I want to start by saying that i have been in my sons life as a active father since he has been born. Including the first two weeks of his life when his mom was physically impaired after giving birth i took over the responsibility of changing his diaper, feeding, and tending to him completely by myself. I went to the court myself and put in a place a custody order so that my time with my son was protected. I was able to get my son for 3-4 days out the week. His mom Brianna Brown has violated the custody countless amount of times. Any time it was my custody there always seemed to be excuse ,"can we switch day?", "i have to go into work" , etc. Recently my sons mom took great lengths to keep me away from getting my son by putting a restraining order on me in Jersey. The basis of her restraining order is that instead of allowing her to disobey the custody i told her that if I dont get my son this week im going to call the cops to enforce the custody order. I didnt put hands on her, didnt threaten her, i simply requested that the custody order be followed. The restraining order was put into place and i havent seen my son since. With that being said i was supposed to have two court dates and both were pushed back after driving 2 hours from Philadelphia to be told the date is pushed back another 2 weeks. Recently she told the court that she couldnt come becuse she had to go to work but i also have to work and i missed work both days to travel to Nj for nothing. Along with that she makes salary i make commision if she misses a day she still getting paid, if i miss a day i get nothing. I have paid $5000 for my lawyer and have dealt with the emotional trauma of not being able to see my son. Putting a restraining order on someone should be used for real threats people that are in great danger and fear. Not a tool to help you custody case. This biggest one who is hurting is my son Jakai because im sure he is confused why he hasnt seen his Dad. His mom has reached out to me multiple times after she filed the restraining and has made a statemtent saying that i declined her request to facetime my son on his birthday. If i contacted her back i would breaking the TRO and would be sent back to jail. This all just a slap in the face, a injustice to real domestic violence victims, and just not fair and right. My sons mom also has made claims that I have people around Jakai that pose a threat but I would never let anything happen to my son at all. I live completely by myself and I dont bring people around Jakai that would do anything to him. I love my son with all my heart and all i ever did was fight to be in his life. I shouldnt have to fight this hard and go to court date after court date just to see him. So i am asking that you help me put public pressure on essex county to atleast give me a fair trial so that i can prove my innocence and see my son. I am not going to stop and until my time with him and fair and protected. Taking a son away from his Dad is evil and it has led to a deep deppresion and also is a disservice to the child. Again a restraining order is for people that need protection not a tool for custody.