1986, I realize that I had stayed in an abusive situation that wasn't going to change because my husband nor did I have an appropriate support system to make the necessary changes as individuals, nor as a family. Family and friends were talking as they were also being fed and led by a society that made justification for abuse. If you were of a certain gender, race, class, age, etc., abuse was invisible or never happened. Death, one way or another was the option that got persons out of an abusive situation. The law was still sweeping abusive behavior in marriages, under the rug, especially, if you were policemen, friends of the law or law makers. If the abuser had money, the abusee was told, "Child, don't you leave that man, let somebody else get him...stay, get bruised up, leave for a few days, go back home...

     Women shelters were being built for abused women. No programs were advertised for helping men abusers, nor were there any truth raised about women abusers. The women shelters were filled with hurting and hateful women, as counselors and as victims. After staying in a few shelters, I saw the differences made in our children. As a matter of fact, our sons were shut out.

     Being in shelters as victim and as a volunteer counselor/board member of women shelters, I received the revelation, "This is not what I want. Nor, what my family and I needed to positively progress in life.  I wasn't looking for persons to sit and encourage negativity, whether, it was pushing me back into an abusive setting or forcing me to keep my children separate from their father.  When I found myself in the midst of a group of "men haters", I began to write,"No Justification for Abuse". I realized : Fact 1. Being abused was NOT right. Fact 2: Being the abuser(male nor female) was  NOT right. There is "No Justification For Abuse".

    I thought that point went over well since then. And, I never thought that Iwould ever be defending a man being abused by a women to the extent of using the laws of "Domestic Violence" to keep them safe from the law recognizing and criminalizing the female abuser of the men victims.

But, this is where America is, today. Popular laws of Domestic Violence is wrongfully incarcerating men and letting women abusers go free to do the same thing over, again.

More in the book: "No Justification For Abuse". Lawmakers must include legislation that will keep men  and, particularly, young males who are victims, who watched their moms being abused by their fathers and their(moms) male partners. The younger males made promises to themselves and to their mothers, they will never abuse women, nor allow their own moms to be abused.