*Note to all comments and signatures that signed for the fact you've gone/going through something similar to my household: Thank you so much for signing and sharing your difficult stories but I am also dreadfully sorry you are all experiencing/experienced such things. It's a sick and twisted thing to have to go through. Abuse on anyone is evil but so is accusing and punishing someone who didn't do it and then being forced through a system that supports liars and actual bad people over the truth. 

I feel the pain of it all and have lived out many similar things to you all. It absolutely sucks and turning to a government or Justice system expecting that's the place such things can be sorted out only to have that system blame you, abuse you, abandoned you or ignore the truth and your rights is an indescribable hell. One that none of us should be put through be it wrongfully accused or those that love and defend the innocent ones accused. It's dreadful and we need to stand up against such things and fight to improve the system that this never happens to another family or innocent man again. 

Thank you all for standing with us in this struggle for real equality and justice for all whom have been wrongfully accused or hurt because of wrongful accusations. 

*Thank you too to all our contributors as well, while the money doesn't come directly to me or my loved one - it goes to Change.org, - it's a HUGE help all the same as it keeps the petition viewable to many rather than it fall to the waste side and become invisible. 

Due to the current consequences of my own personal encounter with this broken system, that's taken away half my household, I am homeless and cannot cover the contributions on my own. 

So your support is greatly appreciated and helps keep this petition seen and heard by as many as we can get. 

 

 

 

*Tristan

I am so sorry you are in that hell. 

I'm sorry about your kid and about what you are going through. It's the type of women like that that make it harder for us all to be believed and treated fairly and for many men to have their faith in good women restored. 

It's also another factor of DV laws that needs addressing and that's how men can and ARE regretfully abused themselves and if they themselves are not arrested for the crimes against them they are jeered and disbelieved by everyone. 

That's what makes you sharing your situation even more brave is in the risk of disbelief and insult you and many other men in or have been in abusive situations where they were the hurt party, go through that I am also fighting for. 

Be advised after this particular petition I will be starting another to address the unequal rights of Men in DV situations and laws.

Challenging the social brutality of acting like men are never the victim and fighting for better laws to protect innocent male victims of DV. Both male children and adults. 

You might want to be a part of that petition too. As always real DV is wrong but so is the exclusion and wrongful blame of men and male children in our society and it needs just as much improvement to treat men better as this current petition/bad laws do. 

All the best with everything and I hope you can get your kid back. The fact you won't bad mouth the mother to win favour is a sign of a good man and that makes you exactly the type of man I am fighting for because actual abusers do not give to women more grace than they deserve for their actions. You did the right thing for everyone else, especially your child. You should be proud, I know it would not have been easy. Good luck. 

 

 

 

 

*Melinda

I too know of many many men in the very situation this law makes easier to happen and are the reason why I am campaigning this petition in the first place. 

It helps to hear other's see it too, especially fellow good women. It's horrible that it's happening to them but it helps the matter be better seen, to hear other's experiences in this mess and shows it's not just men who go through these situations or sees them happening or that it's just men that see it as wrong to ever happen. Us decent women do too and we agree it's wrong. 

I also agree that this ABSOLUTELY should not be happening when there is no evidence to prove the man is guilty. I have lots of paperwork that proves mine is innocent (even the actual correct definition on what abuse is proves he isn't guilty) and yet the police have supplied no evidence to prove their case and thanks to this new law they never do have to supply it. 

This amendment to the law makes it that they NEVER have to supply evidence not even in court. This law lets them arrest and condemn a man taking him away without any proof and then claim it's to be able to act faster in real DV cases that when it's proven they got the wrong man they just insult the woman defending him and shrug saying; Well, imagine what could happen if this was a real DV case waiting for evidence can be dangerous so we acted in case. 

With a hint of 'you should be thanking us' arrogance. 

They care not for those of us that do not need to imagine what happens when real DV is ignored. Such as the case of my history. For two and a half decades my birth family's abuse that nearly killed me many times was ignored they even later changed my right to refer to myself as a DV survivor because the abuse was family not a lover. 

Then they simultaneously changed domestic violence to family domestic violence but ironically (and quite stupidly) doesn't include DV cases from family such a mother to child or siblings to siblings or uncles to nieces ect it now covers ONLY man against woman in a romantic situation even though it's called family domestic violence. 

Thus allows ALL men to even appear to be involved with a woman and a complete stranger on the streets can wrongfully accuse him and that man is ruined. There needs no evidence of abuse just a suspicion that the man is romantically involved with a woman. 

They in fact spend more time trying to trick women into confessions of love for a man and/or proving a relationship than they around proving any abuse ever happened/is happening. 

Even many that have proof that the woman is abusive actually just blame the man and have even gone as far as to swop names around in the reports so it looks like the man did what was actually done to him. This includes also cases between child and parent. 

Never is the evidence required before matters precede and there is no due process to ever correct an accusation that's not true or is a misunderstanding. 

Nor are there any consequences to those whom lie or get it wrong. In fact legal and social have gathered to protect those in our situation that have gotten it wrong and it's become a political matter bigger than our case alone as I've uncovered many of whom have been wrongfully charged because of this new law that has now become a case of they cannot admit they messed up without egg on their faces and thus all rally to protect those whom did this to us while I the constantly claimed protected party have been hung out to dry alone.  

Cops with this new law can take anyone they want and actually often have based on ignorance of mental health issues or even prejudices against those whom are poor, homeless or unwell. As is our cases. 

Effectively saying because some men are a threat that all must be tarnished with the same brush and arrested and charged and taken from actually healthy loving families without any chance EVER to correct it or prove they are innocent. 

Even having the woman perceived as a victim prove they are not is just ignored and belittled quite badly. As I have been socially out cased and often verbally and even been physically harmed by even cops for standing up for the one I love and are mostly perceive as deluded or in denial of my loved one's character. 

Even worse they've made him feel he is a monster just because he's unwell and preyed upon a vulnerable man at his worse times just so they can feed the social narrative of men are all bad and all women that think otherwise must just be brain washed by the man. It's adolescent and sick! 

It's also more often than not completely incorrect. Like now.

So, thank you for adding your voice to this and saying what you have observed. It helps us all a great deal and with every person that signs and says they agree this law is wrong makes me feel less alone in this fight. That means more than words can ever say. 

Thank you.