First, I want to thank the people who have signed my petition. THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH. GOD BLESS YOU!!!!! Please share the link!!!

I have been estranged from my beautiful boy since early December. 
For no good reason. I am not angry with him, but I am devasted. Heartbroken. My world is completely shattered. There was so much to say in my initial petition. I believe that my son is blaming me for what happened to us this year. This pain has been excruciating. We were best friends. He is my whole world. We were like two peas in a pod. We had the most loving (and silly!) home life. 
And I raised a really great kid. By myself.
BUT I ALSO KNOW THAT HE IS BEING BRAINWASHED.

A few weeks ago, I received an email from the Morris County Courthouse. It looked like either my son or my ex-husband was taking me to court, regarding child support. It was difficult to understand. Plus, my son and his father have the same name, but my ex is the 3rd & my son is the 4th. Both were listed but it just didn't make sense. I called the court clerk & she looked at it & said that it looks like my son is filing a motion to get the child support sent directly to him, but that he filed it improperly. She said that the court will let him know that he needs to file it correctly & then have both me & my ex-husband served. There was already a court date established for July 18th, but she said if I do not get served by then, to check back with the court. I was never served, so I called the Judge's clerk on the 17th. (Side note: there is a new judge now- different from the judge that we had last July 2024 that presided over our child support case & completely let me down). The new judge's court clerk said, No, there is not a hearing for tomorrow, but expect an email from me tomorrow regarding the situation. So, this past Friday, around 4:40pm, I received an email from him. It had a Court Order attached. This seemed crazy because the matter was not heard in court, nor was I given an opportunity to explain the situation and show evidence (which I have a RIDICULOUS AMOUNT OF AT THIS POINT). As I read it, I immediately felt a panic attack come on. This judge had ABSOLUTELY NO IDEA what was going on. The way that it reads gave me the impression that he does not know that my son is 18- almost 19. It seemed as if he thought he was a child. He didn't seem to know that I am homeless & we are living apart ONLY because of this very situation. He didn't seem to know that we've only been apart since last August (I don't know mean to use the word ONLY- MY WORLD HAS BEEN SHATTERED- but it sounded like he thought that we have been apart for much longer).  It also sounded like he assumes that I gave up my child which OBVIOUSLY is not the case. I do NOT believe that he reached out to 'NJ Child Support Services' or my caseworker at all. And it also sounded like he knew nothing about the last Court Order or that my ex-husband has barely paid anything this whole year since that Order last July. Now, I also want to say that I AM NOT ANGRY WITH MY SON AT ALL. Infact, I am fine with my son receiving any child support owed to him since we have been apart- since last August. BUT, at that time- on August 2nd, we were owed $11,300.00. THAT IS OWED TO ME. Up until that day, my son resided with me & was taken care of by me. All of the years of my ex-husband owing THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS, WHO DO YOU THINK MADE UP FOR THAT????!!!! I DID!!! AND AT THE LAST TRIAL, MY CASEWORKER & THE PROBATION LIAISON TOLD ME THAT THEY WOULD BE REQUESTING THAT WHOLE AMOUNT TO BE PAID ASAP IN A LUMP SUM!!! (THEY DID NOT!!!!!!!!)  ESPECIALLY CONSIDERING THAT I HAD PROVEN- WITH PICTURES AND A VIDEO- THAT HE WAS WORKING FOR CASH IN OUR TOWN FOR MONTHS & HIDING IT & NOT PAYING & WHEN MY CASEWORKER CALLED THE OWNER, SHE LIED TO HER & SAID THAT HE WASN'T WORKING THERE. THESE ARE FACTS & I EVEN HAVE EMAIL EXCHANGES ABOUT ALL OF THIS WITH MY CASEWORKER. INFACT, I WOUND UP GETTING ONE MEASLY PAYMENT OUT OF ONE PAYCHECK THAT HE FINALLY HAD ON THE BOOKS AFTER MY CASEWORKER SENT A LETTER TO THE OWNER EXPLAINING THAT SHE HAD PROOF OF HIM WORKING THERE. And, after that ONE child support payment, HE WAS SUPPOSEDLY FIRED. THE JUDGE WAS MADE AWARE OF ALL OF THIS & MORE. AND HE ORDERED ZERO DOLLARS TO BE PAID AT THAT TRIAL. AND HE KNEW THAT WE WERE JUST EVICTED.
****** HE COULD HAVE ORDERED IT ALL TO BE PAID ASAP BUT DID NOT. HE COULD HAVE SINGLE HANDEDLY SAVED THE DAY & PREVENTED THIS WHOLE NIGHTMARE OF A YEAR FOR ME & MY SON BUT DID NOT. THE SYSTEM IS BROKEN.***** So, this is what the NEW COURT ORDER SAYS, WITHOUT EVEN AN APPEARANCE OR EVIDENCE OR KNOWING ANYTHING ABOUT THIS CASE. Motion was denied because it was done improperly & he didn't have us served. BUT, it states,

"The Court is, however, concerned about the facts set forth in the papers submitted, and the defendant/mother should realize that receiving child support benefits while the child is not living with her may not only be illegal, but also runs contrary to concerns of common decency and fairness. As a result, and in an attempt to maintain the status quo, the Court will issue a USSO that directs Probation to immediately cease distributing to the defendant/mother any and all monies paid by and/or garnished from the plaintiff/father until further Order of the Court. This will allow the movant to re-file his application, providing proper notice to his parents so they have a chance to submit whatever they feel is relevant to the Court. The movant is on notice though that emancipating him from his mother while he is not residing with or under the sphere of influence of his father will likely result in him being emancipated from both of his parents. Assuming the motion is refiled and the parents served, the Court would consider making this an arrears only case and making the son the sole beneficiary of those arrears (currently in excess of $15,000). Alternatively, if the plan is for the son to remain with the family that has graciously taken him in, those parents could be named as having joint legal custody of the son, and they could be designated as the beneficiary for all future support (with the son designated as the beneficiary of the substantial arrears)."

WHAT?????!!!!!!!!! FIRST, HE SMEARED MY NAME. WHILE KNOWING NOTHING!!!!!!

SECOND, MY SON WILL NOT BE EMANCIPATED FROM HIS FATHER. ONLY ME. BECAUSE, IF THE JUDGE KNEW ANYTHING ABOUT THIS CASE HE'D KNOW THAT I WAS AWARDED SOLE PHYSICAL & LEGAL CUSTODY OF MY SON, WHEN HE WAS ONE & A HALF YEARS OLD, IN 2007, WITH SUPERVISED VISITATION FOR MY EX HUSBAND, WITH THE PERSON/S OF MY CHOOSING. DO YOU KNOW HOW MUCH TERRIBLE EVIDENCE YOU NEED TO SHOW, TO GET AN ORDER LIKE THAT??!!!! ALOT!!!!! AND THAT ORDER WAS UPHELD IN OUR DIVORCE AGREEMENT IN 2011.

THIRD, AS I STATED BEFORE, I AM OWED THE MONIES THAT WERE OWED AT THE TIME OF WHEN WE LAST RESIDED TOGETHER. ($11,300.00) I AM FINE WITH HIM GETTING THE REST.

FOURTH, "THE FAMILY THAT HAS SO GRACIOUSLY TAKEN HIM IN" JUST TOOK HIM IN A MONTH AGO & ARE MY BROTHER & SISTER-IN-LAW, WHO DESPISE ME & THE FEELING IS MUTUAL. I HAVE GOOD REASON TO FEEL THAT WAY.  UNFORTUNATELY, UNLIKE MY EX HUSBAND (WHO'S A CONVICTED FELON), I DON'T HAVE FAMILY THAT WOULD TAKE US IN- TOGETHER!!!!!!! OR THIS NIGHTMARE YEAR WOULD HAVE NEVER OCCURED!!!!!! I SHOULD BE SO LUCKY!!!!! AND THE THOUGHT OF THEM HAVING "CUSTODY" MAKES ME WANT TO VOMIT!!!! AND THE PLAN HAS BEEN ALL YEAR TO GET MY BABY BOY BACK!!!!! I AM IN AGONY!!!!! COMPLETE DESPAIR!!!! ALL DAY!!!! MY WHOLE WORLD IS SHATTERED!!!!! THIS HAS TO BE A JOKE.

THIS IS THE EXACT REASON WHY I STARTED THE CHANGE.ORG PETITION.

THESE JUDGES ARE PLAYING GOD WITH PEOPLE'S LIVES AND DON'T EVEN TAKE THE TIME TO REVIEW A CASE- IN DEPTH- BEFORE MAKING THEIR DECISIONS!!!!! WHICH ARE LIFE ALTERING!!!!

BUT HERE'S WHAT HAPPENED THE NEXT MORNING (THIS PAST SATURDAY).

I RECEIVED MANY TEXTS FROM MY EX HUSBAND. I HAVEN’T HEARD FROM HIM SINCE LAST SUMMER. ONE OF THE TEXTS READS,

"I WILL NEVER GIVE YOU MONEY WHEN YOU DONT EVEN HAVE [MY SON'S NAME]. PROBATION WILL TERMINATE YOUR CASE , WE ARE OPENING A NEW CASE FOR [MY SON'S NAME] SINCE HE'S NOW AN ADULT AND ALL THE ARREARS WILL GO TO HIM WHILE HE'S IN TRADE SCHOOL.."

UMMM..... "WE"???? PRETTY FISHY, IF YOU ASK ME!!!
BRAINWASHING!!!!!! BRIBERY!!!!
OH, NOW HE'LL PAY??????
OH, HE'LL PAY ALL OF THE ARREARS????
OH, HE HAS THE MONEY???????

EXACTLY WHAT I HAVE BEEN SAYING NOT ONLY THIS YEAR, BUT FOR YEARS & YEARS!!!!!!!!!!!!!
MY EX HUSBAND HAS PURPOSELY WITHHELD THE CHILD SUPPORT FOR YEARS BECAUSE HE HATES ME.
NOW HE & OTHERS ARE "OPENING A NEW CASE FOR [MY SON'S NAME]...... AND ALL THE ARREARS WILL GO TO HIM"

I SENT ALL OF THIS TO THE LAW CLERK & MY CASEWORKERS TODAY.
THE REPLY?
I WAS TOLD THAT THERE'S NOTHING MORE THEY CAN DO AND I SHOULD FILE WITH THE COURT IF I WANT SOMETHING CHANGED.

THIS IS UNBELIEVABLE.

ARE YOU ALL READY FOR WHAT HAPPENED TODAY?

I RECEIVED MANY EMAILS FROM A WOMAN THAT CLAIMS TO BE MY EX HUSBAND'S FIANCE.
THIS IS THE FIRST I'VE HEARD ABOUT HER. 
HERE ARE SOME QUOTES FROM HER MANY EMAILS. (THEY WILL BE SENT TO MY CASEWORKERS, THE LAW CLERK & I WILL BE FILING FOR A RESTRAINING ORDER DUE TO THE THREATS).

"Ummm.. I’m just want to introduce myself.. I’m Liz.. and we need to discuss the lies and bulls**t you’re spreading regarding MY FIANCÉ future In-laws and my soon to be Step-Sons"
"Now we can meet up and discuss this matter face to face like grown women. 
Please refrain from acting like the person you post as. Cause I’m ghetto. Straight HOOD. 
I will catch a simple assault for your boney a*s Sweetheart"
"You will get that money over my deadbody.. Every cent is going to [my son's name] and just so you know.. once this court bulls**t is settled . I am going to Personally pay the entire... balance of the arrears in cash to [my son's name]"
"I met Little [my son's name] at Christmas he is an amazing young man and wise beyond his years.. and that is despite YOU!!"
"My phone number is [her phone number]... I will be expecting a call.."
"I’ll tell your son you said Hi"
"There is nothing I hate more than a DEAD BEAT MOTHER!!!"
"Like I said in my first email.. we can discuss this further in person"
"Let’s talk face to face.."
"f*king lowlife loser"
"Talk to your son.. oh wait you can’t"
"Give me an address so we can finish this conversation.."

THE EMAILS ARE STILL COMING FROM HER. STAY TUNED.

NOW, PLEASE NOTICE THAT SHE ALSO STATES THAT SHE WILL BE PAYING THE TOTAL AMOUNT OF CHILD SUPPORT ARREARS TO MY SON (WHEN IT IS CHANGED TO GO DIRECTLY TO HIM).

SHE ALSO GOES ON TO ATTACK MY LOOKS. LOL. THAT ONLY COMES FROM A PLACE OF JEALOUSY & INSECURITY.

THIS IS NOT THE FIRST TIME THAT I HAVE HAD TO DEAL WITH A WOMAN THAT MY EX HUSBAND IS INVOLVED WITH.
IN 2014, I MET HIS THEN GIRLFRIEND. I WAS KIND TO HER. I HAVE NO INTENTION OF STARTING DRAMA WITH ANYONE, FOR NO GOOD REASON, ESPECIALLY SOMEONE THAT IS AROUND MY CHILD. THIS WOMAN GOT MY PHONE NUMBER FROM MY EX. SHE STARTED TO HARRASS ME. SHE ALSO PUT DOWN MY LOOKS! HAHAAA!!! SHE WOKE ME UP ONE NIGHT, AT 1:00AM ON A WORK NIGHT/ SCHOOL NIGHT TO INFORM ME THAT SHE WAS PREGNANT WITH MY EX'S CHILD. AS IF I CARE!!!!! SHE HAD HIS BABY. THIS WAS ALL PART OF THE COURT BATTLE IN 2015- 2016 WHEN I HAD TO START A GOFUNDME TO RAISE FUNDS FOR LEGAL COUNSEL. I HAD BEEN TRYING TO TELL THE COURT THAT SHE WAS A DRUG ADDICT. MY EX & HIS FAMILY KEPT DENYING IT. SHE WAS AROUND MY CHILD. SHE WOUND UP DYING FROM A DRUG OVERDOSE A FEW YEARS AGO.

ALSO, THIS IS WHAT I FOUND IN A SIMPLE GOOGLE SEARCH THAT SUMS UP THE CHILD SUPPORT LEGAL PROCESS:

“AN EX WHO OWES CHILD SUPPORT ARREARS CANNOT SIMPLY GIVE THAT MONEY DIRECTLY TO THE CHILD. ARREARS ARE TYPICALLY OWED TO THE CUSTODIAL PARENT, NOT THE CHILD, AND ARE INTENDED TO REIMBURSE THEM FOR EXPENSES THEY INCURRED IN RAISING THE CHILD WHILE THE NON-CUSTODIAL PARENT WAS NOT PROVIDING SUPPORT. WHEN CHILD SUPPORT IS MISSED, THE CUSTODIAL PARENT OFTEN HAS TO COVER THOSE EXPENSES, AND THE ARREARS ARE MEANT TO COMPENSATE THEM FOR THOSE COSTS. GIVING THE MONEY DIRECTLY TO THE CHILD BYPASSES THE LEGAL PROCESS AND THE CUSTODIAL PARENT'S RIGHT TO RECEIVE THE SUPPORT OWED.”