This is a new law I want set in place.

My first day to a support group I was stunned and astonished at the fact that mothers were losing their children over the fact they had been hit or abused. Moreover the issue was safety where we have overcrowded jail cells and children being abused in foster care due to the lack of sufficient care that wasn't being taken into consideration.

Where assault is a crime and the overlying physical incident that has occurred has not been taken into account is an embarrassment on our part that we haven't addressed this. Mothers, and sometimes perhaps fathers, are staring into us crying and sometimes bleeding looking towards help and we are taking away their children and making them suffer for asking for help. Yet when they don't report it or reach out they are pointed out at as well and even sometimes punished for this.

Where is the safety for the children that is reported at these times when they are not taken into the consideration that these innocent victims, the adult victim and the children, are not being taken into account together as a whole. It can take months and years before social services sorts out and makes up their mind where and when these children will be placed sometimes not ever back into the homes where the abuse has taken place because the abuser may have a chance to return; where we are as a society liable to protect these victims by law.

Awhile the children are suffering greatly emotionally, possibly suffering more physical damage, and there is no guarantee the abuser hasn't established visitation rights while all this is going on; and the abuser is winning.

Once reported, where we already have problems on this, the victim should have a safety net put into place where they are safe and by no fault of their own be blamed for the liability that this is not being taken into account. I understand there is a risk of further damage, even to the children, but where is the safety net from the abuser on all accounts everywhere?

And unfortunately where I'm not even addressing right now at this time, where this is so sensitive to many, from foster care?

In a world of ever changing events where we as women have not been able to find a way to communicate our feelings and needs without fear of being resented upon, how are we going to change such a way that effect us every day in our every day lives?

How are we going to overcome this fear when we have this held over our heads every day? Why has this been placed upon us? And how are we going to change this?

With media into play and the strength of women growing, also with the opportunity of men offering their assistance, I feel this is the day we can do this. No more people sitting in the back of buses or women not being able to vote. This is the new era.

http://www.ourtown.com/snellvillega/article/2011/4/22/no-child-will-be-taken-away-from-a-victim-because-of-domestic-violence.html