This affects countless survivors, not just me  

I am still not allowed to see my child.

And the reason being used against me?

A complete misinterpretation of my trauma-education posts online. Content I created to help other survivors understand patterns of abuse was somehow twisted into a justification to restrict my visits — even though I have had absolutely no contact with my abuser for many months.

This is victim blaming, plain and simple.

Instead of recognizing survivor education as a sign of insight, growth, and commitment to healing, the system turned my voice into a weapon against me.

What message does that send to anyone trying to heal?

That speaking about your experience can cost you your child?

That educating others is “suspicious”?

That transparency about trauma is a liability?

This kind of response doesn’t support victims — it re-traumatizes them.

Survivors already fight to rebuild their lives after abuse. We fight to trust ourselves, to speak out, to tell the truth. Turning a survivor’s own healing work into a reason to punish them is one of the most harmful forms of victim blaming there is.

It sends a chilling message:

“Stay quiet about what happened to you… or you will pay for it.”

And I refuse to accept that.

My posts were about patterns, not people. About education, not conflict. About healing, not harm. Yet those posts — those attempts to break generational cycles — were used against me by a system that should know better.

Trauma education isn’t dangerous.

Silencing survivors is.

So yes — I am still asking the same question every parent, every survivor, every human being should be asking with me:

Why am I still not allowed to see my child because of this?

If you are reading this and you believe survivors deserve safety, fairness, and a system that actually understands trauma — please stand with me.

Sign. Share. Speak up.

Every signature adds pressure.

Every share adds visibility.

Every voice pushes back against a system that punishes survivors for trying to heal.

You can support my trauma informed, survivor led, art and music here 👉 https://open.spotify.com/artist/5LpTtx30W8gy9D69yn8APK?si=BFOtGCSMRNym_Smeo5YKhQ or here 👉 Silent Bombs - Single by Eliara Rae
https://music.apple.com/ca/album/silent-bombs-single/1850638474 

Thank you for continuing this fight with me. I will not stop until I am allowed to see my child again, and until survivor voices are treated with the respect and understanding they deserve.

Sincerely,

Eliara Rae