6 Responses to My Care Story: ‘Social workers pwitnessed my isolation, documented it and did nothing’
Lesley p Lyon October 2, 2025 at 11:09 am #
My heart is sore from reading about your experience. My dear child, believe that you are loved. Feel arms around you, kisses are free for you, I wish I could hug you. You are now a voice which must be heard and believed . X
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Winifred' kieran October 2, 2025 at 11:46 am #
Hi is there a book to read of this.
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Frances October 2, 2025 at 12:03 pm #
As an experienced foster carer I agree wholeheartedly with the need for an emotional connection between carers and children. However, the damage caused by early trauma can mean that despite years of effort, this can be difficult if not impossible to achieve. Abused children can push away those softer emotions due to many reasons not of their own making, the result of which can completely upend a family’s dynamics to the extent of breakdown. To care for a damaged child is emotionally exhausting and overwhelming, continually giving out and only sometimes feeling successful. Carers can become burnt out with nothing left to give. I give thanks for the positive relationships I have achieved over the years.
I don’t agree with the idea that finances should be scrutinized. What job requires the employee to detail how they spend their wages? And make no mistake, to be a carer is a paid position that generally negates the ability to work elsewhere. If the child is well fed and clothed, well resourced, given holidays and outings, treats and gifts the same as other children in the family, that is what should be noted. There is more value in an afternoon picking fruit and cooking together or playing games than in an expensive iPad.
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Nicola Hasan October 2, 2025 at 12:11 pm #
I am so deeply sorry this has happened to you Anastasia. There are no words to describe the lack of love, care, nature, support and devotion that you missed out on lovely due to having so called foster carers who were entrusted to care for you, in addition to the social workers who failed to respond. Absolutely heartbreaking…I am
crying on my break. I am a
fostering social worker of 25 years
and an assessor of prosptive foster
Carers.
You have strengthend my resolve to ensure that we never loose sight of the child and moreover to remember that adults can go to great lengths to deceive and are often hidden in plain sight… With all my I wish you all the love and support you deserve, for you to heal and overcome this horrendous experience and that you find peace knowing that your story has been told, HEARD and acted upon to help other vulnerable Looked After Children in Care. May our gracious Heavenly Father bless you Anastasia x Much Love
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Dennis October 2, 2025 at 1:07 pm #
Yep can truly believe this l spent the whole of my formative years in care throughout the 50s and 60s whilst you get a bed and food, the emotional battering has left it’s scars but still grateful that I wasn’t left on the streets
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Anne Lyttle October 2, 2025 at 1:08 pm #
What a beautifully thoughtful and thoughtful provoking piece, Anastasia. It sounds like you are on your way to producing beauty from the ashes of a – to say the least – difficult childhood. How isolated you must have felt.
May you reach your goals and if not, then may you experience authenticity in others, connections and friendships along the way. It sounds like you deserve to. With best wishes.