I had a premature son while incarcerated.. ivwas given a choice to a two hour bedside visit or i could go to his funeral for two hours.. I chose the bedside visit... Because my baby was so premature he was in incubators and could not be held directly after birth.. when I want for my 2 hour visit its was my last chance to say goodbye and because the correctional officer did not have the right key for my belly chain and cuffs I never got the chance to hold my baby!! He was baptised durring my visit by the hospital preaher!! Almost a full week after my bedside visit my son was so severe that i decided to put my feelings aside and think of what his life was going to be like... and I decided that no matter how much I wanted him to live he was always going to be suffering.. needless to say i made the most unselfish decision to let him go.. as hard as it was I knew it was the best for him.. my baby passed and thank God for the nicu nurses I believe he was comfortable when he went.. but because I was incarcerated I could not be there his death was explained to me by letters and photos that the nurses made for me.. I was incarcerated for a petty crime and could not be with my baby.. NO CHILD should ever have to die without the comfort of their parent (s).. please help me get this fixed so no family ever has to endure the pain I did...