"Violence against women is perhaps the most shameful human rights violation, and it is perhaps the most pervasive. It knows no boundaries of geography, culture or wealth. As long as it continues, we cannot claim to be making real progress towards equality, development and peace."
"Domestic violence does not only happen to adults. Forty percent of girls age 14 to 17 report knowing someone their age who has been hit or beaten by a boyfriend, and approximately one in five female high school students reports being physically and sexually abused by a dating partner."
„Domestic violence can be so easy for people to ignore, as it often happens without any witnesses and it is sometimes easier not to get involved. Yet, by publicly speaking out against domestic violence, together we can challenge attitudes towards violence in the home and show that domestic violence is a crime and not merely unacceptable.“
„Nobody believes that domestic violence kills and nobody believes it is detrimental to children. This world has got to wake up. To me, if there is domestic violence, if the children see it or hear it, that to me is detrimental. Batterers should not have rights to children.“
"My niece was a sexual-assault victim. My sister is a survivor of domestic violence. We have more shelters for animals than for battered women. That's not the message we should be sending."
--Rep. Hilda Solis, California
"Violence against women is not random or anonymous. In West Virginia, 88 percent of sexual-assault victims already know their attacker. In my hometown, Alicia McCormick, an advocate for our domestic-violence shelter at the YWCA, was killed in her home by a man doing handiwork in her apartment complex. That one of my greatest advocates could fall victim to something she fought against her whole life was a tragedy that moved me to action."
--Rep. Shelley Moore Capito, West Virginia
“Anywhere in the world, if you see a law which is protecting the rapists, you must know that this law has been prepared by the rapists!”
― Mehmet Murat ildan
“over and over victims are blamed for their assaults. and when we imply that victims bring on their own fates - whether to make ourselves feel more efficacious or to make the world seem just - we prevent ourselves from taking the necessary precautions to protect ourselves. Why take precautions? We deny the trauma could easily have happened to us. And we also hurt the people already traumatized. Victims are often already full of self-doubt, and we make recovery harder by laying inspectors blame on them.”
― Anna C. Salter, Predators: Pedophiles, Rapists, And Other Sex Offenders
“From New Delhi to New York, from Durban to Rio; women and
girls are been hunted down by rapists, abused by pedophiles and
emotionally decapitated by a society that is becoming increasingly
hostile to the womenfolk”
― Oche Otorkpa
“Oddly then, in our search for meaning, we often assign victims too much blame for their assaults, and offenders too little. Our inconsistencies do not seem to trouble us, but they are truly puzzling. After all, if the offender is not to blame for his behavior, why would the victim be, no matter what she did our didn't do? Our views make sense, however, if you think that we are trying to reassure ourselves that we are not helpless and, that, in any case, no one is out to get us.”
― Anna C. Salter, Predators: Pedophiles, Rapists, And Other Sex Offenders
„We study the injustices of history for the same reason that we study genocide, and for the same reason that psychologists study the minds of murderers and rapists... to understand how those evil things came about.“
„Under patriarchy, every woman's son is her potential betrayer and also the inevitable rapist or exploiter of another woman.“
“*Prostitution* is a euphemism for rape incidents that the victim and the economy profits from.”
― Mokokoma Mokhonoana, The Selfish Genie: A Satirical Essay on Altruism
Rape victim and domestic violence victim is in danger to be executed for self defense, Sudan, 2018:
Noura Hussein, Sudan, 2018:
Raped, tortured and abused by male monsters:
Justice For Noura | Don't let execute Noura for self defense against the man who raped her!
The sad case of child marriage and child rape and FGM survivor Noura Hussein :
At 16, Noura was forcibly married off by her father. She refused, and in protest left her family home on the outskirts of Khartoum to stay with her aunt in Sinnar, a city almost 250 kilometers away. Noura lived with her relative for three years before her father called to say that the wedding was cancelled, and that she should come home.
Upon her arrival, Noura found that she had been tricked, that the wedding to which she had never agreed was still happening, and shortly after was given away to her unchosen husband.
According to her testimony, Noura refused to consummate the marriage, resisting him for the first four days. On the fifth, she says her husband raped her, with the help of a number of his male relatives (cousins and some people said the husband's brothers as well), pinned her down while he was raping her right before their eyes. All men mocked and abused her. That was sexual torture at it’s finest. Noura was a virgin and a infubilation victim, the sexual torture had been horrible and barbaric, but this common in many countries ( infibulation, Type III of FGM or pharaonic circumcision, the "sewn closed" category, involves the removal of the external genitalia and fusion of the wound. The inner and outer labia are cut away, with removal of the clitoris. Infubilation is found largely in northeast Africa, particularly Djibouti, Eritrea, Ethiopia, Somalia, and Sudan. According to one 2008 estimate, over eight million women in Africa are living with Type III FGM. According to UNFPA in 2010, 20 percent of women with FGM have been infibulated. In Somalia "[t]he child is made to squat on a stool or mat facing the circumciser at a height that offers her a good view of the parts to be handled. ... adult helpers grab and pull apart the legs of the girl. ... If available, this is the stage at which a local anaesthetic would be used")- The following day, when her husband attempted to rape her again, she stabbed him in self defence and it killed him. When she told her family, her father delivered her to the police, and then disowned her.
That was in 2017. On Sunday, April 29, 2018, Noura was found guilty in court of premeditated murder, the punishment for which is death by hanging.
There is a article about Noura on WhatsApp, a platform that has grown to be a main “news” source for Sudanese across the world. This means “news” because much of the information shared over WhatsApp should be taken with a grain of salt, as many of the topics shared take on an exaggerated quality. But the platform does prove useful, occasionally exposing us to issues that either don’t make it on international newsdesks (nobody wants to hear about anything from Sudan that isn’t war or terrorism), or provide a look into the corners of our lives that folks (read: government/society) prefer to stay hidden.
Noura’s story isn’t new, that it isn’t even uncommon. It is worldwide common that women who had been married off against their will, who suffered in silence at the hands of their husbands, whose families had all but abandoned them and/or who tacitly or actively supported their husbands’ (and their families’) abuse.
The sad truth is that we hate to admit is that the only thing that makes Noura’s story extraordinary is that she killed him. Her circumstance is a daily occurrence that the openminded and “enlightened” of women might not approve of, but will put up with because “that’s just an unfortunate part of Sudan culture”. We must put up with it because the enduring silence of the women who suffer this fate allows our feathers to remain unruffled, it keeps our delicate sensibilities unaffected, it allows us to stay complacent.
Noura’s story is extraordinary because she killed her abuser, and that is what she is being faulted for in the court of law and public opinion (and from which all of the following throughout this article are real quotes).
“She should have reasoned with him”, “she should have told her family”, “she should have gone to court, she should have found another way”. The last days have been a flood of should-haves, each one more patronizing than the last, each one ignoring the facts of her case, of her circumstance, of her culture.
How could she have reasoned with a man who wasn’t reasonable enough to accept her adamant rejection of him?
How could she seek refuge in her family, the same people who put her in this position in the first place? The same people who, when she *did* seek refuge, abandoned her?
What other way was there for her to find? How does a 19 year old with no family support gain the access and tools needed to navigate her way through the legal system to get autonomy from her husband? And how long does that take? And how many are successful?
The last days have exposed the ignorance, the callousness, the violent misogyny.
“She’s guilty, it’s his right, she can’t refuse him”, “He’s not a man for getting his cousins to help….. he should have just drugged her”, “Tf you talking about, [she’s] his wife he can f*ck her daily if he wants, Allah said that.” One news article read, “Bride Kills Husband on Their Honeymoon […] She stabbed him repeatedly after he tried to take his religious right from her by force.”
The society does not recognize marital rape and the Islam uses hadith (narrations) and other religious texts to justify it.
The society holds women accountable for the heinous actions of men, and then tells them to grin and bear it. “She didn’t choose to marry him, but her father chose for her, what can she do?” “Yes, he raped her, but she shouldn’t have killed him.” “Yes, he raped her, but she killed him in an inappropriate way.” (yes, that is the word-for-word quote) The society does not recognize a woman’s right to her body, to choice, to life.
The society does not want to come to terms with the heinous acts that it practices and values it holds. the society thinks its ignorance is “fringe”, and hides behind the pristine image of “culture and tradition” that it has painstakingly curated. It digs its head in the sand and shows its ass to the world. “Our men don’t involve other men in rape, and not family. It’s not our culture. There must be more to the story.”
To preserve this image, Islam will tell us to put faith in a justice system that it bashes on a daily basis. Noura was painted by the prosecution as a woman who, unprovoked, “brutally” murdered her husband in cold blood. They denied the rape. They did not provide a counter-motive. Even without cause or motive, they never questioned her mental state or theorized on what drove her to commit such a crime – and the justice system did not ask them to. It was content to cast a quick and dirty guilty verdict.
Every country protects the perpetrators and demonizes the victims. It sentences a teenager to death, and gives a convicted rapist a presidential pardon (look it up)."
Silent femicides world wide: domestic and sexual murder:
Murder of Kelly Anne Bates, U.K., (1996):
Kelly Anne Bates (18 May 1978 – 16 April 1996) was a British teenager who was murdered in Manchester on 16 April 1996 when aged 17. She was tortured over a period of four weeks, including having her eyes gouged from their sockets up to three weeks before her death, by her partner James Patterson Smith (born c. 1948) before being drowned in a bathtub.
The murder inquiry was headed by Detective Sergeant Joseph Monaghan of Greater Manchester Police, who said: "I have been in the police force for 15 years and have never seen a case as horrific as this." William Lawler, the pathologist who examined Bates' body, described her injuries as "the worst he had seen on a murder victim". Smith, a misogynist with a history of violence and torture against former sexual partners, denied murdering Bates but was convicted and sentenced to life imprisonment on 19 November 1997.
Marie Trintignant, France, 2003:
Marie Trintignant (21 January 1962 – 1 August 2003) was a French actress.
Trintignant was born in Boulogne-Billancourt, the daughter of actor Jean-Louis Trintignant and his second wife, French film director, producer, and screenwriter Nadine Marquand. She first appeared on screen aged four in her mother's film My Love, My Love. When Marie's baby sister Pauline died when Marie was eight, she became withdrawn and virtually stopped speaking. Her parents divorced in 1976. Throughout her early life, she was afflicted by severe shyness, but by her mid-teens, she decided to become an actress. She had a strong affection for animals and considered becoming a veterinarian, but in the end pursued a career in acting.
Trintignant was the mother of four sons: Roman with drummer Richard Kolinka, Paul with actor François Cluzet, Léon with Mathias Othnin-Girard and Jules with director Samuel Benchetrit.
Marie Trintignant was barbaric murdered on 1 August 2003 in Vilnius, Lithuania by her then-boyfriend Bertrand Cantat, lead singer with the French rock group Noir Désir. Cantat repeatedly punched Marie Trintignant in the head, leading to her death by cerebral edema. She was 41.
The most horrible rape cases in history:
The murder of Anita Cobby, 1986, Australia:
The life of Anita Lorraine Cobby was brutally cut short when 18-year-old John Travers and four others decided to slit her throat after taking turns to rape her on February 2, 1986.
Cobby, who was a 26-year-old nurse, was on her way home when she was abducted, dragged through a barbed-wire fence, and raped by Travers and his friends. The medical reports later showed that Cobby had been beaten, kicked and almost decapitated, before her throat was slit open to bleed her to death, which, the medical professionals believe, was done while she was still conscious.
The murder Of Junko Furuta, 1988, Japan:
Furuta, a few days after turning 17, was kidnapped by four young adults on November 12, 1988, who then kept her captive in a house owned by one of the culprits, in Adachi, Tokyo.
The four men, post-rape, tortured Furuta for the following 44 days, until she succumbed to death. According to the statements of her assailants at their trials, Furuta was raped over 400 times, beaten, penetrated with foreign objects including an iron rod and light-bulb, made to her drink her own urine, fed with cockroaches, and burned with cigarette ends. The assailants had also inserted fireworks into her genitals and set them off and cut her nipple out with pliers.
On the 44th day, Furuta was doused with lighter fluid and set alight, the final torture that claimed her life.
Ajmer Rape Case (1992), India:
It was a brutal and inhuman case of coerced sexual exploitation in Ajmer, Rajasthan. A gang raped over 100 of school girls. They clicked their naked photos to further exploit them. After being raped, depressed victims committed suicide.
Jalgaon Rape Case (1993), India:
It is one of the prime cases of human trafficking in Maharashtra. Near about 500 innocent girls and women were raped and sold off and most of them were school girls.
The 1993 Houston gangrapes, U.S.:
On the last night of their lives in 1993, 16-year-old Elizabeth Pena and 14-year-old Jennifer Ertman had taken a short cut through a railroad bridge in an attempt to make it home before their 11:30 curfew. But they never did.
Pena and Ertman were grabbed by a gang named the Black and Whites on the railroad bridge, and raped for the next one hour. All the six rapists in the gang were teenagers, the youngest Vinnie Medellin, being just 14.
As per the medical examiner, Pena's two front teeth had been knocked out, while two of Ertman's ribs were broken after she had died. The testimony also showed that their necks were stomped upon after they were strangled to death to ensure that "they were really dead."
The murder of Oksana Makar, 2012, Ukraine:
Oksana Makar was a few months away from her 19th birthday when she was gangraped by three men in Mykolaiv, Ukraine in March, 2012.
However, Makar's agony did not end there. Her assailants attempted to strangle her after the rape, and later moved her to a deserted construction site, where she was set on fire alive. Makar, after burning for hours, was discovered the next morning, still breathing. Two weeks later, she succumbed to her injuries from the burn and smoke inhalation. As per reports, since unmarried, she was buried in a wedding dress.
Delhi Gang Rape and Murder Case (2012), India:
16 December 2012 is the darkest day in the history of India. Delhi Gang rape and murder case was one of the most brutal cases not only in India but in the world. All the six convicted people were arrested and one of them Ram Singh committed suicide in a trial period in jail. Four of them were sentenced to hanging, but they are still alive until now and the young boy under 18 was sent to a juvenile home for only 3 years.
Rape and murder of Anene Booysen (2013), South Africa:
Anene Booysen (October 30, 1995 – February 2, 2013) was a 17-year-old girl who was found by a security guard the morning after she had been gang-raped and disemboweled by having her abdomen slit open at a construction site in Bredasdorp, in the Western Cape, South Africa on February 2, 2013; she was still alive, but died later in the day. Anene Booysen was found by a security guard lying a short distance from her house after spending time at a bar on the evening of February 2, 2013. She died from her injuries in hospital six hours later. She managed to identify one of her attackers before her death.
South Africa's President Jacob Zuma condemned the attack as "shocking, cruel and most inhumane". The Congress of South African Trade Unions (Cosatu), South Africa's biggest labour union, called for mass action over rape in South Africa. Opposition parliamentary leader Lindiwe Mazibuko called for parliamentary hearings. The United Nations issued a statement strongly condemning the rape and murder. On 13 February, a protest, led by Annie Lennox, was staged at St. George's Cathedral, Cape Town.
Booysen and Reeva Steenkamp, both young South African women killed in 2013, were named SA Persons of the year 2013 by the Daily Maverick.
Rohtak Gang Rape (2015), India:
This was the worst case of rape as a woman’s naked, half-eaten body was found in Haryana’s Rohtak, with sticks and stones inserted in her. The 28-year-old woman’s body was found gnawed at by animals and with key organs missing, two arms and the left side of the body was gone. The police said sticks, stones and condoms were stuffed into her private parts. All the arrested men are from one village nine km from Rohtak.
Jisha Rape and Murder Case (2016), India:
The 30-year-old Indian woman was found by her mother. Her body had at least 30 stab wounds. Parts of her intestines had been removed using something sharp and she had a serious head injury. Later in a postmortem report, it was revealed that she was strangled, tortured and sexually assaulted before she died.