Don't let your district president or your church leaders misuse the Eight Commandment to stop you from saying the obvious because they're too embarrassed to handle the problem.
“ . . . Yet if those who serve in offices of judgment fail to judge, they sin just as surely as a person who would act on his own accord without such an office. For in matters of justice necessity requires one to speak of the evil, to prefer charges, to investigate, and to testify.
This is no different from the case of a doctor who is sometimes compelled to examine and handle the private parts of the patient whom he is to cure. In the same way governments, father and mother, brothers and sisters, and other good friends are under obligation to one another to rebuke evil wherever it is needful and profitable.” - The Eight Commandment, Luther's Large Catechism.