Why use this form of abuse?

I believe perpetrators use this form of abuse to fund their addictions, to gain access to unlimited resources to self medicate undiagnosed mental health issues, instead of facing their trauma/childhood wounds. It’s a survival tactic that started in childhood and now it’s too painful to heal. Protecting one’s self and projecting onto others is a way to feel safe and keep in control.

This does not make it right. If you’re concerned you may be having these issues it’s ok, help is out there. Self compassion is important to heal but hurting others is not. 

We know it’s very nuanced and that’s why I’d love other people’s insight. 

You can share yours here anonymously if you wish, it’ll help people that don’t understand to gain insight.