The franchise of Facebook groups and mobile apps known as “Are We Dating The Same Guy?”, “Tea”, and other similar platforms have become a destructive force under the false pretense of protecting women’s safety. These groups and apps allow women to upload and share men’s photos, names, ages, and locations without consent. What follows is often defamatory and unverified commentary, creating an environment rife with defamation, doxing, copyright infringement, and public shaming.

These actions clearly violate the very policies of the platforms that host them.

Meta’s Community Standards explicitly prohibit harassment, bullying, hate speech, doxing, and sharing private images without consent, yet these groups thrive on exactly those behaviors.
Apple’s App Store Guidelines ban apps that promote harassment, defamation, or the sharing of private or objectionable content. They also prohibit apps that “encourage harmful behavior” or exploit users, all of which these apps do.
Google Play’s Developer Policies forbid apps that facilitate bullying, threats, harassment, hate speech, sexually explicit or defamatory content, or the unauthorized use of private information, precisely what these apps enable every day.
Despite these blatant violations, the groups and apps continue unchecked. The resulting harm is staggering: men’s reputations, careers, and personal lives have been destroyed, with some cases tragically leading to suicides and homicides. Originally framed as a way to “share dating experiences,” these groups and apps have devolved into cesspools of exploitation and lawlessness.

This issue is widespread, with groups operating in nearly every major Western city and spin-offs like “Are We Dating The Same Guy Uncensored.” Even worse, monetized apps, including “Are We Dating The Same Guy?”, “Tea”, and their copycats, are available on Apple’s App Store and Google Play, further profiting from these harmful practices while blatantly violating store policies.

We demand immediate action to end this exploitation:

Meta: Remove all “Are We Dating The Same Guy?”, “Tea”, and related groups from Facebook. These groups perpetuate serial copyright infringement, defamation, and doxing, violating your own Community Standards.
Apple and Google: Remove the “Are We Dating The Same Guy?”, “Tea Dating Advice”, and all related apps from your app stores. These apps enable abuse, violate user privacy, and directly contravene your published content policies.
Match Group (Hinge, Tinder, etc.) and Bumble: Implement stronger protections for male users, including disabling screenshots and other features that allow exploitation. If other dating apps can provide such security, so can yours.
It is unacceptable that these groups and apps thrive while destroying lives under the guise of “women’s safety.” By continuing to host them, Meta, Apple, and Google are complicit in their abuses.

We call on these companies to take a stand for fairness, safety, and accountability. Lives and reputations are at stake.