My 74 year old mother who has dementia and amputation and is "legally" blind as well as health issues who requires full time care and VNA nursing 3 times a week to deal with the wound care of her amputation lost her husband of 49 years in October of 2011. She was receiving Aid and Attendance through my father who was a Veteran with a Service connected disability. Her Aid and Attendance was canceled told to reapply also applied for my father's disability pension and his burial benefit received 1st letter stating there was a 168 day waiting period called on day 169 told that it has moved to phase 2 of a 4 part phase and that waiting period is 211 days. That folks just for the first 2 phase is over 1 year in waiting to confirm that my mother and father were married and never divorced? I still can't find out exactly what we are waiting for. I know that I could search the internet in 5 minutes for a divorce decree so why are Spouse's of Veterans and even some Veterans put through these excessive waiting periods? Are they just waiting for her to die?