It has been full five months already since Ms Dhansari Budha Magar arrived in the UK with the hope that the country, her late husband Rifleman Manjit Bura Magar once served with all his honesty and integrity, would be kind to her.  Ms Magar thought the Home Office would listen to her plea and allow her daughter to join in eventually so that they would be able to live happily as one family unit again.  Ms Magar thought she could afford to live in her new chosen country with the help of welfare and benefits that she was entitled to.  Ms Magar thought she could get the much needed medical help and attention without which her life was much more harder than just miserable.  Ms Magar thought in her new chosen country she could avoid the stigma that she has brought upon herself and to the family in the eyes of the Nepalese community for being mentally incapacitated.  Ms Magar believed in justice and Human Right. Above all, Ms Magar believed in humanity.  

If only Ms Magar knew the stark reality!  If only Ms Magar understood her thoughts and beliefs are fundamentally flawed and have no place in the modern society.  She would have managed her aspirations and adjusted her belief accordingly.  The UK has Brexit and austerity to deal with at this current time which are far greater concerns to deal with than to address the wishes, feelings and circumstances of Ms Magar individually.  Further, Ms Magar did not know that the adult health and social care is at a breaking point here in the UK.  

Ms Magar should have known better wherever she goes, there will be the presence of the community in various shapes and sizes which brings with it its niche biases and mentality.  It is known that Nepalese would attach stigma to mentally incapacitated individuals and nothing significant has been done yet to tackle such social crimes.  Why would the Nepalese community living in the UK be necessarily different unless they help themselves to overcome these biases with active learning.  Ms Magar should have known and understood better why we are struggling to find the Nepalese carer to meet her needs and why the Nepalese community try to avoid her where possible.  Ms Magar should have learned to integrate with and accommodate all ethnic groups; mainly she should have learned to speak English if she was going to live in the UK but she did not.

Ms Magar did not have a clue that the system lacks communication within and among itself.  This is the reason, Ms Magar and her carers get messed up and are made to run to and fro to get the simplest of the simple medical help.  The woes of the hospital stay for 52 days and nights at Hillingdon Hospital, NHS Trust can not be covered in one whole day if Ms Magar is to write all that down and reflect on it.  It has been 17 days since she had this incident and her stitches still remain in her head.  The foreign body which should have been taken off already and which could cause infection anytime if anything happens.  She has been made to visit GP after GP at this cold weather which takes extra hours due to her slow pace and difficulty with parking.  GP says go to A&E and get the clipper.  A&E says they won't give it so go back to GP.  GP refers to another GP.  Another GP says we don't hold the equipment.  Go back to your GP and so on and so forth.  Do they not communicate with each other before making referrals?  Why would Ms Magar and her carers have to make useless trips.  Is this because they do not have a life or anything to do better?  When she had her stitches done at the Hillingdon Hospital A&E after the fall, the doctors struggled for hours to stitch them up for not having the right kit.  That meant Ms Magar had to bear the pain for hours.  What else she could have done apart from moaning,  crying and asking to leave her alone.  This account is nothing if you know what she has been through and how she has been he victim of system and health organisation.

Ms Magar should have known that the DWP would not give her the pension so easily.  Despite the disability and mental incapacity, DWP believes that she is not entitled to the Attendance Allowance as she did not live in the country for last two years.  If you did not live in this country for last two years, you are not allowed to be disabled or even if unfortunately you are, you will be treated as able person.  So live with it.  Ms Magar should have come to the UK with the provision of at least one year to survive.  Well she did not know the rule beforehand and she is already in huge debt to make her journey to the UK so far.

Ms Magar has been systematically mistreated and has been the victim of unfair treatment by the Hospital Social Services and the Hillingdon Social Services time and again.  Ms Magar is an evidence of how Social Services can fail and neglect elderly person.  It is over three months now since she is being assisted to live an independent life at her own property but none of the carers who have been doing all the hard work from day one are paid yet.  How long someone can work without a pay.  The allocated Social Workers who are employed by the Local Authority at the Civic Centre to address her needs and uphold her best interest definitely can not last that long.  However, they are good at one thing - to cover everything in paperwork and to make the service uses and supporter feel powerless.  

Ms Magar should have known humanity died long ago when humans with hearts and minds died.  Ms Magar outlived her generation only to see that very few people are born with hearts.  She did not know that even people with hearts are compelled to fry and eat their heart to adapt with the system and the way of life.  Ms Magar's expectation of generosity and kindness in today's generation is something unattainable.  People make the rules and the government.  If there is no faith in people, how would she expect the government to fulfil her wishes and desires.  Why is she important anyway?  She is just another unfortunate widow of an expendable Gurkha soldier.