Hi,

I worked with this role for this women for 6 months. She was her own boss and the patient as well. She had complex PTSD, Anxiety, OCD and Autism and bipolar disorder. I wouldn't share this post otherwise, but she was the most awful person to work for. Critical, a bully, horrible about every detail of yourself. Says, I couldn't work in a team or work with her well- I believed it! She was manipulative i was very confused if she was nice or not the first two weeks she was kind with nasty comments through in but I thought nothing of it. It was the honeymoon period. Other staff said she was horrible and said I was treated the best not sure how it looked like that as I felt I treated worse than them. She told me to not wear so much make- up to work- asked me if I thought I was pretty and asked a male member of staff if he thought I was pretty. I wasn't allowed to bring my shoes in so they got soaked in the rain a few times. She didn't like where I put my bag so I had to move it. All staff had to wear slipper in the house she kept 2 or 3 pairs. She had a mulitple personality would switch on the charm to neighbours at times whilst calling them bullies and saying they were talking about her and nasty to her everyday. That they ignored her. Then she goes and is all friendly to one of them. I got the wrong things from the supermarket twice she shouted at me and put me down and said I didn't listen. I had to write it down each time and then she would tell me to write it down. I would text her in store in case I forgot. I had issues with anxiety. She told to never tell anyone what goes on in here. I asked her what she meant she said it was confidential and I wasn't allowed to tell my parents. She said I needed to move out in summer and not live at home anymore. She went to court against a laywer who she thought mistreated her. She enjoys bashing people online and calls herself the keyboard warrier and laughs with glee. Perks were added to the job then taken away. Or she would say the next day why did you do that. She gave me food sometimes then if I got something wrong she would hold it against me. I got a muffin, I felt extremely guilty about it, I forgot one thing and she said but I gave you a muffin you werent concentrating enough. I walked her extremely rude and spolit dog, who I hated. She would refuse to walk for ages. I hoovered for too long compared to the other PAS. She constantly compared me to the 'master' students. Said I needed to do a masters. She lost all her credit cards all 8 of them on the bus and it was my fault that i hadnt checked her loosing them or ask if she had them. We went to a library to use a payphone it didn't work she told me to ask the lady three times something but I told her she said I couldnt use it. We went to a garden centre and bought plants she said some rubbish to the staff owner and embarassed me. I felt sometimes her identity was a scam. She did a weird thing on the bus panicked and acted odd I looked at her as I felt she faked it she immediately stopped. She said and I quote 'No one is safe, I come after everyone - even nurses.' then she laughed evil. She came after me wrote 6 emails to all my university lecterers and the principal. I feel she is almost a criminal she hides behind her conditions and thinks everyone is racist. Although in the cinema she cycled her legs and hands like an autistic person and laughed too loudly oddly and cried under a blanket. Gave me her popcorn to finish. Two adults told us to be quiet 3 times and she looked sheepish and said why did he say that. I didn't know what to do except say sorry. They looked at us funny. I saw films I would of rather seen with my family than her. She had a huge teddy collection £100 each and sold them all. Vintage. She has had 13 staff and counting over the years. And gets rid of them fast. One girl only lasted 2 weeks and got fired for being too nice she got her a slow cooker and was chinese taiwainese too. They got on well and she made her believe she was so nice. Me and employer fought a tiiny bit new staff member said I was a bitch. She was manipulted by her. It just got worse and worse I was her punching bag she would shout and rant at me. Very easy to say wrong thing and she gets super upset. I had to watch a video of her culture on the street walking along an on the bus. I felt i saw her in a taxi twice once miserable and victim sad like another time clear faced and sitting up rod straight. If it was both her she has two personalities. She tried to get numerous lawyers and retianers and estage agents fired and reported them. Phoned the law office many times and I had to sit and listen and of course she was wrong. she got thrown out of 4 colleges and universities as too much trouble. Very confusing character. I had 2 weeks of nightmares after working with her. And terrible leg trauma. I had a strange metal issue since I cant stop muttering I feel its cause of this. I did everything wrong. Then when I did things right she was either very kind and said well done or rude and made off hand comments. Forced me to talk about my friends then blamed me when I did. I was vunerable and she exploited that. Although she eventually said I understood her the most. She got bullied alot and disbelieved she went to the police at the time I thought she was lieing but I think it will be all true she is too traumatized and upset about life not for it too be. Her husband found her extremely controlling and they have a non- existent relationship. Basically she shouldn't be going there but does. I had to take food round there and drop dog off. We went to the highland show. me and one other staff came. She let me do as I wanted at the end but then accused me of abandoning her. He went in taxi with him. Then she bad mouthed me. I got to watch the house races. He had to go with her to look at stuff I didn't know my way around. She said I could get food but then complained to two random girls when I did when it took 16 mins. She got her food and food for dog she walked away so fast I split my coffee over me. She said its not a holiday its work. She contacted me on my holiday and demanded to talk to me as other staff member didnt stay with her when I was away. It was stressful but i texted her for 2 days she texted 3 or 4 times each day then stopped. I did her food shopping alot and had to go search for her cards. Got lost and late coming back to hers. Sometimes, I got allowed to go home early or stay longer. I had to phone the police once and she kept repeating not to mention her address as the police might be racist and she had issues with them before maybe that was the reason. I could barely talk to the police I had to give my address. A lady was dropped off at her house she was swaying for ages and holding onto the fence. I thought she was drunk debbie said out of hospital. I went to talk to her asked if she was okay could I help her get to her house she said no and slurred her words her clothing was odd. I told the police and they sent someone round debbie wouldn't stop talking and demanding me to not talk to the police. It was a nightmare. Then she ranted about that for the rest of the day. #she meet my mum once. slightly odd meeting. I was 1 minute late once and I got in trouble. 

Please dont work for her. She with held me pay of £245 I think cause another staff member blocked the sink and I had to take over. We compensated her £50 I broke her fridge container and had to buy new one out of my own money it was a tiny crack.