This is a military family custody battle, with all the common similarities of other women's stories of abuse throughout the marriage and with the active military member filing for divorce in a state that is not the home state of the ex-spouse. Earlier this year, we went to court based on a disagreement of scheduling summer visitation. I was planning to take my son with my family to visit my brother who is in the Navy, this June. My abusive ex-husband had requested his two weeks of summer visitation in June. I had informed him that there were already scheduled plans and offered other available dates. This resulted in my abusive ex-husband filing an "Emergency hearing" over this issue instead of trying to work this out as adults. The hearing was before the court three times which resulted in a lot of conflict and ended in an order granting my abusive ex-husband extended visitation time with our three year old son. The courts illegally and unjustifiably granted modifications from our judgment of absolute divorce and visitation order to be added to the summer access order. The courts ignored my scheduled visitation dates in the order and allowed my abusive ex-husband to have my dates. We started out with the first hearing in March and in April, for the second hearing over the issue, my abusive ex-husband's attorney was asking the courts that our son be taken from the State of Texas-however it was possible with me being in Maryland- and immediately given to my abusive ex-husband to begin visitation. This means that I would have missed Mother's Day. I have  missed my scheduled Memorial Day access with my son because of this illegal visitation. My abusive ex-husband was only to have four weeks of visitation and the courts issued the order stating that visitation would be from May 18, 2014 through June 26, 2014. I then will get my son back for about 7 days and will have to return our son on July 4, 2014 and will end on August, 8, 2014.  This was completely unfair for myself and most importantly for my son. My son has exercised some visitation with my abusive ex-husband and those visitations have proven to cause anxiety and other effects of stress from "lengthy" visitations. I need to have my son returned because of the emotional stress he is displaying during our weekly calls and from the suffering of past anxiety and behaviors from visitation he is still trying to adjust from. (The courts are also refusing to hear about this anxiety.) My son is still a successful nursing toddler and I believe that not only is my abusive ex-husband's goal is to take my son away, but to stop him from being a nursing toddler. As I have mentioned, in our order, we are allowed telephone access every Monday, Wednesday and Friday and it has been not even two weeks since my abusive ex-husband has had our son in Maryland, and he is telling me on the phone that he wants to come to "mommy's home" and "are you going to pick me up?" These are very difficult phone calls to have with my son. What do I tell my three year old? I can not explain the legalities of this case to a child so young. This visitation was wrongfully forced on my three year old and I want the courts to order their summer access to be stricken and dismissed for the emotional damage they are causing my son. I am afraid with this visit, there will be lasting and even irreversible damage to my son and his development. 

  My attorney has filed a motion soon after the order was granted, to have a hearing concerning the summer order, how illegal it was to make modifications in an access order. The Frederick Courts-both the judges and assignment office- are refusing to schedule us a hearing date and constantly give us excuses as to why they can not provide us with a date for the hearing to alter or amend the judgement that was passed May 5, 2014. It is all a set up to keep my son away longer. But who is this benefiting? It has been almost a month since we filed for this hearing. Excuses, excuses, and more cover ups as to why this has not be scheduled on the docket. The judges have the power to over turn this order and issue a new order to have my son returned. They just refuse to do so because of some under lying corruption scheme they want not to be uncovered. It is very sad how this is all for their ego, pride, and even political gain through the system. In June there will be a two day merits hearing-to discuss and rule on all outstanding issues. My abusive ex-husband has a motion for modification and contempt on me and is asking the courts to reverse custody in the June hearing. There are no grounds and proof I am a bad mother to my son. I feel this was both my abusive ex-husband, his attorney and the judges plan all along, to take my son for this extended summer access, have a hearing for contempt and modification, so they can falsely charge me, put me in jail and award custody to an abuser whom never wanted our son in the first place. The agenda for his attorney is political gain to be Master. She wants to "win" cases so she can have an open seat into the court house when she is through with my case. 

Please help me get my son back, to stop his suffering and over turn this illegal order. I feel if nothing gets done about this, my son will be in danger in the care of my abusive ex-husband. With your help on signing my petition, we can over turn this order and make the June hearing harder for them to win. My freedom and liberties are at stake but it has to start with this petition to over turn the illegal order of access.    

If there are attorney's in Maryland and in Texas reading this, please check out the Maryland docket in the case Warren v Warren. If you wish to help me, please do not wait to contact me. 

By: Cassandra Secor

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