Sarah told grandma and I that she was punched by one of the older adopted boys in the foster home. I reported everything that Sara told me to the CSW, she did nothing to investigate, she didn’t even report the allegation. Meanwhile, a separate allegation was made against the foster parents.
The CSW told us that Sarah would be returning home.
We brought Sarah home for visits, while the CSW took 5 months to report to the court that we had cleared the background, and our home was approved for placement.
During those five months, the foster parent filed for De Facto.
Somehow we were still able to continue visiting our daughter at home and what was the purpose of this, after two years, we did what the social worker wanted us to do.
How did this foster parent go around the CSWs recommendation?
The DCFS “CSW” Tells Maternal Grandmother and I, that the non-relative foster care provider is going to adopt Sarah.
Sarah was nervous when she heard the sound of a man’s voice she had never lived with us. We had home visits, 4 days a week 3hours each day, for 2 years. But the majority of her time was spent in the foster home. Where there were four males living in the foster home.
Sarah cried when our home visits were over, she didn’t want to go back to the foster home. I don’t know sign. language, but I was determined to figure out what she was trying to tell us. I researched the ASL gestures Sarah made, all I could come up with is (male figure)- her hand went forehead.
If my daughter was so bonded with the foster parents, why was Sarah so upset.
Our frequent home visits ended- the CSW said they would take place at the DCFS office. They were significantly reduced to twice a week, CSW argued and said Sarah’s grandmother was no long allowed to visit, but then said that we needed a DCFS supervisor.
After 2 visits in the DCFS office, The foster parent stopped showing up altogether. But, I showed up anyways. I stood outside scanning the parking in front of the DCFS building.
During the two visits at the office, My daughter and I drew pictures on the ground outside with sidewalk chalk..
After two months, of showing up, realizing Sarah was not going to be coming, I wrote on the ground:
It’s not that I accepted and what was happening, because I was against it.. Seeing how my daughter felt, made this decision even more painful. I felt helplessness.
That CSW told us that we were going to bring Sarah home. Sarah should’ve been placed with us, right away. Why did we have to wait for five months to get results of a background check? The foster mom filed for de facto guardianship during those 5 months.
We shouldn’t have had to wait.
We are Sarah’s family.
I was heart broken.
I took everything I had ever bought for Sarah- and I left all of her things outside of the DCFS Building.
DCFS CSW is heartless.
CSW told me I could come to the office and briefly see my daughter whilst the foster parent picked up and packed everything into her van.
Here are some of our memories.