Some updates. So, I had three court appearances this past week, which I spoke about in my last long update. I had court in Pequannock, in person. The case was dismissed.   However, I am not allowed to speak about it on social media, so I will leave it at that. On the same day, I had my SIXTH NY Child Support hearing via Zoom (the first three- my ex was a no show). I'm gonna speak about that last. The following day, Tuesday, I had my first court appearance for the VASPA TPO that my brother's wife had me served with. I was supposed to appear in person, in Morristown at 8:30am. However, I had zero dollars & couldn't afford to get there. I had just driven the round trip the day before. I'm still staying three hours away. Its ALOT. Obviously, six hours round trip. Money for gas, tolls, coffee & some food... its also exhausting. And at my age, with my back that will never be normal again, its painful. And I had gotten NO SLEEP for three nights straight. Even if I had the money to get to Morristown, I believe that I would've fallen asleep while driving. So, I emailed the court before they opened & left voicemails. I asked if I could PLEASE appear via Zoom. (Its not really a thing in Morristown.) I explained why. Well, thank God, they allowed it. When I was first served on October 30th, I requested an adjournment (court was set for Nov 4th) because I wanted to reach out to JBWS & see if I could get an attorney through them. They've helped me so much through the years. I did reach out to them, and I completed the intake process with them, and I was told that I will receive a call early this week from an attorney. (Their process is SO MUCH BETTER & FASTER THAN FEARLESS HUDSON VALLEY IN NY. And the process to get free legal counsel in NJ is also 100% easier & quicker than NY. THAT I KNOW FIRST HAND.) SO, I appeared via Zoom and requested an adjournment again, but explained why- that I'm in the process of retaining a lawyer through JBWS. The adjournment was granted. Thank God. Those two days were even MORE STRESSFUL than my usual days, as of late. It was AWFUL. I was a basketcase. So, the next court date for that is in December. I have the other court matter with my brother's wife this Tuesday- IN PERSON (same false allegations- she filed in Municipal Court first & then in Superior Court.) THIS IS ALL ABOUT KEEPING ME FROM MY SON- WHO NOW LIVES WITH HER, SHUTTING ME UP & TAKING AWAY MY VOICE- THE ONLY THING THAT I HAVE LEFT IN LIFE, AND ALSO REVENGE FOR WALKING AWAY FROM MY FAMILY IN 2023 & FINALLY, AFTER 49 YEARS, TALKING OPENLY ABOUT THE ABUSE IN MY FAMILY, INCLUDING PHYSICAL ABUSE.
I now have a Public Defender for that case, which is great. (I am past due on paying both public defenders- this one & Pequannock. $200 & $150.) I HAVE NO MONEY TO GET THERE THIS TUESDAY. I'm freaking out. I NEED HELP SO BADLY.  
NOW FOR THE SH*TSHOW. THE NY CHILD SUPPORT HEARING THIS PAST MONDAY.
$17,000.00 OWED TO ME & MY SON.
So, as I stated in my last update, I was never able to get a free attorney through Legal Services of Hudson Valley in NY. FOR ONE WHOLE MONTH, I WAITED AFTER DOING THE INTAKE PROCESS THROUGH FEARLESS, WHO PASSES IT ALONG TO LSHV, AND THEN COUNTLESS MORE DAYS OF INTAKE WITH ALL DIFFERENT PEOPLE. I WAS LITERALLY STILL TRYING UP UNTIL LAST WEEKEND!! I WAS FOLLOWING UP DAILY WITH CALLS & EMAILS.
*** REMINDER: MY WEALTHY EX-HUSBAND RETAINED A FREE NY ATTORNEY WITHIN TWO DAYS, WHILE INCARCERATED (FOR THE FIRST TIME EVER- FOR NONPAYMENT OF CHILD SUPPORT), AND ON A HOLIDAY WEEKEND (COLUMBUS DAY WKND). HE WAS INCARCERATED ON SAT NIGHT, OCT 11TH, AND HE & HIS NEW ATTORNEY WERE READY & PREPARED FOR COURT ON TUESDAY, OCT 14TH. (HIS ATTORNEY WAS ABLE TO GET HIM RELEASED FROM JAIL, WITH NO BAIL & NO ORDER TO PAY ***ANY CHILD SUPPORT. HIS ATTORNEY ALSO FILED A MOTION FOR DISMISSAL. TOTAL BULLSH*T.) SO, 'NJ CHILD SUPPORT SERVICES' & THE MORRIS COUNTY JUDGES DID NOT ENFORCE CHILD SUPPORT PAYMENTS OR COURT ORDERS FOR FIFTEEN YEARS. EVEN WITH ALL OF THE PHYSICAL EVIDENCE THAT I HAD OF COUNTLESS SHENANIGANS BY MY EX... THEN NJ CHILD SUPPORT SERVICES SENDS THE CASE TO ORANGE COUNTY, NY LAST MAY (I BEGGED THEM NOT TO!!) SO, NY GAVE ME A 'WILLFULLNESS HEARING' FOR EARLY AUGUST- WITH MY EX. THEY DID THIS ON MY BEHALF. WE WERE BOTH SERVED IN JULY. THAT WAS FOR THE FULL AMOUNT OF 17K. IN THE MEANTIME, NJ CHILD SUPPORT SERVICES DENIED MY SON 'CONTINUATION OF CHILD SUPPORT' WHILE HE IS IN TRADE SCHOOL. EVEN THOUGH I SUBMITTED THE PAPERS ON TIME IN EARLY AUGUST. THEN, MY EX-HUSBAND, HIS FIANCE, HIS FAMILY & I 100% BELIEVE MY SISTER INLAW, COERCED MY SON INTO FILING FOR EMANCIPATION IN JULY. (I BELIEVE THAT BECAUSE EVERY WORD THAT 'HE' SUPPOSEDLY WROTE, EVERY LIE, WERE THINGS THAT SHE & MY BROTHER HAD FALSELY ACCUSED ME OF- AND ALSO, IT WAS VERY, VERY WELL WRITTEN, ORGANIZED, LENGHTY & DONE ELABORATELY. ALSO, MY SON MOVED IN WITH THEM IN LATE JUNE.) SO, WHILE MY EX-HUSBAND- PURPOSELY- MISSED THE FIRST THREE NY COURT HEARINGS, MY SON CONVENIENTLY (IN NEW JERSEY!!!!????) FILED & ULTIMATELY BECAME EMANCIPATED IN SEPTEMBER.
THIS CHANGED EVERYTHING.
IT SPLIT OUR CHILD SUPPORT CASE INTO TWO SEPARATE CASES: ONE FOR ME, ONE FOR MY SON.
5K TO ME, 12K TO MY SON. (WHICH IS WHAT I REQUESTED BECAUSE I OWE MY SON $ FOR HELPING OUT TREMENDOUSLY DURING THE EVICTION YEAR.)
**** BUT--- HERE'S THE KICKER!!!!!
THE MOTION TO DISMISS, FILED BY MY EX & HIS ATTORNEY, STATES THAT IT SHOULD ALL BE DISMISSED BECAUSE THERE WAS JUST A NEW ORDER ISSUED IN NJ (THE EMANCIPATION HEARING!!!) WHERE THAT JUDGE- JUDGE PETER BOGAARD- DID NOT READ ANY OF MY TONS OF EVIDENCE---- LIKE EVERY SINGLE OTHER JUDGE--- AND NOT ONLY DIDN'T ORDER THE TOTAL AMOUNT TO BE PAID IN A LUMP SUM & ASAP,
**** HE LOWERED THE WEEKLY PAYMENTS FROM $201/ WEEK TO $100/ WEEK.
$30/ WEEK TO ME. $70/ WEEK TO MY SON.
AND HE NEVER EVEN ADDRESSED THE 'CONTINUATION OF CHILD SUPPORT' FIASCO, WHICH I REQUESTED & IS RIGHTFULLY OWED TO MY SON.
**** SO, I ACTUALLY GOT REPRIMANDED FOR ALL OF THIS!!!!!
THE EFFING INCOMPETENCE OF NJ CHILD SUPPORT SERVICES AND THE NY AND NJ FAMILY COURT JUDGES!!!!!
SO, THIS PAST MONDAY.....
***** I LOST!!!!!
MAGISTRATE AFRIYIE OF ORANGE COUNTY, NY FAMILY COURT AGREED WITH HIS ATTORNEY!!!!
AND ALSO STATED THAT ITS GETTING DISMISSED BECAUSE I NEVER GOT AN ATTORNEY!!!!!
THAT'S MY FAULT???????????????
AND ALSO STATED THAT BECAUSE I NEVER FILED A RESPONSE TO MY EX'S MOTION!!!! UMMMM.... YEA, BECAUSE UP UNTIL LITERALLY THAT DAY, I WAS STILL TRYING TO GET A FREE ATTORNEY IN NY!!!!!!!!!!!
ME AND MY SON HAVE BEEN PENALIZED AND SERIOUSLY HARMED AND HONESTLY, ABUSED BY 'NJ CHILD SUPPORT SERVICES' AND THE MORRIS COUNTY, NJ FAMILY COURT & THE ORANGE COUNTY, NY FAMILY COURT.
EVIL JUST KEEPS WINNING.
Lastly... this Thursday- Thanksgiving- it will be ONE YEAR since the last time that I spent time with my son. He went 'NO CONTACT' with me less than two weeks later.
He still has me blocked. And, I still don't know exactly why.
But, I DO KNOW, that this is CRUEL. IT IS TORTURE. I CANNOT EVEN BEGIN TO DESCRIBE THIS PAIN. IT DOESN'T GO AWAY. ITS EVERY SECOND OF MY DAY. ITS AN ACHING IN MY SOUL & IN MY HEART THAT IS SO DEEP. I HAVE TO FORCE MYSELF TO TRY NOT TO THINK ABOUT MY PRECIOUS BOY- MY WHOLE WORLD- OR I WILL JUST CRY ALL DAY. AND ITS MORE THAN CRYING. ITS WEEPING, WAILING... ITS ANGER, SADNESS, CONFUSION. IT IS UNFAIR. IT IS UNWARRANTED.
I guess this will be another holiday without my son and also alone. It will be our first Thanksgiving apart. What a year of firsts. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. Last Christmas started the year of the holidays without him. It has been unbearable.
Well, I have zero dollars. I'm out of foodstamps for this month. (Less than $300/ month. And I don't eat much. Its gone by the third week.) Our storage unit is headed towards a Lien again in a few days.
I have so much to do for these two court matters. You can't imagine. Probably about 50 false allegations that I now, once again, have to still find my evidence to refute it all. Old texts, emails, TRO on my brother- which I have a copy of, pictures, etc...
I have no money to get to court on Tuesday to battle more false accusations.
Happy Thanksgiving to me.