Justice for Monica strong from her childhood sexual abuse.
Justice for Monica strong from her childhood sexual abuse.
One in five girls who are sexually abused before age eighteen and I am one of them. My childhood was taken from me at the age of seven till I was at the age of thirteen and again at the age of fifteen by two Male in my adopted family I was told No ever tell anyone because this will be our little secret and no one would believe me. When it first happens that night you pause and your life shatters into many broken puzzles that will never be put back together. I was kept in the dark for a very very long time I Didn't have anyone to turn too. I didn't have anyone to come to rescue me. I was at risk because few knew what was going on when I was a child and didn't do anything about it or did a kit exam. I was not being protected by my adopted parents and others didn't step in to stop it or even try harder.. for some reason it was blocked for a very long time until I started writing down my past in my early teen and started to bring back memories and what had happened to me. I didn't understand why this had happened to me I was adopted I thought I was supposed to be protected.
Around my late teen and early twenties in 2012 I finally come forward and told the rest of my adopted family who I thought they would do something about it and they didn't they turn against me and chosen both of my abusers over me and wasn't able to report it or even get counseling to help me heal and recovered and never did I never got the support that I needed from them the most. I was even more at risk and struggles of what they put me through and what they cause me to suffer for so long and even worse they kept them around for awhile I was devastated of not getting any support. My life was never the same. In 2014 one of my abusers passed who was my adopted father I never grieve after he passed I felt relieved but everyone grieves differently.
A year later I started counseling and started telling my counselor about my past and my experience I was nervous at first that my counselor would believe me either but they did and I felt better talking to my counselor about it. It was a long road to recover. I kept on writing my story about my past took a break for a while and went back to writing again. My memory kept getting stronger and stronger and that I would remember everything and hearing those voices telling me don't tell it our little secret but that didn't stop me from keeping myself going and I kept pushing myself and went back to writing I was told to keep writing your story. My past kept me writing until three years later in 2018 I decided to make a book and get it published because I had a story to tell and I am one of the survivors of childhood sexual abuse never felt better than ever for what I did it was the biggest decision that I ever did in my life. All these years I thought I was the only girls out there in this lonely world but I wasn't and they are there are hundreds of survivors who went through what I've been through in their lifetime. I know I wasn't the only one who finally had the courage to speak up and come forward to report it to the police and that is what I did last summer. At this point right now there is nothing more than my detective could do because there aren't enough evidence, record or any documentation files they won't do anything about it because it was so long ago. they won't press charge my other abuser who is still out there enjoying life or whatever my abuser doing. I would always wonder how am I supposed to recover and move forward from this as you know there is no time limit when to heal and move on from this. Most of all the system failed, my adopted family failed me and even my detective failed me as well.
But I am looking into a legal aide attorney it is a process and a long wait but I am waiting patiently it is worthy of a shot. I am going to keep fighting until I get the justice that I deserve. I'm gonna keep telling my story until I am being heard. I was able to find my way out by getting my last name change to strong because I didn't wanna have to suffer and be reminded of my adopted family the last name and being able to move forward from this. I believe that I have made some progress in the most part. The hard part was letting go of my adopted family's and not to be around them any more of all the struggle and pain and risk that they put me through and not being there for me or protected me and not giving me the help that I needed from them the most and they didn't take any responsibility. I decided to cut tie and remove myself from them. It was the biggest decision that I have ever made of all time but I've been doing fine without having them in my life. I know that I will always still be in good hand, keeping myself safe and staying happy and enjoying my life and having a better future. Most of all I decided to make the decision to live how I choose to live by creating a new life with others people and friends who are like family to me and has always been there for me with support, love, and guidance and helped me to become the person that I am today. Everyone always says that family doesn't have to be blood it can be anyone, friends or strangers who will step into your life and be apart of your life and god sent them for a reason. I am very honor to be grateful for how much my life has changed and not staying in the same spot or being kept in the dark. I don't regret all the choices and decisions that I made in my life because I am stronger than ever. I am no longer the victim I am a survivor. My life will never be the same or be perfect as everyone else's but I am very grateful to be able to enjoy my life and feature that I have honestly right in front of me. This will always be my fight and my time because I am focusing on staying positive and live a happy lifestyle and do my best to move forward which is a process and takes time. Most of all I can do it no matter how long it takes I will find peace.
The pain of abuse doesn’t go away with time, and healing doesn’t happen overnight. No matter how many times I am knocked down, I will rise. No matter how strong the forces around me, the force within me is stronger. Healing will be a lifelong journey, but I am proud to tell you that this is my story and I am no longer a victim, but I am a survivor. A survivor who is strong and beautiful and still fighting every single day to stay true to myself and what I believe in. In closing, if you have ever been abused or knows someone who has, always know that you are not alone. There are so many of us, and silence is deafening. In your own time, and in your own way I hope that you find your voice and the courage to share your story. You are strong, and you are brave for the battles you fight every day that others may not know about. Healing is not linear and moving forward takes time. Let Ohio have no time of statute of limitations including all over the world. I'm am asking you all to please sign and join me..