Petition to Dr. Antonio E. Puente, Dr. Arthur C. Evans Jr., Dr. Jared L. Skillings, Dr. Earl A. Turner, Dr. Ashley M. Butler, Dr. Mary A. Fristad, Dr. Mary Ann McCabe, Dr. Marianne Celano, Dr. Gerald P. Koocher
New APA Position Statement: Some children are manipulated into rejecting a parent.
The American Psychological Association (APA) is the largest scientific and professional organization representing psychology in the United States, with more than 122,500 researchers, educators, clinicians, consultants and students as its members. This prominent group of leading professionals currently has no official position on whether children can be manipulated by one parent to reject the other parent who does not deserve to be rejected. This has provided too many people with the ammunition they need to cast doubt on innocent victims and to deny the existence of such a situation. The demands outlined below, if they are publically acknowledged, will end the debates and the controversies. A position statement by the APA will lift the long-standing stigma surrounding our situation that has driven away the vast majority of psychologists and other professionals. It will start to protect our families from therapists who do not have the expertise required to fully diagnose and treat our situation. It will start to protect our children from the abusive influence that has overtaken them. It will open the doors for adult children to find the true help and understanding they need so they can reunite with those they were pulled away from. A position statement will be the first step toward ending this nightmare. Our situation is not a child custody issue, it is a child protection issue. If you sign, and if you are comfortable with it, please consider sharing a summary of your story. Our stories are the force that will drive the changes we want to see. Thank you. As parents who have lost children to this epidemic, as well as those who support us: We demand that the APA formally acknowledge and bring to the attention of the general public that children can be manipulated by one parent to reject the other parent who does not deserve to be rejected.At the June 2010 Association of Family and Conciliation Courts (AFCC) Annual Conference in Denver, audience members at the Opening Plenary Session were asked to complete a one page survey. About 300 of the estimated 1,000 audience members completed the survey. Nearly all of the respondents to the survey (98%) endorsed the question, “Do you think that some children are manipulated by one parent to irrationally and unjustifiably reject the other parent?”AFCC eNewsletter, Vol. 6 No. 5, May 2011 (Page 5)The APA already recognizes that "refusal to visit a parent" and "parental undermining of the child’s relationships with the other parent" are "complex post-separation situations":Guidelines for the Practice of Parenting Coordination, APA, Jan. 2012 (Guideline 2a)The DSM-5 already recognizes "excessive parental pressure" and "unwarranted feelings of estrangement" as "Problems Related to Family Upbringing" under "V61.20 Parent-Child Relational Problem":American Psychiatric Association, (2013). Diagnostic and statistical manual of mental disorders: DSM-5. Washington, D.C: American Psychiatric PublishingThe American Psychiatric Association already recognizes the existence of pathogenic parenting practices found within "the marriage and family lives of patients with BPD" (Borderline Personality Disorder):– "parentify their own children" (role-reversal relationship)– "excessively bind their children to themselves" (cross-generational coalition)– "exert extreme possessiveness of their children" (suppression of child's attachment motivations toward the other parent)– "demand absolute, unlimited control [over their children] while threatening rejection" (child becomes a regulatory object)– "projection of disavowed elements of the self onto the spouse" (projection)– "revive the feeling of attachment to early traumatic and disappointing objects" (trauma reenactment)The American Psychiatric Publishing Textbook of Personality Disorders, (2005) (Page 364) We demand that the APA formally acknowledge and bring to the attention of the general public that manipulating a child in the manner outlined above is a form of psychological and emotional abuse which makes it a systemic, social problem that impacts society and causes devastation in families.Manipulation is a form of "coercive control" which the APA considers psychological abuse:Childhood Psychological Abuse as Harmful as Sexual or Physical Abuse, APA Press Release, Oct. 8, 2014Forcing isolation from family is considered a form of psychological abuse by the US Department of Justice:Domestic Violence, US Department of Justice, Oct. 6, 2015The APA considers childhood psychological abuse to be as harmful as sexual or physical abuse:Childhood Psychological Abuse as Harmful as Sexual or Physical Abuse, APA Press Release, Oct. 8, 2014“The U.S. Advisory Board on Child Abuse and Neglect has declared the problem of child maltreatment to have reached the level of a national emergency.”“[Child abuse (including physical abuse, sexual abuse, and emotional abuse) and neglect] often impedes the development of children and fosters psychological harm.”“Abused and neglected children often are not provided with treatment that may alleviate such harm and that may prevent further ill effects.”Psychological Issues Related to Child Abuse and Neglect, APA“Of greatest concern is the pattern of violence characterized by coercion and control, psychological abuse, intimidation and threats of harm, economic control, and often severe physical and sexual violence. Victims of such violence are at very high risk following separation and in contested custody cases and may be best served before and after divorce by court intervention.”Guidelines for the Practice of Parenting Coordination, APA, Jan. 2012 (Guideline 4)We expect that all mental health professionals would agree that teaching, conditioning, and/or empowering a child to be psychologically and emotionally abusive toward another person is itself a form of child psychological abuse.We expect that all mental health professionals would agree that this form of abuse becomes especially horrific if the child had previously formed a deep attachment to the person that they are now being manipulated into abusing. We demand that the APA formally recognize our families as a special population who require specialized professional knowledge, training, and expertise to appropriately and competently diagnose and treat.“Family law cases involve complex and emotionally charged disputes over highly personal matters, and the parties are often deeply invested in a specific outcome. The volatility of this situation is often exacerbated by a growing realization that there may be no resolution that will completely satisfy every person involved.”Guidelines for Child Custody Evaluations in Family Law Proceedings, APA, Dec. 2010 (Guideline 5)“The complex conflicts of interests and values present in many child maltreatment cases create needs for special training of psychologists and other professionals involved in such cases.”Psychological Issues Related to Child Abuse and Neglect, APA“Particular competencies and knowledge are necessary to perform psychological evaluations in child protection matters so that adequate and appropriate psychological services can be provided to the court, state agencies, or other parties.”“Professional competence in performing psychological assessments of children, adults, and families is necessary but often insufficient to address, competently and ethically, many referral questions in child protection matters. For example, because child protection proceedings specifically focus upon allegations or findings of abuse and/or neglect of a child, psychologists conducting assessment in these matters seek to develop sufficient expertise in assessment of child maltreatment that is often beyond the scope of general clinical psychology practice.”Guidelines for Psychological Evaluations in Child Protection Matters, APA, Jan. 2013 (Introduction & Guideline 5)“The practice of parenting coordination requires the acquisition and application of specialized psychological knowledge relevant to effective implementation of the PC (Parenting Coordinator) role.”“Review of these topics may not reflect a sufficient and exhaustive understanding of the content relevant to all parenting coordination cases. The PC may need to gain additional specialized knowledge or training.”“Given the unique and complex role of the PC, competencies for standard psychological practice are generally insufficient for competent functioning as a PC.”Guidelines for the Practice of Parenting Coordination, APA, Jan. 2012 (Guidelines 2a & 3)We expect a therapist who diagnoses and treats our families to be required to have much greater specialized knowledge, training, and expertise than a Psychological Evaluator or a Parenting Coordinator. We say "much greater" because, when acting within these roles, Parenting Coordinators are not allowed to diagnose nor treat, and Psychological Evaluators are not allowed to treat. We demand that the APA formally acknowledge and bring to the attention of the general public that attempting to clinically treat a child who is being psychologically abused in the manner outlined above, without a period of separation of the child from the abusive parent, can present a serious risk of harm to the psychological well-being of that child.“[Parenting Coordinators] understand that when intimate partner violence and/or child maltreatment is present or alleged in a custody case or ongoing litigation, parent–child contact may create opportunities for renewed intimidation, violence, or trauma and pose risks of abuse and exposure to the children.”Guidelines for the Practice of Parenting Coordination, APA, Jan. 2012 (Guideline 4) We do not bring you these demands because we think they are "a nice idea". We bring them to you because our children have been kidnapped from us, they are being psychologically abused, and we expect the proper authorities to protect them and to restore our families. We have found ourselves powerless to protect them ourselves. Only the mental health and legal systems have that power, but they have failed our families in every way. So now we are beginning to band together in order to demand that the mental health system listen to us and help us. There are an estimated 22 million families in the United States alone who are affected by this epidemic, and we intend to recruit every one of them to continuously contact the APA and make demands until action is taken to protect our children and to restore our families. What is happening to us is not some "new" phenomenon that just surfaced 30 years ago. What is happening to us is a timeless issue that has been happening since families ever existed. There is no need for the APA to conduct extensive research into our situation before they can help our families. The APA has already done such an incredible job of defining pathologies and psychological constructs that there is already a way to diagnose and treat our problem. Our situation is not some form of "new" disorder, our children are not suffering from some form of mental illness, "new" or otherwise. There is no need to define our situation as a "new" syndrome or a "new" pathology. Defining our situation as some sort of "new" pathology would be like trying to say that a person with athlete's foot and a cold has some sort of "new" disease, when in fact they just happen to have athlete's foot and a cold at the same time. Imagine the confusion if people kept insisting that when you have athlete's foot and a cold at the same time, you actually have some "new" disease that nobody knows how to treat yet. Imagine if doctor's couldn't get past the idea that if you have athlete's foot and a cold, then there was nothing they could do for you because nobody has done any research on this "new disease", so nobody knows how to diagnose it or treat it. So now hundreds of patients suffer with athlete's foot and a cold, without treatment, until years and years of research are completed, only to discover that, all they ever really had was athlete's foot and a cold. This is exactly the situation that our families are in. Everything that is happening to our families can already be diagnosed and treated using existing and well-established psychological principles and constructs. For all of us, we have found our situations to be composed of the following components: Cross-generational coalition Narcissistic/borderline personality pathology The pathology of splitting The pathology of projection The psychological decompensation of narcissistic/borderline personalities into delusional beliefs under stress Role-reversal relationships The attachment system Internal working models of attachment (schemas) Attachment trauma (disorganized attachment) The association of childhood attachment trauma to the formation of narcissistic and borderline personality traits The reenactment of attachment trauma patterns The misattribution of anxiety The misunderstanding of a grief response Any therapist whose domain of professional competence includes "Attachment Theory", "Narcissistic and Borderline Personality Disorders", and "Family Systems Theory", should be able to accurately diagnose and treat our families. They should already have everything they need to help us. When you mix a cross-generational coalition with the pathology of "splitting", you end up in the situation that our families are in. In order to survive emotionally, our children have had to become allied and enmeshed with a highly manipulative parent. The "allied" parent, through the enmeshment of our children, has created a trauma reenactment narrative where our children are induced into the role of the allied parent as a "victimized child". This trauma reenactment narrative is a false drama created from the decompensating delusional pathology of the allied parent. Our children have been assigned the allied parent's internal working model of the "victimized child" role. By way of our children's rejection, we have been assigned the allied parent's internal working model of the "abusive parent" role. This has allowed the allied parent to self-adopt and conspicously display their internal working model of the all-wonderful, ideally nurturing and "protective parent" role. The "bystander" therapists, attorneys, social workers, teachers, and judges will then become witnesses to and validate the authenticity of the false narrative being created by the pathology of the allied parent. In all of our situations we have found that the allied parent has: censured our children for expressing love toward us; coerced our children into adopting the allied parent's negative beliefs about and attitudes toward us; deceived our children into believing that we are bad and/or abusive parents, despite evidence to the contrary. The above actions of the allied parent have, over time, caused our children to: entirely reject us; treat us as dangerous, and/or treat us as inferior and punish us without mercy; hold grudges against us with no avenue of recompense and/or falsely accuse us of abuse. Psychologically speaking, the clinical symptoms that our children display in relation to the above are: a complete suppression of their attachment bonding motivations toward us; narcissistic/borderline personality disorder traits (but only in regard to us) which include:– grandiosity;– absence of empathy;– entitlement;– haughty and arrogant attitude;– splitting;and in some cases our children display the following phobia characteristics:– persistent unwarranted fear (DSM-5 Phobia criterion A);– severe anxiety response (DSM-5 Phobia criterion B);– avoidance of us (DSM-5 Phobia criterion C). intransigently held, fixed-and-false beliefs (delusions) regarding our supposedly "abusive" parental inadequacy. A therapist with the proper expertise, when they see all three of these clinical symptoms in our children, will be able to come to the conclusion that the symptoms could not possibly have spontaneously developed in our children. They had to have been induced by someone close to them. It will become evident to the therapist that the allied parent is inducing these symptoms in our children. The therapist, seeing that the allied parent is inducing 1) Developmental Pathology, 2) Personality Disorder Pathology, and 3) Psychiatric Pathology, will conclude that this is psychologically abusive, make an official diagnosis of V995.51 "Child Psychological Abuse, Confirmed", and take the appropriate measures to protect our children. The appropriate DSM-5 diagnosis for each of our situations is: 309.4 – Adjustment Disorder with mixed disturbance of emotions and conduct V61.20 – Parent-Child Relational Problem V61.29 – Child Affected by Parental Relationship Distress V995.51 – Child Psychological Abuse, Confirmed An accurate assessment of us and our parenting will find that: we love our children dearly, and they openly and freely loved us prior to succumbing to the influence of the allied parent; we are not dangerous and have done nothing to deserve being treated or punished by our children in such a harsh manner; we have not been "bad" nor "abusive" parents; our parenting will be found to have been entirely normal-range. You will find that all of us, as so-called "targeted" parents, act consistently with the findings of Dr. Jennifer J. Harman PhD and Dr. Zeynep Biringen PhD, who conducted research on a large group of targeted parents and found that: we are well versed in all the research findings; we are active in mental health and/or legal reform movements; regardless of the fact that we exhibit signs of severe trauma as a result of ongoing intimate partner abuse, complex grief from the unresolved loss of our children and being continually re-victimized by family court, we remain steadfast and persistent in trying to protect the health and well-being of our children; in the face of torturous adversity:– we stay true to our family values;– we do not engage in retaliation;– we do not discourage our children from having a relationship with the other parent, as long as it is safe. We, the "targeted" parents, and all of our families are all the empirical evidence that the APA needs to move forward toward a solution. A solution that does not involve years and years of court battles costing hundreds of thousands of dollars. A solution that mirrors what any abusive situation warrants: protection of the victim from the source of the abuse. We demand that the APA publish a position statement that acknowledges our four demands outlined above. Before any professionals can seriously help us, or even decide to look into helping us, it needs to be universally understood that this situation is real, it is abusive, it requires specialized expertise to diagnose and treat, and it is severe enough to warrant protection. A position statement with those four items will act as a springboard for mental health professionals to start digging into what is going on, without fear of being marginalized or ostracized. For more information on The American Psychological Association visit the APA website.
Petition to Parliament of Pakistan, Shahid Khaqan Abbassi, Punjab Police (Pakistan), Mian Muhammad Shahbaz Sharif
Justice for Zainab
On January 9, 2018, the corpse of seven year old Zainab was found in a dump in Kasur, a city in the Punjab province of Pakistan. The little girl's body showed signs of rape and strangulation. She had been on her way to a Quran class near her home when she was kidnapped. Five days later, her abused body was found discarded two kilometers away from her home. As of yet, the police have been unable to find the perpetrators and this is largely due to their incompetence and carelessness. Zainab's family claims the police did not take action after they reported her disappearance; it was relatives who recovered CCTV footage of Zainab's movements before she disappeared - not the police. The purpose of having a police force, a justice system, and a government is to regulate the law, prevent injustices from happening, and, when they do occur, ensure justice is provided. Time and time again, the Pakistani police, judiciary system, and government have failed us. Zainab's rape and murder is not a singular case but rather one of countless that occur in this region on a recurrent basis. Since 2015, over 700 cases of child sexual assault have been reported from Kasur alone. This revoltingly high number is to be blamed on the weak investigation system, which is both too slow and too inadequate to pursue these cases effectively - and on the lengthy judicial process, which prosecutes the criminals weakly at best, resulting in most culprits being acquitted. Our letter is to those who claim to be leaders and protectors of this country - the police, the judiciary, and the government. You are failing. You are failing when our daughters and sisters cannot safely walk outside. You are failing when young, innocent bodies are found in dumps, ruthlessly murdered. You are failing when these criminals are freely walking around after taking a lifetime of opportunities away from others. Do something.
Petition to Narendra Modi
Dear PM, please make rapists of women and children, accountable for their crimes.
Justice is a joke in India and The world knows it. The government can institute 1000 laws that punish murder, theft, rape, torture, etc. However, unless the national, state, local police/justice department's are willing to enforce these laws regardless of the religion, position held, gender or caste of the perpetrators of these crimes, it is ALL FOR NOTHING! My question to other foreign governments is, Do you really want to partner and conduct business with a government that delivers justice based on their caste biases? The world is watching and they demand blind justice! Sincerely, Jatinder Banga
Petition to The Honourable Ahmed D. Hussen
Victims Abuse & Mental illness from St. Vincent & The Grenadines granted asylum in Canada
St. Vincent & The Grenadines under the leadership Ralph Gonsalves of over 16 years has now become more known for rape and acts of crime against women than for our breadfruit and fresh fish. In January of 2018 the country observed mistreatment of a young female Vincentian named Yugge Farrell who was charged by the police for offence language by uttering “Dirty Bitch” to Karen Gonsalves the daughter in law of the prime minister. The charges occurred on the 4th of January 2018, on the 5th of January she was confined to a mental asylum at which point a video began to surface in which Ms Farrell expressed a long-standing relationship with Camillo Gonsalves. Camillo (PM’s son) allegedly began a relationship with Ms Farrell when she was underage and ended at her request due to his requests for illicit sexual performances. Ms Farrell also expressed knowledge of confidential information of corruptive behaviour by the administration which she would expose if need be. Exposing her abuse resulted in her confinement to the mental home while awaiting trial. Ms. Farrell has since been released and is pending trial. Ms. Yugge Farrell is one of many women men and children facing injustice toward her rights at the hands of Ralph Gonsalves and his increasing abuse of power. Recently the Director of the Child Development Division, Jemma Alexander indicated "20 per cent" of reported child abuse cases were as a result of sexual abuse, 37 per cent were physical and emotional abuse and 43 percent were cases of neglect. Female children were victimized more than boys and reports continue to increase in the category of sexual abuse. The United Nations in 2013 published a report of Human Rights Violation towards women in St Vincent and the Grenadines in which they name the country of 110k people as the fourth worst country of reporting rape worldwide. Women on numerous occasions have fled the country seeking asylum within Canada only to be deported back as their cries for abuse from their spouse, lover or relative/s are ignored by the police and also the Canadian government. In addition, a published report entitled The Shadow, by the Université du Québec à Montréal’s (UQUAM) International Clinic for the Defence of Human Rights and the St. Vincent and the Grenadines Human Rights Association cited that cultural prejudices against women and the trivialisation of violence within relationships leading to a cultural epidemic of violence. In addition laws such as Domestic Violence Act, provides limited protection with the avenue for legal support primarily through civil action against the perpetrator. St. Vincent is also left with only one shelter for abused women, accessible only after a protection order has been made at the Family Court. Over the past decade, it said more than 4,490 Vincentians — 4 percent of the current population — have sought asylum in Canada, the majority being women. Recent UN statistics state that in 2011, SVG was “the fourth-worst country worldwide when it came to its rate of recorded rapes. IWIN news publication excerpt; “Domestic abuse and incest are common — between 2000 and 2011, 60 women died from gender-based violence or at the hands of their partner — a staggering figure considering the under-reporting of cases and St. Vincent’s tiny population of 109,400.” “It was very shocking, actually,” said Emilie Guimond-Bélanger, a master’s student of international law and one of the report’s authors, who travelled to St. Vincent this summer. “There’s no system, there’s no protection for women, to make this violence stop.” Canada has been a safe haven for those seeking a safe living. Around 1,162,900 foreign-born people immigrated to Canada between 2006 and 2011. According to Stats Canada. We want the abused stemming from St. Vincent and the Grenadines to be granted asylum while awaiting hearing. This can provide the victims opportunity to receive treatment for their trauma while not facing victimization while aboard. We are frustrated with this regime of government of St. Vincent and the Grenadines parading their failing for the vulnerable as victories.
Petition to Justin Trudeau, Chrystia Freeland, David MacNaughton
We vow not to travel to the US until every child is returned to every mother.
In the US, children are being taken from their families, as punishment and a deterrent to people fleeing danger. While there is a need to process and detain anyone illegally crossing the border, this is beyond cruel and atrocious, and must be stopped. We as Canadians know that we were all travelers, immigrants and refugees. Its merely an accident of birth that it's not us in their place, looking for safety with our children. We as Canadians don't have a vote in US elections, but we can vote with our time, our money and our presence. This petition asks of the signatories to abstain from travel to the US until the children taken away by the authorities are returned to their families. What we ask of the leaders of our nation, is to bring our voices to your counterparts in the US. Let them know this is too far and we won't stand by and wait. This is too ugly to allow in our world, let alone our next door neighbors who are supposed to be better than this. Please say something. Do something. Sign and share.
Petition to Justin Trudeau
Canadian Government to Denounce Family Separations In the United States
The Liberal government needs to stand up to Donald Trump and the United States in regards to the detention of children and the US, Mexico border. The separation of families, especially young children, is a human rights violation. As our largest trading partner, we ought to make sure we only do business with countries that meet our values as Canadians.
Petition to Instagram, YouTube
Remove Lil Tay From Social Media
Taylor Tian, also known as Lil Tay, is being exploited by her mother, Angela, and older brother, Jason, for monetary gain. It is the fault of Instagram and YouTube for allowing this to continue. #SaveLilTay #HelpLilTay --- Resources: Child Protection Service Hotline (Los Angeles, California): (800)-540-4000 Los Angeles County Department of Children and Family Services: http://dcfs.co.la.ca.us/ Helpline for Children (Vancouver, British Columbia): 1-800-663-9122 Child Protective Services in British Columbia: https://www2.gov.bc.ca/gov/content/safety/public-safety/protecting-children/reporting-child-abuse ---