Say no to victim blaming and discrimination against domestic violence victims.

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Yesterday, I as A mother of 3 was victim blamed for being attacked in the past. Upon an initial meeting with FACS NSW when applying for care for my Great nephew I was told " they were concerned about me and they are only worried that I need time to lovely i thought. I was wrong. What a slap in the face. A comment made on the facs facebook page after I received a letter declining my application because of being a " victim" ( in their words as well) by a "fake profile" stating that I was inadequate to care or protect for my children because I was a dv victim. Yes. I was unable to care for my nephew or children full stop because something happened to me that I could not help. This why by a Government agency that is “ supposed to help you”. I just felt more crap about how my life panned out than what I already did. Did it help me? Hell no, because it was in the past. I fought it and broke free. With no help but my own. I just got told that because someone else chose to attack me, that I was a bad person. Wow!!!! How dare you victim blame. Victims suffer enough and it is not okay to ever place blame on a victim. It is not ever okay to punish a vicim for someone else’s wrong doings. How dare you!!!!! You slandered my parenting capabilities which had nothing to do with it. My children have everything. Private housing across from a beach, private schooling, after school activities, an endless supply of clothing and love. Have no worry that my children are very well cared for and protected. I have no criminal history, not even a speeding fine, I have worked with children, in hospitals etc. I am very skilled. It's amazing that it was posted in the news today that Grandparents won custody of their children against facs because facs deemed the children to be more suitable with their Father who had a criminal history and mental illness then them. So Apparently I am less qualified as a victim to something I had no wrong doing in than someone WITH A CRIMINAL history. 

Victim-blaming comes in many forms, and is oftentimes more subtle, and unconscious than Metzger’s tirade.
ny time someone defaults to questioning what a victim could have done differently to prevent a crime, he or she is participating, to some degree, in the culture of victim-blaming.
While victim-blaming isn’t entirely universal (some individuals’ experiences, background, and culture make them significantly less likely to victim-blame), in some ways, it is a natural psychological reaction to crime. Not everyone who engages in victim-blaming explicitly accuses someone of failing to prevent what happened to them. In fact, in its more understated forms, people may not always realize they’re doing it. Something as simple as hearing about a crime and thinking you would have been more careful had you been in the victim’s shoes is a mild form of victim-blaming

Elizabeth Broderick, Sex Discrimination Commissioner, Australian Human Rights Commission says that Having domestic/family violence as a new protected attribute in anti- discrimination legislation can provide another avenue of protection for victims and survivors who experience discrimination, as well as lead to improved measures for addressing domestic/family violence.

 That’s right, the Australian Human rights commission is strongly aware and against discriminating against domestic violence victims. 

Under international human rights law, it is well established that domestic and family violence is a violation of human rights


The United Nations Convention on the Elimination of All Forms of Discrimination against Women requires governments to take appropriate measures to eliminate discrimination against women

 Discrimination is one such challenge. When experienced, discrimination can compound the harm of the original acts of violence.

There is a sound case for introducing domestic or family violence as a protected attribute within existing anti-discrimination legislation at the federal, state and territory level. Such a protected attribute would recognise that those who are or have experienced domestic and family violence should not be subjected to discrimination as a result of that experience. Introducing domestic and family violence as a protected attribute would offer protection from discrimination not currently available under the SDA.


Including domestic and family violence as a protected attribute under anti-

discrimination legislation is likely to:

-increase understanding of the individual and systemic implications of this issue in education, housing, employment and other areas

-facilitate the adoption of measures to eliminate existing, and prevent future, acts of discrimination (eg. where women disclose experiences of domestic or family violence and are dismissed as an ‘unreliable’ staff member)

- facilitate the adoption of policies and procedures to support victims and survivors of domestic and family violence in a range of settings

- assist changes to workplace culture and other environments so they become more supportive of victims and survivors, and

- foster an environment in which victims and survivors can feel free to disclose their violent situations and the impacts with a view to developing effective means of resolution and redress.


Say NO to victim blaming and categorise this as discrimination as it should be. I am a loving and caring Mother, well respected in my area. I have volunteered, helped teenage school girls and woman who have got out of Gaol previously, donate to fundraisers constantly. I am a good person and have done nothing wrong. Do not punish me for the wrong doing of someone else and something that I am free from now.