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Legalize Same-sex Marriage

    1. Nocturnus Libertus
    2. Petition by

      Nocturnus Libertus

      Richmond, VA

The most common argument against allowing gays to marry seems to be that we need to protect the institution of marriage. This argument is ridiculous for many reasons. While the main reason people in the US seem to get married is out of love, it is by no means the only reason.

There are people who marry for money, non-sexual companionship, even health insurance, do these reasons also threaten the institution of marriage? Furthermore, we have to look at marriage historically. For many years a wife was considered the property of her husband. For generations, royal families would marry their children off for diplomatic reasons, even "lower class" families would marry their daughters off to wealthy and/or powerful families so that they may reap the benefits. Many countries still have arranged marriages. Call me crazy but it appears that marriage is not exactly as "sacred" an institution as some would like to think.

Of course what makes the "protecting the institution of marriage" argument so ridiculous is that the divorce rate in the US is now over 50 percent. If we really want to protect marriage shouldn't we outlaw divorce? Finally, it is extremely difficult to comprehend how a gay couple getting married will effect heterosexual marriages. Will homosexuals getting married be so stressful to heterosexuals that we will all have break downs and divorce our wives and husbands? Treating same-sex couples as families under law could even save taxpayers money because marriage would require them to assume legal responsibility for their joint living expenses and reduce their dependence on public assistance programs such as Medicaid, Temporary
Assistance to Needy Families, Supplemental Security Income disability payments and food stamps

All persons born or naturalized in the United States, and subject to the jurisdiction thereof, are citizens of the United States and of the state wherein they reside. No state shall make or enforce any law which shall abridge the privileges or immunities of citizens of the United States; nor shall any state deprive any person of life, liberty, or property, without due process of law; nor deny to any person within its jurisdiction the equal protection of the laws.

- http://gaymarriage.procon.org/
- http://www.divinecaroline.com/life-etc/culture-causes/why-gay-marriage-should-be-legalized
- http://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2013/06/04/global-snapshot-sex-marriage/
- http://www.pollingreport.com/civil.htm
- http://thenewcivilrightsmovement.com/poll-showing-majority-in-us-want-national-law-supporting-gay-marriage-is-quite-revealing/politics/2013/07/29/72027

Legalize Same-sex Marriage

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      Nocturnus Libertus
      Petition Organizer

      Hey everyone, I'm Nocturnus Libertus -- and I'm currently advocating for marriage equality in the state of Virginia. Our state's slogan is "Virginia is for lovers", but love has a long history behind it, and it doesn't include discrimination. I would like for you to share this with friends, to help expand the knowledge of this cause. Doing so, will bring about justice for many same-sex couples in Virginia.

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    • Tyrael Gilbert ROCKY MOUNT, VA
      • 3 months ago

      I'm gay and I want to be able to marry in my own state legally.

      • 6 months ago

      A letter by Eugene Ramirez



      HETEROSEXUALS have a 50% divorce rate (I thought marriage was "sacred"?), STRAIGHT women commit murder through abortion at a rate of 1 out 3, HETEROSEXUALS DEFY God's "Ten Commandment" to not "commit adultery," 1 out 5 Women are raped/sexually assaulted by STRAIGHT MEN in their life, HETEROSEXUALS have MULTIPLE marriages (even though they took a vow in front of God 'until death do us part' ...that is, not 1st married, 2nd married, 3rd married, etc.), they marry for wealth/opportunity and for other UN-Christian reasons, 50% of STRAIGHT teens have engaged in oral sex by age 18 (PRE-MARTIAL sex is AGAINST many religions!), and 40% of kids are born "out of wedlock" to UNMARRIED heterosexual parents!

      But, I won't judge "straight people" because I don't believe in judging ANYONE. Further, the opponents sure like to detract from all of THEIR "sins," as a heterosexual group and try to point their finger at me, a gay dude, but before pointing the finger at me, they clearly have LOT to fix within their own heterosexual group! Their hypocrisy is as clear as the light of day. Further, religious persecutionists essentially claim that they worship a God which hates, divides, and is against equality. Thank goodness I don't support "their God." MY GOD, supports ALL Americans (and all persons around the world) no matter who they love, the color of their skin, their faith, or gender, and I celebrate equality and love not religious hate and persecution.


      Moreover, the bible has lead to the slaughter of more people than any and all was combined "in the name of God," the bible has lead to the persecution of Jews for the last ONE THOUSAND years, the bible has been used to prove that Whites can OWN Blacks as slaves, and now ignorant individuals want to get involved in my sex & love life and use the bible to say I can't marry who I want. All of the aforementioned has been sanctioned and is currently being instigated (anti-gay animus) by Christianity by way of using their own religious interpretation (and passed down interpretation) to oppress based on gender, sexual orientation, religion, and ethnicity.

      In his book, "Holy Horrors: An Illustrated History of Religious Murder and Madness," James A. Haught chronicles a thousand years of religious hate ranging from the witch hunts, to the numerous crusades, to the Holy Inquisition, to the religious anti-Semitic influence, which lead to the persecution of Jews for the last 1,000 years. Also, theologian Richard Rubenstein wrote in his book, “After Auschwitz: Religion and the Origins of the Death Camps,” that the Nazis "did not invent a new villain...they took over the 2,000-year-old Christian tradition of the Jew as a villain. The roots of the death camps must be sought in the mythic structure of Christianity."

      Here is just one biblical passage that fueled Jewish hatred: "You suffered from your own countrymen the same things those churches suffered from the Jews, "WHO KILLED THE LORD JESUS" and the prophets and also drove us out. They displease God and are hostile to all men in their effort to keep us from speaking to the Gentiles so that they may be saved. In this way they always heap up their sins to the limit. The wrath of God has come upon them at last." (1 Thessalonians 2:14-16).

      Throughout history, numerous individuals have pointed to specific passages in the Bible that have been used to validate slavery. One insightful book, "Noah’s Curse: The Biblical Justification of American Slavery," by Stephen R. Haynes, further shows how just "one" biblical passage fueled anti-Black sentiment over the course of hundreds of years. The biblical passage, "A servant of servants shall he be unto his brethren," reads Noah’s curse on Ham.

      Ham is later identified as the ancestor of black Africans, and this particular biblical passage is just one that has been used historically to justify African-American slavery. Also many Christian clergymen throughout history were pro-slavery. Historian Larry Hise says in his book, "Pro Slavery," that ministers "wrote almost half of all defenses of slavery published in America." He also lists more than 250 religious men who used the Bible to prove white people were entitled to own black people.

      James A. Haught says, "Millions of innocent men, women and children, since the introduction of Christianity, have been burned, tortured, fined, and imprisoned, yet we have not advanced one inch towards uniformity. What has been the effect of the coercion? To make one half of the world fools and the other half hypocrites." The eloquent quote that comes to mind is: "Do as I say, NOT as I do." Indeed, the finest delusion of all is the hypocrisy of individuals who are always quick to point the finger at others, first.


      The opponents are more than welcome to spew their archaic nonsense, religious hate, and bigoted venom all they want. However, thankfully, as an American citizen who lives in the most free country in the world, I have a right to believe what they believe, AND I have a right to not believe what they believe. It's quite dangerous when I hear frivolous blather by some individuals who seem to indicate that a religious book "trumps" our United States Constitution.

      I would certainly welcome a challenge from the opponents to try to show me where in the United States Constitution that it says Blacks and Whites couldn't marry AND where it says same-sex couples cannot marry. They cannot show me because it doesn't exist. As such, all of their "bible" arguments are worthless, baseless, and unfounded. Our country's bible is the United States Constitution and not some Christian "holy" book that promotes, incest, rape, slavery, and polygamy.

      The "holy wars," on this planet have been going on for centuries! Many religious people think THEIR religion, THEIR God, or THEIR holy book is superior to ALL the others. So, who is right and who is wrong? Is there a right or wrong? Is one superior to another? There are 2.1 billion followers of Christianity and 1.5 billion followers of Islam on this planet. Is one religion better or superior to the other? Is the holy book for Christianity more superior or "right" versus the holy book for those who follow the Islam religion?

      Some individuals are hellbent on forcing their religious beliefs on the masses, but they fail to understand that we have freedom of religion, AND freedom from religion in the United States. I can choose to be a Christian, Mormon, Hindu, Muslim, agnostic, atheist, Buddhist, or I can choose to have NO affiliation or label whatsoever. I cherish that right as an American citizen. I'd be willing to bet opponents would never want to live in the Middle East where many people are forced under a theocratic rule to live by certain religious dictated dress codes and forced "roles" for women. They should be VERY glad we live in a free country where, we as individuals, can decide to have a religious affiliation or NO religious affiliation at all.


      While the above mentioned religious persecution experienced in the Middle East is quite extreme, I still experience religious persecution on a smaller scale whenever I have a discussion with these individuals. They almost always point to biblical passages to assert their right to deny me the right to marry the person I want. They archaically use out-of-context and literal interpretations of their bible, and they conveniently cherry-pick and use the bible incorrectly in such a judgmental and hateful manner.

      It's quite interesting that they are always able to pull out a passage to condemn me, but they seem to have "forgotten" about some passages that I will mention below. Clearly, CHERRY PICKING "LITERAL" BIBLICAL PASSAGES to condemn people is what the hate mongers "under the guise of saving someone" do best. These "so-called" Christians hide their homophobia, bigotry, and hatred "couched" under a veil of supposed religious beliefs. WE know VERY WELL, that they PICK AND CHOOSE the passages that they WANT to pick, to fuel their religious dogma. According to "Christian extremists," who believe in "literal interpretations of the bible," the following IS ALSO BANNED AND FORBIDDEN ACCORDING TO THE CHRISTIAN BIBLE!!>>

      Getting Tattoos On Your Body (Leviticus 19:28)

      Shaving (Leviticus 19:27)

      Cursing (Ephesians 5:4)

      Gossip (Leviticus 19:16)

      Football On Saturdays (Exodus 20:8)

      Eating Lobster, Pork, Bacon Ham, Shrimp And Clams (Leviticus 11:10-12)

      Divorcing Someone (spouse Immorality Being The Only "exception") (Matthew 9:19)

      Wearing Cotton/Polyester Blends (Leviticus 19:19)

      Associating With Women Who Are On Their Periods (Leviticus 15:19-20) ….....AND........

      (A) If You Work On The Sabbath (SUNDAY), You Are Supposed To Be Put To Death (EXODUS 35:2)

      (B) Do You Have Any Disobedient Children? ....YOU Can Go Ahead And Kill Them According To (Leviticus 20:9, 21:9, Deuteronomy 21: 20-1, Zechariah 13:3)


      Clearly, throughout history, religion has "scared" hundreds of millions of people into behaving, living, and acting a certain way in order to be "saved" or to be one of the persons who will avoid hell, and so much so, that it's caused people (in turn) to be hypocritical, hateful, and prejudice against "others" in the name of God. The truth is, there is no such thing as "hell." We are here in this life to learn the lessons we set out to learn before we entered this life. In all our previous lives, we have all been gay, Black, straight, White, Hispanic, Jew, disabled, rich, poor, Asian and so on and so forth.

      After this life, we will go to what people call "heaven," and see what we did well in this life, what we didn't do so well, and what we need to learn in the "next life" when we reincarnate into another soul. It's all about learning lessons. Organized religion is not God, and God is not organized religion. They can be and ARE separate. However, some believe that they "have" to be together when that is simply not the case.

      Karma is completely real. For every positive thought, word, sentence, gesture, and act we put out, it will come back to us in this life or the next life. Conversely, for every negative thought, word, sentence, gesture, and act we put out, it will come back to us in this life or the next life. At the end of the day, our ultimate lesson is love of our fellow man in all circumstances possible.


      In 1967, when the Supreme Court ruled that interracial marriage bans were unconstitutional, 72% of Americans were against "interracial marriage." Most Americans did NOT want Whites to marry Blacks, Whites to marry Latinos and Whites to marry Asians. Many Americans believed that interracial marriage was immoral, unnatural, and contrary to God's will. Additionally, before the case even reached the Supreme Court, Leon M. Bazile, a trial judge who upheld the ban on interracial marriage (ruled against allowing interracial marriage) quoted Johann Friedrich Blumenbach's interpretation of race in his ruling:

      "Almighty God created the races white, black, yellow, malay and red, and he placed them on separate continents. And but for the interference with his arrangement there would be no cause for such marriages. The fact that he separated the races shows that he did not intend for the races to mix."

      Further, marriage has NEVER been between one man and one woman, for polygamy has been practiced on this planet for centuries. In the "Old Testament," Abraham, Jacob, David, Solomon, and others all had multiple wives. King Solomon, had 700 wives and 300 concubines (1 Kings 11:3). King David had 6 wives and many concubines (2 Samuel 5:13; 1 Chronicles 3:1-9, 14:3). Rehoboam had 18 wives and 60 concubines (2 Chronicles 11:21). In Exodus 21:10, it even says this: "a man can marry an infinite amount of women without any limits to how many he can marry." So, yes, the institution of marriage DID change and has evolved over time.


      Among 18-35 year olds, support for marriage equality is at 80% and the population in general supports it at 60%! At this rate, marriage equality will be supported by the general population at 70-75% in the next 10 years, so it's not a question of "if" but "when?" The social dinosaurs who are still living in the 1950s, will continue to want to get involved in my sex and love life and dictate who I can and cannot marry, but fortunately, their opinion is now the "minority" in this country. We especially saw that last year, in November 2012, when voters in four states approved marriage equality at the ballot box for the first time ever in the United States.


      While millions of children go hungry everyday, millions are in poor health, and millions struggle to get by living in poverty, opponents would rather concern themselves with who I can and can't marry. Perhaps opponents will look back remorsefully on their life (when they pass over) and realize that they spent their time and energy in this precious life demagoguing other human beings who are different based on skin color, sexual orientation, or some "other" characteristic. I'm certain that they will regret wasting their life on things that are NONE of their business, yet they chose to get involved in people's love affairs because they felt it was so important to them.


      Opponents, if you do not support same sex marriage, I have a very simple solution: don't get married to someone of the same sex! Meanwhile, let other people live THEIR lives and marry the person they want. No one tells YOU who you should marry, right? NO. So, respectfully, leave (me and) others the heck alone! I should be able to control my own love life; I'm not involved in your marriage or sex life, so why do you feel the need to butt into my sex and love life? You WON'T be able to stop me from marrying who I want, and if I don't tell you who you should marry, then don't try to tell me either. Whatever the heck you want to do with your life is your choice, and conversely, it's MY choice to do what I desire for MY LIFE (this includes the ability to marry the person I want), so please mind your own business!

      As we know, every single year, support for marriage equality continues to rise, so those who oppose marriage equality are not only on the wrong side of history, but their beliefs will, fortunately, be a part of history as well! Yes, it may sound cliche, but what the world needs now is more love, not more hate. If more people would live a more open and loving life, we all would be better as a country, as a people, and as a global community. No hate or fear monger will ever tarnish my spirit. They are more than welcome to live a closeminded life; however, the majority of the country (who now support marriage quality) will be spreading more love and light and not hate. Love is the strongest and most powerful vibration in the universe and that's what I will be focused on. WE, are on the right side of history of love, tolerance, and acceptance. The other side is on the wrong side of history and their beliefs will be a part of history very soon.

      A letter by Eugene Ramirez


    • Kaitlin Magee EAST BRUNSWICK, NJ
      • 7 months ago

      My biggest question with unequal marriage is, how does my marriage affect you? If my marriage to someone of the same gender is truly going to destroy your heterosexual marriage, then it's not my marriage that's problematic.

    • Adam Staton VIRGINIA BEACH, VA
      • 7 months ago

      While I myself have no interest in same sex religions I do have friends affected by this and it isn't right to see them unable to share the same rights which I have. I mean right as well, it's a privilege to the partner you're dedicating yourself to but all people should have the right to make that decision if they so choose, after all it wasn't so long ago when people were separated and judged based entirely on the color of their skin so why should we continue to have laws which say something is fine for one set of people but not for the next? If it's for religious purposes then whatever happened to the separation of church and state? At that rate you might as well outlaw any religion aside from those which you feel are the only correct scriptures to follow and use those scriptures as your laws, let's bring back stoning women to death and forcing a raped woman to marry their attacker if you wish to continue following them. Let's bring back segregation based on skin color as well, that was fine right? Or let's continue to strike down barbaric laws from a past age and pave the way to a fairer future.

    • sheila slabotsky VIRGINIA BEACH, VA
      • 7 months ago

      I have many gay friends and I'm appalled that they can't marry who they love


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