Petition to UK Parliament
Make 'Parental Alienation' a Criminal Offence.
Parental alienation needs to be a recognised form of child abuse and a form of recognised psychiatric harm punishable within the criminal justice system. Both children and parents have a Right to Private and Family life, so why should one party be enabled to interfere with those rights? There is currently little regard towards the term ‘parental alienation’ due to the absence of a definition but has been characterised by CAFCASS to state that it includes behaviours such as: constantly badmouthing or belittling the other [parent]; limiting contact; forbidding discussion about them; and creating the impression that the other parent dislikes or does not love the child. At the extreme end, it can become irrational contact denial – trying to force the child to reject the parent to make the ex-partner an ex-parent as well. Children do not have the power to ascertain their rights through the court systems; their parents are ultimately their voice and their safe-haven. They believe their parents will do the best they can for them… So, what happens when the residing parent turns the child against the other parent? Or accusations are made merely to prevent or restrict contact? Or the process of the court proceedings are purposely delayed? False accusations are made towards the non-residing parent to delay things further? Affects to the child: Emotional abuse, Uncertainty, Confusion, Hostile environments, Lack of communication, Loss of concentration, The loss of other important relationship such as siblings, aunts, uncles, nans, grandads etc. ...and many other negative effects in every aspect of a child’s life. Affects to the Non-residing parent: Loss of a relationship, Depression, Lack of support, Financial hardship after paying for mediation (and possibly refusal to mediate certificate dependant on residing parents co-operation) Court costs Cost for representation if needed. Costs of proving against false allegations (ie. Alcohol/Drug testing). Affects to the ‘Parent with care’: None? - Their ultimate aims were achieved, contact was prolonged, children are emotionally scarred and the parent with care gets away with no repercussions. Whilst I have closely witnessed many of the above factors during a Civil court case that was drawn out for over a year, domestic violence allegations in attempt to obtain legal aid, an alcohol misuse allegation delaying courts and costing close to £1,000 to prove otherwise and many, many other delaying tactics presented by the Mother to ensure that the Father was met with hurdles and barriers in reaching a Child Arrangements Order. I was originally appalled at the lack of regard for fathers and upholding their Human Right regarding their private and family life but had to take a step back and examine the Civil Court system objectively. I soon realised that the system works simultaneously alongside the help of CAFCASS and any other official whose involvement was needed in order to protect the child(ren) and if the judges were to provide more leniency to the ‘non-residing parent’ when faced with accusations, they could ultimately be subjecting children to dangerous situations in other cases and they are merely doing all the investigations they had to whilst putting child arrangements orders on hold. This system is wholly useful in investigating and tackling issues in ensuring the child’s safety. Unfortunately, the parent-with-care CAN and WILL utilise the fact false allegations mean investigations are needed and will sever any contact being established until innocence is proven. Falsified claims ultimately prolong the time to establish contact between the parent and the child, provides further costs for the accused parent to prove their innocence, provides additional stress and conflict in their private life, wastes time of Judges, provides longer waits for court dates, CAFCASS’ involvement is exploited but ultimately the biggest damage is directly to the children involved. There are currently no repercussions for preventing/limiting contact, causing the other parties distress, causing financial loss to see the child(ren) or for purposefully delaying proceedings; all of which is limiting contact between the child and their parent. What can be done to prevent false allegation cases? The best option is to prevent and deter any falsified claims as far as possible. Deterring the parent-with-care from delaying any Court proceedings will ensure the court procedure is dealt with quickly and efficiently. Dettering lies and falsified claims makes the situation for children less hostile. Making the bad-mouthing of the other parent 'parental alienation' prevents the emotional abuse children are suffering from or any evidenced discouragment of the relationship a criminal offence deters and prevents prolonged court cases and could potentially see more efficient co-operation from the parent-with-care. Contact should not be intentionally severed and evidence of such Act should be a Criminal Offence. I ask and seek your help to get this matter heard by Parliament. Children do not have the power to fight for their rights, help make sure 'parents with care' cannot restrict them!
Petition to European Parliament, Sir James Munby, Rt Hon Justine Greening MP, House Of Lords, UK Parliament, Theresa May MP
Help me get my son back
I am petitioning to have forced adoption stopped, for those who have never harmed a child in any way, and to get my son home. Late last year, proceedings were started by Bridgend social services, to safeguard my son, from emotional harm and earlier this year, it was decided by the social services and courts that my son would be placed for adoption, dispensing of my consent. This was my first and only child, and he was taken from me at birth, due to concerns of things I 'might do' in the future. Proceedings lasted seven months, and my appeals lasted another couple of months. I was abused as a child, and due to this I was diagnosed with post traumatic stress disorder, also I was previously domestically abused, however this stopped several years ago. Even though I had moved far away from my family, and I had separated from my partner at the time, to prioritise my son, and my mental health had no effect on anyone other than myself, the courts still decided that it was too high a risk to place my child with me. It was predicted that I would abuse my son, because my parenting skills would be learned from how I was bought up - even though I had actually completed parenting courses, and had never copied anything from my childhood. I had mental health reports stating that I am mentally stable and that my mental health doesn't show any obstacle to my parenting ability, and with it being my first child, my parenting skill is untested - however the court decided that because it's not a future diagnosis, my mental health condition made me a risk. I was also classed as being too vulnerable to parent a child, even though I had capacity assessments which said I have full capacity, mental health reports that say I am mentally stable, I completed all assessments, and attended all courses asked of me, (capacity assessments, mental health assessments, freedom programme, parenting course/connecting families) and I also self sourced personal development courses, however all of this was dismissed. I also attended contact sessions, where each session was recorded, in note form, by a supervising contact worker. These contact notes, noted everything I done during these sessions, how I interacted with my son, and my parenting ability. Upon reading these contact notes, written by the contact worker, it showed my parenting in a positive light, however this was dismissed in the court also. Although, I have Post traumatic stress disorder, and have previously been abused, I have NOT abused anyone myself, adult or child, emotionally or otherwise. I have no criminal record, warnings or cautions, I've never taken drugs, I do not drink alcohol and I have no addictions of any kind. I have never hurt anyone in anyway. I love my son, very much, and I miss him. He is coming up to being a year old now, and more than anything I want to have him home with me, I want him to grow up knowing how much he means to me, and knowing that I didn't abandon him or give up. I fought this as much as I could, and appealed the courts decision, but was unsuccessful, being told that its the law and that I cannot appeal again. So I want to get this law changed. Please help me get my son home. I also want to get the law changed, so that no other mother or father has to go through this. I want for it NOT to be an option for courts to place children for adoption, without consent, for anyone who has not committed a crime against a child, those who have no addictions, or those where domestic abuse is not or no longer present. I believe that if they have concerns, but no actual harm has occured, that at most, a child protection conference is held and a plan made, to work with the family, in order to give extra support if needed, or to meet regularly with families, to make sure that everything is going as it should, and to make sure that the child is being treated well. Children have a right to be with their birth family, and due to my child being taken at birth, his rights were taken from him, as due to being so young, he doesn't have the ability to communicate what he wants. Parents have the right to a personal and family life. However with the current family laws, it goes against this human right. It is stereotypical and discriminatory to predict that someone is going to hurt their child, because of how they were treated as a child. It is wrong on so many levels to punish someone for crimes that were committed by others! Where is the justice , and where are the mental health and human rights in the law as it stands? I worked with all professionals involved, and not one of them offered support. Not one of them acknowledged anything positive. They took all of my medical history, counselling notes, phone records, etc and they shared all of this personal information with many organisations and extended family. They went into detail about how I was treated as a child, and would ask if I ever enjoyed the abuse I endured. which is such a horrible thing to ask. They put me at risk many times by lying and twisting information, but I still didn't give up, and I never will. Statistically, the majority of adopted children, develop attachment issues, get drawn to crime, or drug/alcohol misuse, and also get a feeling of abandonment, like there is something wrong with them, that made their parents leave them. Therefore to adopt a child without parental consent, is emotionally damaging to a child. It is also damaging to the family who have lost their child, especially when they have not actually done anything for that to happen, and when it was based on a prediction. The courts should not be allowed to predict our future. In any other court room, a crime has to be committed, and evidence needs to be presented, no mistakes/errors/contradictions in evidence, before any verdict is made, however in family law it seems that it is all based on future preditions, and personal options, rather than on actual crime. Please help put a stop to children growing up without their birth family. *I would like to point out, I do not object to adoption, which is a decision the parents have made themselves, I do not object, if there is a genuine safeguarding concern (actual harm) I AM objecting/petitioning against adoption without crime and without parental consent. Put a stop to punishment without crime!
Petition to UK Parliament
A Change In The Law For Siblings Rights!
Ensure there's a legal entitlement to contact with siblings and half-siblingsIndividuals should be entitled to contact with their siblings (including 'half-' and step-siblings) under 18, unless the courts deem that there is reasonable concern this would have a negative impact on the child's welfare. As the law currently stands, there's no rights of access for siblings. More detailsThe 'nuclear family model' (a father, mother and their children) is no longer representative of the family dynamics within the UK. Therefore, we hope a law will be put in place to ensure siblings are entitled to contact with each other, as the law does not currently serve to protect that special, intimate bond they share. If the parent with custody decided to stop access to the other parent, the siblings suffer consequently - being unable to see each other. Or if the parents decide to disown a child that child cannot see their other siblings this is extremely detrimental and the siblings suffer especially when we discover we've no legal rights to a relationship!
Petition to UK Parliament, Matthew Offord, Rt Hon David Gauke MP, Nadhim zahawi, Andrew Brigden, Nigel Huddleston
Help Change Family Law. Support Children's Rights to Family. *Paragraph 4
Although they are greatly affected, and often left scarred in later years, children's views are not taken into account when family contact ends. Some children are denied contact with one of their own parents. Others are denied contact with their grandparents and wider family. The 'no contact' action taken by these parent/s causes immense pain and suffering. Some people have committed suicide, others experience a living grief that cannot pass in the way it does with the finality and closure of death. Many people are affected by this no contact action, yet only the wishes of the parent/s are considered. The rights of the child/ren, who are being alienated from their families, is denied. This is not an act of love on the part of the parent/s. Parental Alienation is widely recognised as emotional abuse. Child abuse. These children are simply weapons, used to cause harm to others. No loving parent/s would treat their child/ren in this way. All family members are important and their value should be recognised and acknowledged. Children should have automatic contact if that is what they want. A child centred approach, where a child has engaged in safe and regular contact (ie enjoyed a relationship), should be utilised. It is damaging & harmful to children to deny this, and ultimately results in the child's rights not being exercised. We are not adversaries of the Family Court, we know and love our children. We too see our children's best interests as paramount. The law needs changing to reflect this. Help us to give our children a voice. *This petition is for a change in family law, to include a provision such as in France, which states that 'the child has the right to personal relationships with his ascendants (grandparents and great grandparents) and that only very serious reasons can hinder this right'. This law respects the rights of children & their families and would avoid contact being forced via the court system. References: **UN Convention. Article 3: (Best interests of the child): The best interests of children must be the primary concern in making decisions that may affect them. All adults should do what is best for children. When adults make decisions, they should think about how their decisions will affect children. This particularly applies to budget, policy and law makers **UN Convention. Article 4: (Protection of rights): Governments have a responsibility to take all available measures to make sure children’s rights are respected, protected and fulfilled. They must help families protect children’s rights and create an environment where they can grow and reach their potential. In some instances, this may involve changing existing laws or creating new ones. (Abbreviated) **UN Convention. Article 12: Parties shall assure to the child who is capable of forming his or her own views the right to express those views freely in all matters affecting the child, the views of the child being given due weightin accordance with the age and maturity of the child.
Petition to Theresa May MP, Welsh Government, Department of Education, David Cameron MP
Stand together and make a change
Stop forced adoption and fostering
As parents all we want to do is protect, love and try our best to be the parents we can be. This is our happiness, our life so why do we allow local authorities to take our life away from us. I am fighting for myself, I am fighting for you and every other parent that is grieving for a child that is still alive, a children ripped from our arms, ruining innocent families causing trauma, torture and emotional harm from the removal of the probability of the unknown that may never happen, parent alienation. It'd the struggle like this that develop our strength. One decision. One change. One risk. One idea. That's a it takes. We have gone through one of the hardest things in our life and that one change,has the potential to make a 100 per cent difference in your life. Let's support, strengthen and encourage each other, somebody who saw more in you than anyone ever saw in you,fighting for our lives, we are parents and need to make a stand to stop innocent families ripped apart. Stop the torture, torment and emotional harm. Let's make a change, make a stand. Unite as one, we are stronger together and have the power to make a change dor every parent suffering...let's save our children. Words are power...voice of hope.. speak for those who can't...we have the power to make a change. Violations and exploitations. We're not ready to give up. Never give up..we are parents and we fight..fight for you and your children's rights. Your human rights and family rights. We have something no one else can give. A voice where words are power lets be heard. Let's put a stop to local authorities violation and exploitations of our rights and fight for our lives. Let's not give up. Keep our heads up and hold on be strong and stand together as one people who unite as one are stronger to together lets try and make a change
Petition to Human Rights Campaign, Theresa May MP
Family forced to leave their country of birth due to loopholes in the law!!
My sister is a British citizen. She has lived in England all her life and both her children were born here. She married young and moved to Italy with her husband. She visited home as often as was allowed and it was during one of these visits that it came to light that she has been in a domestically abusive relationship for many years. Emotionally and psychologically she was broken. She plucked up the courage to stay home and after opening up to family decided it was better for her and her children to stay here where she had the support of her family rather than return to her existence in Italy!! Since that time her then husband has sought to have the children returned to him in Italy stating she had illegally retained them in England. He initiated the Hague convention on the 1st October and after several court appearances in London my sister has now been told she must return to her marital home with both of her girls despite evidence from professionals stating her life would be in danger. She has lost all rights as a British citizen to protect her children in the country they were all born and our family is now being torn apart. Both girls have settled into life here joining school for the first time and socialising in a safe environment. It is through no fault of their own they are now being returned and all that is going to be taken away from them! They will not get to meet their new cousin who is due in 2 weeks time as they have to go back on 27th October. If my sister was to refuse to return she would lose her parental rights to the children!! As a family we are devastated by the outcome. We believe the tiny loopholes in the law have allowed an abusive man to once again control of their lives. The justice system is made to protect people but in this instance it is separating a family and sending a victim of cohersive control a form of emotional and psychological domestic violence back to her abuser. We want to make people aware of how this system supposedly put in place to help keep children and families safe is in actual fact not doing that! We need your support to bring this to the attention of the government and force a change in the law so no one else has to suffer like we have. So other vulnerable people can receive the support and advice they need to stop them being in the position my sister is now in. A second class citizen in her own country!!
Petition to Donald J. Trump, Donald J. Trump, ECHR, Theresa May MP, US Embassy London, Donald Trump, Brian Schatz, Mazie K. Hirono, Jeremy Corbyn MP, UK Parliament, Council of the European Union, NSPCC, The Sun, Change.org
Return this mothers children home!
This a petition regarding two children who were cruelly removed from their mothers care. These children would have wanted for nothing. Through the mother standing up for what she believed was right she stopped the man who raped her from having anything to do with her child. She endured 5 years of cruel, manipulative and abusive behaviour at the hands of this man. There should be punishments for people who ring childrens services maliciously..little do you realise how much damage you do. Her second child was removed and less than five weeks later ends up in icu! Unfortunately at this moment in time names cannot be mentioned but this second little angel deserves to be part of her birth family. To remove children from a home where they want for nothing and place them with strangers for no good reason is BARBARIC! Lets all work together to stop childrens services stealing children to reach nonsense targets or keep them in care for their own selfish gain. Social services and cafcass need a reform. The Uk courts just dont cut it!
Petition to York Family Court, North Yorkshire County Council
Help Get Sebastian Haden back to where he belongs, in the arms of his mummy and daddy
As many of you are aware, I Lost my son In a court hearing July 2016, the last time I saw him was November 2016, due to 'what ifs' over my mental health and Family background. I was only 16 years old when I found out about my son and did everything I could, everything right that is In all the books to look after Both of us before he was born. He was born by emergency c section after finding out that I had pre eclampsia, braving my thoughts I did it all for him. I was very ill, very anaemic and very weak after he was born. I asked for help when I needed it and was aware that I couldn't be perfect. I was getting better, then I developed Sepsis and had to get it dealt with quickly as it's a life threatening condition. So I was hooked up on machines for hours on end, not being able to attend to my son's needs, so my wonderful boyfriend helped Both of us. One day, after nearly being In better condition, social services knocked on my hospital room door, saying they were going to check my house to see if it's suitable, came back the next day apparently not so even though it was really tidy, I had to think of somewhere else to live. I spent one night with my son to prove I can look after him. But because of my severe anaemia I passed out with him In my arms, and he supposedly fell on the floor even though there were no external or internal signs of injury. And I was terrified. The next day we were In court and the hospital, who had treated me so badly, didn't give me the medicines I needed for the two hour journey to the court. I had spent 15 days In hospital and that was the first day I was allowed outside. My son was put on an care order and I never took him home from that hospital. I knew we wouldn't be getting him back from that point and we spent hours In a sterile room they suggested, trying to prove we can parent him. I was put In a Mother and baby foster placement with him miles from home, contact with family one hour every two weeks In a random room. The Father of my son and my wonderful fiance only got to see him for less than an hour a week with it taking longer than that to even get to us. The lady would take my son off me if I didnt calm him down within 10 seconds which stressed me and him out and it made it harder for us to bond. I wasnt allowed to be alone with him which also forced me to not be allowed to breastfeed him. He loved having video calls with his granddad, but if the people at the place knew they would be furious with me even though he loved seeing his granddad. I had til june and they ended my assessment at the beginning of may, not even giving me a chance. I saw people at CAMHS, and my Local doctor and they made a lot of assumptions and what ifs about my mental health, not helping me with anything they brought up. When I got home after all of these months of people saying these what ifs, the mental health worker at home said it was all because what social services and Everyone put me through, and because of all of that I now have ptsd. I truly loved my son, he was my world, even though I only saw him for 10 months, I loved him with all my heart and would drop everything In a heartbeat to give him a perfect home, and the best life I can give him. Unfortunately, we were pressured and bullied and it came to either we sign the paper for him to be adopted or the court would. He has been adopted, and has been for over a year now with that Family. I know they have good intentions, but he needs to be with me, he needs me, I am his mother and have been suffering night and day. Not even allowed pictures of him. I just want to get him home where he belongs, so he knows his family and multiple hearts can be mended, especially his. Even if we can't get him back into our home, I plead to recieve pictures of him, so I still know that he is alive and well.