to weaponize false accusations.

2. Attorneys and judges must be held accountable for enabling abuse and marriage fraud.

When legal professionals ignore evidence, silence victims, or allow abusers to manipulate the system, they contribute to the harm.

3. ADA accommodations must be honored.

Parents with disabilities deserve equal access to justice—not punishment because of their diagnosis, trauma, or mental-health history.

4. Family court, child welfare, and immigration must work together.

If marriage fraud or domestic violence is suspected, all systems should communicate and investigate—not turn a blind eye.

What I Want the Public to Understand

Victims of domestic violence, disability discrimination, and marriage fraud are not the problem.

The real problem is a system that:

rewards the parent with more money,

punishes the survivor,

ignores immigration fraud that places victims at risk,

and allows abusers to use children as weapons.

I am fighting not just for myself and my children, but for every parent who has been silenced, judged, or stripped of their rights because they dared to speak the truth.

Thank you to everyone who has signed, shared, and supported this petition. Your voice matters. Together, we can demand the oversight, justice, and reform that survivors and children desperately need.

Please continue sharing this petition. We must not stop until real change happens.