When asked the following, these are some of the responses, this is what we live with, minute by minute, hour by hour, day by day, week in week out! “Considering the trauma to your little ones caused specifically from bios lack of parenting/drug abuse/mental health, can you describe in a sentence what you would like erased from their memory/biological makeup/genetics etc?” *Bios= Biological parents *GC = Grand child/ren *ADHD = Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder *ODD = Oppositional Defiant Disorder *FASD = Foetal Alcohol Syndrome Disorder *PSTD = Post Traumatic Stress Disorder *RAD = Reactive Attachment Disorder I would say, the lies and I wish we could erase the bad memory's gc has from the guy that bio mum has chosen to be with I wish my nephews didn't have developmental delay, ADHD, ODD, FASD and deafness (he was not born deaf it was due to trauma) because these disabilities/disorders will affect them for the rest of their lives I wish the girls had had proper prenatal care. Maybe then we’d know why they have trouble with certain things. I wish for no disappointment/abandonment. Bios visits cancelled last minute which breaks her heart. I would love to erase the memories of the Domestic Violence my niece and nephews had to witness, be part of and were subjected too! Please erase the PTSD, the depression but most importantly the memories Constant underlying fears related to what happened to them - the dark, abandonment, being trapped / locked in. After 5 years these fears are still a part of everyday life Thankfully a lot of love and security has helped with the twins, it is present day actions of bios more so now, that are causing long lasting effects that are visible already. They are now showing separation anxieties, emotionally withdrawing, aggression like never before. Sad they are too selfish to see their lasting effects Alcohol, it would have made a world of difference if they hadn't been exposed to alcohol in utero Their Fasd and Rad the nightmares, afraid of the dark, and basically the horrible memories of abuse from the sperm donor I would love to erase the trauma of being left alone for days, domestic violence, verbal abuse oh the list goes on so many traumatic things all our little treasures have been through, breaks our heart I would like erased the trauma of being beaten, screamed at, starved, forced to live in squalor, abandoned and told she was unlovable. It breaks my heart. The rose coloured glasses child protection wear so they can see the real problems instead off the sugar coating the bios spin and the courts to listen to those who know them best not just a stranger who is in & out off their life once a week or 2 The negative choices the bios have made and continue to make, thinking only of themselves, which impacts gc. I think out of everything I would like my grandsons to have their trust restored I would erase my Sons addiction from him to be the father they deserve The total lack of attention from mum which caused brain damage Being unkind to each other, it breaks my heart. It’s not just normal sibling stuff. It is horrible. Erase the memory of in utero abuse and seeing their mum being abused Quite simply I would like to erase the fact that a lot of the time the kids had to raise themselves and that they got used to living in filth. I would like to have seen the 2 eldest have a childhood, like other kids. The experience of violence, neglect, lack of love being a normal part if their everyday life by the adults who by an accident of birth became their parents I would like to erase the last eighteen years of abuse neglect abandonment disappointment pstd nightmares depression sexual abuse from step dad, ignorance, psychotic, narcissistic BM who still puts her own selfish life and needs before her six kids to six different father's but one sentence is too hard l could go on all day The most recent "one sentence" that i wish bio mother hadn't said was: " you're not my kids, I want nothing to do with you, I disown you!" She said this to her twins that I've had since 1yr old just before their 13th birthdays last December. Heartbreaking to hear, that what they had always suspected. � Bio mother has not spoken to them since, and is only fighting for the other two siblings that I've recently got custody of. Now they enter their teenage years knowing their mum doesn't want them I would love to stop the sleeping issues and separation anxiety and the anger. I also want forced contact taken away so children can heal Yes the continuous unkindness with the siblings I have never seen anything like it . Putting drugs before the kids. Living in fear, hearing bios fight every day, never being clean, not getting fed properly. Living in disgusting conditions, having cockroaches crawling over her while sleeping I would like to erase the horrible memories in my GD's mind that stop her from going to sleep at night. I would like to erase the drug out of my daughter. So then my grandchildren would be so happy I would like to erase their memories of domestic violence, living in fear, feeling unloved & in the way, a nuisance in fact! Erase that which caused their damaged souls to be unable to trust, with no confidence, being robbed of innocent childhoods & security. Having to say bye bye mummy every 2nd weekend Oh my! Only one sentence? That’s impossible!