Some of the "issues" raised by men:

-Why men always have to pay for dates

-Women get free drinks

-Men get rejected so much

-Wife choosing to divorce and taking her share

-“I paid for her drinks and she didn’t sleep with me”. 

-My high school girl friend didn’t sleep with me as much as I deserved considering I was the high school football star 

-Wife had child, doesn't sleep with me enough, boo hoo. 

#oddlyspecific 

I feel like now is a good time for a refresher course on some things, including what exactly sexual assault is and what constitutes sexual harassment. So many women were raised in times where porous boundaries were the norm that it's probably not engrained in their psyche the same way as some younger generations like Gen Z, who are super woke and ready to pounce if you cross them or violate their boundaries. As a millennial, I feel like I'm in a gray area where I want to be in a progressive world but feel held back by a collective mindset that surrounds me, in which people stay silent rather than speak up to not upset the balance...a certain meekness/caution or shame that was instilled despite growing up with blatantly toxic role models from shows like America's Next Top Model, where the entire world saw poor Shandi Sullivan violated on live TV while drunk, and it took over a decade for even a modicum of accountability.

And still, the comments pour in from incel loser men that it was her fault.  From my experience with this situation related to this petition, you might not have been personally directly impacted by him in a traditional way, but you are a witness to violence. You are on the periphery of an open secret; there is trauma in that. There is dysregulation in the ripple effects of this man's behavior, and they trickle into our daily lives, trust, and communication, as well as anger...buried anger that destroys lives, burns bridges and dampens/blocks creative life force energy and joy.   This man's actions distance us from Source/God/Creator/Higher Power and bring us closer to the depths of hell, be it perceived and/or real.   Isolation, despair, stagnation...years of festering create that white room JK Rowling described so well in one of her Harry Potter novels.  IFYKYK.  

If you woke up and this man was naked, looking at you and you're not entirely sure of his intentions, let me be real with you: that was kind of a form of harassment. Asking dirty, gross questions about your sex life when you did nothing to provoke it is sexual harassment. Someone pawing/fawning at you and tricking you into a "magic" plane of opportunity and artistic development as some kind of entrepreneurial endeavor, then exposing themselves or showing porn of themselves and being obscene with you is harassment.

Whether it happened now or how...if you did not consent or it took you by surprise, that counts, even if it was years ago.    We let these betrayals accumulate quietly, year after year, like a slow-growing cancer in our nervous system.  Some people will spend their entire lives swallowing the truth, pretending it never happened just to preserve some fragile illusion of peace or closure. Others can’t (won’t) stay silent. They lift their eyes to the sky and scream, raw and unfiltered, at yet another entitled man who believes he can do whatever he wants to whoever he wants with zero consequences.

'Sir', you picked the wrong one to silence.
You chose the wrong person to underestimate.

We have role models around us in high-up places that lead us to believe the epitome of success is doing whatever you want and getting away with it, and that includes how they treat women, sex, and relationships/boundaries. A hallmark sign of a "successful" psychopath/sociopath/offender is repeatedly victimizing women and getting away with it with no repercussions. They know their wealth, power, and status are intimidating and hold weight. They abuse their marriage for a facade and rely on the family-man image to get away with being a total jackass in private and one-on-one. Little slips occur though, and we see the mask fall off.  The ripple effect is frightening.  And you know what happens? No one wants to call it out because we know for the most part less than 3% of cases are fully prosecuted, which gives the perp a sense of invincibility.

And let's be crystal clear: this predator shows zero regard for someone's relationship with Christ, the sanctity of their body and marriage or other relationships. He is a godless, immoral force who sees people (especially women) not as sacred beings made in God's image, but only as his next buffet to devour, consume, and discard without a shred of remorse or spiritual accountability. No regard for a higher power, for consequence. No respect for the partner they chose, their children, or the holy covenants that should protect and honor those bonds.

TRIGGER WARNING: MENTIONS SEXUAL ACTIVITIES

Here is a non-exhaustive list of what sexual harassment/assault looks like in all their nuanced ways: 

1. Unwanted touching or fondling: Any nonconsensual physical contact of a sexual nature, such as groping breasts, genitals, or buttocks.
2. Nonconsensual penetration: Including vaginal, anal, or oral penetration with a body part or object, often classified as rape.
3. Coercion and manipulation: Using threats, lies, guilt, emotional pressure, or intimidation to force someone into sexual activity without true consent.
4. Incapacitated assault: Engaging in sexual acts with someone who cannot consent due to intoxication, unconsciousness, sleep, disability, or age.
5. Unwelcome sexual advances: Repeatedly asking for dates, sex, or favors despite clear rejection.
6. Verbal harassment: Making offensive comments, jokes, or remarks about someone's sex, gender, body, or sexual orientation; includes catcalling. 
7. Requests for sexual favors: Quid pro quo situations, like promising promotions, grades, or benefits in exchange for sex.
8. Exposure or exhibitionism: Flashing genitals, showing pornography without consent, or masturbating in front of someone unwillingly.
9. Stalking with sexual intent: Following, spying, or repeatedly contacting someone in a way that implies sexual pursuit or threat.
10. Intimate partner sexual violence: Forcing sex within a relationship, ignoring "no," or using relationship dynamics to manipulate consent.
11. Acquaintance or date rape: Assault by someone known to the victim, often involving built trust or social settings where boundaries are blurred.
12. Power imbalance exploitation: Using authority (e.g., boss, teacher, celebrity) to pressure or intimidate someone into sexual acts or situations.
13. Non-physical forms: Creating a hostile environment through ongoing lewd gestures, comments, or displays that interfere with work, education, or daily life.
14. Sexual exploitation: Taking advantage of someone's vulnerability for sexual gain, such as filming without consent or sharing intimate images.
15. Gender-based bullying: Teasing, intimidating, or offensive comments based on stereotypes about how someone "should" act based on their sex or gender identity.
16. Targeting vulnerabilities: Specifically going after individuals with mental health issues, trauma (e.g., past abuse, early childhood abandonment, high ACE scores), injuries, disabilities, or those who seem "different" or "special," exploiting these as weaknesses to manipulate or intimidate into sexual situations.
17. Deceptive environmental luring: Tricking someone into an isolated or controlled environment under false pretenses, like inviting them for a work-related opportunity or adventure, then using it to attempt sexual manipulation or assault.
18. Invasive sexual questioning: Asking unwanted, disgusting questions about someone's sex life, personal sexual history, or intimate details, which serves to harass, intimidate, and erode boundaries through psychological discomfort.
19. Cornering and inappropriate demands: Physically or psychologically cornering someone and making obscene requests, such as asking if they want a vibrator, demanding they buy sexual items for you, or pressuring them to perform sexual acts in front of you.
20. Uninvited intrusions: Showing up uninvited in personal spaces like an office or home and immediately escalating to sexual demands or questions, using surprise and intimidation to catch the person off-guard.
21. Psychological pressure and intimidation tactics: This can manifest through subtle threats of professional or social repercussions, gaslighting to make the victim doubt their own boundaries, repeated boundary-testing to wear down resistance, or using silence and stares to create an atmosphere of fear and control...all aimed at coercing compliance without overt force.
22. Randomly waking up to someone sitting next to you or close to you buck naked and obviously pleasuring themselves while watching you sleep: This is a profoundly violating form of non-consensual exposure and exhibitionism, often classified as indecent exposure, sexual harassment, or even a form of sexual assault depending on jurisdiction...it exploits vulnerability during sleep, creates intense fear and trauma upon waking, and is a clear breach of bodily autonomy and consent, with no place in any healthy interaction.
23. Voyeurism and non-consensual recording/blackmail: Spying on people with hidden cameras, taking compromising or intimate photos/videos without consent, and using them as blackmail to coerce compliance, silence, or further sexual acts or worse, sharing/distributing those images to others without permission (often called "revenge porn" or non-consensual intimate image distribution). This is a severe form of sexual exploitation and psychological abuse that weaponizes privacy violation, humiliation, and ongoing threat to control and terrorize the victim long after the initial act; this can extend to bribing vulnerable women into compromising sexual situations by exploiting their immigration status, health issues (e.g., eating disorders), past trauma, neurodivergence (e.g., autism spectrum), or other personal vulnerabilities, pressuring them into acts they haven't had time to process or fully consent to, turning private moments into tools for ongoing control and humiliation. This is a severe form of sexual exploitation and psychological abuse that weaponizes privacy violation, humiliation, and ongoing threat to control and terrorize the victim long after the initial act.

Remember, consent must be clear, voluntary, ongoing, and informed...no means no, and silence or hesitation isn't yes.   Activating the freeze/fawn/flight response is not "yes".  

If you've experienced any of this, you're not alone, and speaking up can help break the cycle.  Let's push for accountability and change together.