Here in Canada, fathers do not have the same rights as mothers when trying to protect their children from being exposed to domestic and family violence.  There is one men's family shelter in North York, Ontario that provides a safe place for fathers to take there children when experiencing domestic abuse.  There is zero funding from the Canadian Government to ensure fathers and their children have a safe place to go to if in crisis.at

This petition has 3 goals.

1. Spread awareness and gather support to request that the government provide equal funding for both fathers and mothers when it comes to programs and safe places that protect their children from abuse.  Fathers deserve the same equal rights and peace of mind that mothers have when it comes to keeping their kids safe.  More fathers would not stay stuck in the cycle of abuse if they knew there was access to safe shelter, guidance and support.  Consider there were three options available at the time of crisis.  One is to stay with their children in an abusive situation, the second was to leave the home to prevent the child from witnessing and being exposed to any sort of family violence (in my case becoming homeless due to being on disability assistance) and the third was to reach out to a government entity that they knew would help and protect fathers and their kids when trying to flee family violence, 100% would choose option 3. 
2. Raise awareness to end stigma against the term "narcissist".  Narcissistic Personality Disorder, whether covert or grandiose, is a serious mental illness where the brain creates defence mechanisms to cope with horrific childhood abuse.  In my opinion, the only way for people with the disorder to begin to heal is to first acknowledge and accept having the disorder.  The stigma that the term "narcissist" has, inhibits the ability to accept that they have at least 5 of the 9 traits on DM5 Cluster B and to reach out for help and support because of fear, shame and/or embarrassment.
3. Eventually I want to start a Fund or Charity to provide BOTH fathers and mothers access to funds if they need to keep their kids safe but are not in the position financially to leave at a moment's notice and pay hotel, travel, food or any other related expenses that arise. This is Canada. Both mothers and fathers deserve the same rights to protect their children from abusive situations.

I am a father who has experienced the unbelievably exhausting and damaging cycle of domestic abuse. The mother of my son suffers from Covert Vulnerable NPD.  This mental illness, derived from sever neglect and emotional abuse as a child, led to the brain creating defence mechanisms in order to cope with the emotional damage.  Some of these defence mechanisms include lying, gaslighting, projection, ghosting/stonewalling and blame shifting.  It is called covert because usually those closest to them are the only ones that see the toxic behavior.  To everyone else they seem vulnerable because they tend to play the victim role.  This, for the most part, is all done subconsciously without them even realizing it which makes it even harder to understand for anybody experiencing it and impossible for anybody other than those closet to them to even know about it.  This lead to a pattern of abuse of love bomb, devalue, discard. This creates a trauma bond which is basically an addiction to the abuse due to chemicals like dopamine (happiness) and cortisol (stress) fluctuating.  Fearing false accusations or our son witnessing the abuse, I would go to the streets so he was not exposed to the family violence, only to be manipulated into returning home, where physical violence and emotional abuse awaited me - all in front of our little boy.  I was not perfect either. There were many times I reacted in a way I shouldn't have.  Reactional abuse occurs when the victim is purposely triggered in-order to activate the sympathetic nervous system which is fight or flight. Once this instinct to protect yourself from threat happens, you have no control. Flight, fight or freeze.  Learning how to ground yourself and avoiding people that purposely try to trigger you is important to your own emotional stability and peace.

This is not just my story; it's the story of countless fathers and children trapped in similar situations due to lack of safe spaces for them to escape domestic violence. Currently I am aware of only one men's family shelter in all of Canada that allows a father take his children in an emergency situation in order to protect them from harm or being exposed to family violence.  

According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV), 1 in 9 men experience severe intimate partner physical violence, emotional and reactive abuse and/or intimate partner stalking that causes fear or concern for their own safety or the safety of others as well as post-traumatic stress disorder symptoms.  Statistically most men, including myself, suffer or suffered in silence.  I refuse to be silent anymore and am using this petition as my voice.

Fathers deserve the same rights and peace of mind when in crisis and trying to protect their children.  Mother's, wives, girlfriends, sisters or otherwise can be abusers to and that's just an unfortunate reality that clearly has been ignored due to zero funding.

It's time we address this overlooked issue by establishing safe facilities specifically designed for fathers and their children fleeing family violence and/or domestic/narcisstic abuse. These facilities should provide temporary shelter, legal advice, counseling services and support systems necessary for these families' to recover and break the cycle of passing on their own childhood trauma, often times without even being conscious of it, to there own children who deserve their parents to put in the effort to heal.  

We need your help to bring about this change. Sign this petition today and stand up against domestic abuse while supporting fathers who are striving to protect themselves and their children, while allowing the mother to get the therapy, time and anything else necessary to allow them to live a fulfilled and happy life and to be a role model. Our children deserve the effort, which is no small task. It's is not our fault, the abuses we all face as children but it's is absolutely our responsibility as parents to put in the work and effort to not pass our unhealed trauma onto our kids.

Here is a link to an article explaining there is 1 men's family shelter in Canada. 

https://vancouversun.com/opinion/columnists/douglas-todd-why-no-shelters-for-male-victims-of-partner-violence