How Abusive People Use People — And How the System Enables It

Abusive people use others as tools. They use friends, family, attorneys, and even the family-court system to maintain power and control. Instead of taking responsibility for their actions, they manipulate anyone around them to protect their own image. They use money, status, and intimidation to create a false narrative while isolating and punishing their victims.

This behavior destroys families. It confuses children. It leads society to believe the abuser is the “responsible” parent simply because they have more financial resources or a polished public reputation. Meanwhile, the loving parent—often a survivor of domestic violence or a parent with a disability—is treated as disposable.

In many cases, the abuser:

Uses money to influence outcomes.

Uses court orders as weapons, not guidelines.

Uses children to punish the other parent.

Uses attorneys to push false accusations without evidence.

Uses the victim’s trauma or disability as justification for stripping away parental rights.

This is not just unhealthy behavior. It is abusive, coercive, and harmful to children. When the legal system rewards this behavior, it becomes part of the abuse.

This is why reform is urgently needed. Family court must stop empowering abusers and start protecting the truth, the children, and the safety of victims. Oversight, accountability, and evidence-based decisions are essential to prevent further misuse of the system.

“Let's stand together as one voice hold family court system accountable and family law attorneys who abused their power for the sake of money and not the best interest of our children or the true victim of domestic violence”