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"My heart belongs to all bullying survivors and victims until my last day of life. Because in memory of bullied to suicide victims. Beloved girl friends of mine. We all can end the deadly bullying game, if we only have the courage to end it!"
-Anita Kanitz

“Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one’s definition of your life, but define yourself.”

“The common mistake that bullies make is assuming that because someone is nice that he or she is weak. Those traits have nothing to do with each other. In fact, it takes considerable strength and character to be a good person.”

“You have enemies? Good. That means you’ve stood up for something sometime in your life.”

“If there are no heroes to save you, then you be the hero.”
-Anita Kanitz

“If they don’t like you for being yourself, be yourself even more.” – Taylor Swift

"It's important to stand up to all forms of bullying, and it's even more important for those who are around you to be just as courageous and stand with you! "
-Normani Kordei

I think bullies and their helpers and supporters need to be removed and punished everywhere. In kindergarten, school, university, at work, at the social networks. I do not have the slightest understanding of mediation and conversation, because it brings nothing, because it help the bullies not the victims. Punishment of the parents, the teachers and headmasters of bullies who help the bullies is very important. And helpers and supporters must also permanently removed, it can not be that these people make their lies on parent evenings or teach as a teacher or as a principal run a school or work in the workplace and even as superiors or that they make again and again unpunished internet slandering and cyberbullying. It's like putting a knife into a murderer's hand and saying, keep it up. That must have an end.

I have been the victim of extreme cyber bullying for 16 years. The perpetrators are a former outrageous ex-tenant and his entire circle of friends, acquaintances and as it looks like relatives of him. Unfortunately, I had to learn it myself, you get here very little or no help.That must change. Some foreign female friends had the same problem. They got rape threats and rape jokes and sadistic porns and were slandered on the social media.

I have always been on the side of the bullied people and childs and will always be on the side of the bullied, in memory of two girls who have been bullied to death. My beloved girl friends, forever in my heart and my soul. And for my beloved son, for all his pain during some years of his school time, caused by extreme bullying.
Through bullying, two very good female friends of mine, who were in other schools, committed suicide at the age of 13 and 14 years.
And my son was brutally bullied for years at high school by classmates, teachers, and the principal (real scum bags and blood bitches). A change of school always failed because the principal and the teachers claimed to the family, especially the grandparents and the father, there was no bullying at their school, my son was just too sensitive. The bullying included exclusion, mockery, property damage, theft of school supplies and money, beatings, slander of the worst kind, telephone terror, beatings and intimidation of my sons remaining friends. Only in one case of theft was the police ready to accept an ad. But after that the police did not do anything. The State Education Office advised us to talk to the school! The State Education Office did nothing despite many complaints and said we would see the problems too blatant. We talked to the school, wrote letters, begging for help, but they did not do anything, just blaming us. They accused me as a mother and my son, we were the only troublemakers in the school. Other children and school friends witnessing the bullying incidents were silenced by the two principals who were in charge of the school during my sons school time, in some cases these schoolfriends were taken out of school because of the psychological terror of the school and the bullies (sons of bitches) and the parents of the bullies (real buggers). It is understandable that the bullied person is becoming more and more lonely in this case. The parent representatives were parents of bullies and were elected again and again. My son became ill due to the bullying and could not take the final exam. Nevertheless, the principal still sent him during the sick time the police into the house because of terrible lies of the bullies and the class teacher sent insulting faxes and we got insulting telephone calls of the principal.While the police used to be unable to help my son in all bullying incidents, she was suddenly very quick, caught up with vicious slander by the bullying schoolmaster, the mobbing classmate, and the mobbing classmates, and took out my sick son of the bed. But they did not find anything, and I found out that the headmaster was close friends with the police chief of operations. (a real douchebag) The police went again, without apology, the headmaster and the class teacher did not apologize, the lying bullies were not punished.What a shame. We get after the telephone calls of the bullies, we should all kill ourselves and they want to dance on our graves! Many bullied students leave that terrible school before the exam.Even the parents of the bullies were aggressive, outrageous and spread rumors, bad calls and angry letters. My son then took the exam at another school, but he never forgot what happened.
I say it clearly, never forget the enemies of your children and what they did and wish them to be affected by bullying and terror in their lives in the same way.
Only we can change it, if all others fail, we families, relatives and friends of the bullied. And fine and punish parents and supporters of bullies so hard as possible. Because we live in bullying societies, nothing will change unless we change it.


Terrible Suicides caused by bullying:

Amanda Todd:
A pervert leaked a topless photo of Amanda Todd, then a group of girls bullied her until she ended up taking her own life.

In September 2012, this fifteen-year-old Canadian high-schooler posted a nine-minute black-and-white video on YouTube called My Story: Struggling, bullying, suicide and self-harm. She speaks not a word in the video, instead letting her story unfold through a series of flash cards. She tells of how when she was in seventh grade, a male stranger—after much coaxing—convinced her to flash him her naked breasts during a webcam discussion.

A year went by before the same stranger contacted her on Facebook threatening to go public with a topless photo he’d screencapped of her if Amanda refused to perform a live sex show for him on camera. She says she refused, at which point the man sent her topless photo “to everyone.” Amanda claims this sent her spiraling into depression and seeking to blunt the humiliation through alcohol and drugs.

Her family moved her to another school, but the stranger kept stalking her. He opened a fake Facebook account in her name, using her topless photo as the profile picture. This led to taunts from kids at the new school and a new habit for Amanda—self-mutilation.

After being shuttled off to yet another new school, she was tracked down by female bullies from a prior school who beat her up en masse and left her lying in a ditch. After her dad rescued her and brought her home, she tried killing herself by drinking bleach. She was rushed to a hospital and survived.

Her parents moved with her to another new city and another new school, yet her depression persisted. This is the description she posted under her video of September 2012:

I’m struggling to stay in this world, because everything just touches me so deeply. I’m not doing this for attention. I’m doing this to be an inspiration and to show that I can be strong. I did things to myself to make pain go away, because I’d rather hurt myself then someone else. Haters are haters but please don’t hate, although I’m sure I’ll get them. I hope I can show you guys that everyone has a story, and everyones future will be bright one day, you just gotta pull through. I’m still here aren’t I?

Yes, she was still here—although briefly. A month after posting the video, Amanda killed herself.

Jessica Laney:

After posting a compassionate answer on Ask.fm about how suicide is not the answer, Jessica Laney hanged herself.

Like Hannah Smith, this 16-year-old Floridian killed herself after being harassed on Ask.fm.

On Thanksgiving Day, 2012, an anonymous questioner on the site asked Jessica about her opinions on suicide. Her response:

If you ever feel this low i just wanna [say it’s] not your fault. People are mean. I know you feel useless broken not wanted and alone. i was there. But i promise you it will get better….Nothing is worth it; it will all get better.

But things didn’t get better. She fielded hostile comments such as “you have pretty eyes but your fat,” “Can you kill yourself already?” and “Nobody even cares about you.”

About two weeks after Thanksgiving, Laney hanged herself.

Audrie Pott:

After three boys gang-raped her and distributed photos of the crime, Audrie Pott hanged herself with a belt.

At a house party on Labor Day weekend 2012 in the posh-and-privileged California coastal town of Saratoga, police say 15-year-old Audrie Pott fell unconscious after drinking vodka and was sexually assaulted by three boys who subsequently scrawled lewd remarks on her body. They photographed the event and distributed digital photos to local students, where the images “spread like wildfire.”

Tortured by the fact that her gang rape was being treated like reality-TV entertainment, Audrie hanged herself with a belt a week after the house party.

Cora DeLille: After being tormented at school during a time of personal turmoil, Cora DeLille killed herself and wrote a note that said “Thanks for all the pain.”

At the emotionally raw age of 15, this Ohio girl felt despondent about life. She had just broken up with her boyfriend, and the stepfather she’d known all her life had divorced her mother. In a suicide note she left before hanging herself at her family’s home in May of 2014, she named four tormentors from school—two of them her ex-boyfriends—whom she claimed had pushed her to the point where she didn’t want to live anymore. One line in her suicide note stood out above all the others:

Thanks for all the pain.

Sophie Lionnet:

A deadly case of bullying, torture and murder:

Sophie Lionnet, 21, an French au pair girl, had been bullied, had tortured, killed and burned by her au pair parentsm in 2017. Jurors heard more than eight hours of recordings in which Ms Lionnet was slapped and called "worse than a murderer" by her tormentors at their home in Southfields.

Kouider and Medouni dunked her head into water, starved her, hit her with an electrical cable and beat her so badly she had five broken ribs and a cracked breast bone, the jury was told. The couple then killed her before throwing her body on the bonfire in their garden as they barbecued chicken nearby.They starved, tortured and broke her until she could no longer fight. They took away her dignity and finally her life. Nobody helped her, because until her cruel death everybody believes the au pair parents, even her own parents. Psychopaths can made perfect lies or...Sabrina Kouider, 35, and Ouissem Medouni, 40, repeatedly beat, tormented and abused their nanny, Sophie Lionnet, in the weeks leading up to her death.
Kouider told the court that Medouni had tortured Miss Lionnet in the bath, then demanded they have sex as she lay dead nearby.
The couple were found guilty of murder following a trial in which they blamed one another for Ms Lionnet's killing in their bath, each saying they were asleep at the time.
That means that psychopaths and bullies are cowards and liars, right?

Sexual Harassment and Bullying: A Guide to Keeping Kids Safe and Holding Schools Accountable/Susan Strauss (Autor):
Despite headlines that label all harassment among youth as bullying, there is in fact a difference between sexual harassment and bullying. This book discusses the similarities and important differences between the two, offering firsthand accounts from victims and others involved in combating the activities that victimize students. It provides parents, youth advocates, scout leaders, and other concerned adults with practical steps to partner with schools to prevent and intervene on the behaviors to help keep kids safe. The book clearly identifies the steps to take to hold schools accountable when a student has been harassed or bullied, even when the school is not stopping the behavior. Providing examples throughout the work, Strauss helps readers become better acquainted with the various activities that constitute sexual harassment and bullying and what they can do to combat the problem.

Nobody's Victim: Fighting Psychos, Stalkers, Pervs and Trolls/Carrie Goldberg (Autor)
'A rallying cry for privacy justice . . . chilling . . . take-no-prisoners and warmly gregarious' New York Times

'We need more warriors like Carrie' Tarana Burke, founder of the MeToo movement

'In the age of doxxing, revenge porn, and misogynist trolls, this book is required reading. . . . In telling these wrenching stories, Goldberg gives voice to the legions who have experienced unthinkable violence' Esquire, Best Books of Summer 2019

Nobody's Victim is an unflinching look at a hidden world most people don't know exists-one of stalking, blackmail, and sexual violence, online and off-and the incredible story of how one lawyer, determined to fight back, turned her own hell into a revolution.

Nobody's Victim invites readers to join Carrie Goldberg on the front lines of the war against sexual violence and privacy violations as her law firm sues the hell out of tech companies, schools, and sexual predators. Her battleground is the courtroom; her crusade is to transform clients from victims into warriors.

In gripping detail, Carrie shares the diabolical ways her clients are attacked and how she, through her unique combination of relentless advocacy, badass risk-taking, and unique client-empowerment, pursues justice for them all. There is the ex-boyfriend who made fake bomb threats in a client's name, causing a national panic; the girl who was sexually assaulted on school grounds and then suspended when she reported the attack; and the guy who used a dating app to send more than 1,200 men to his ex's home and office for sex. Carrie also shares her own shattering story about why she began her work and became the lawyer she needed.

Riveting and essential, Nobody's Victim is a bold and timely analysis of victim protection in the era of the Internet. This book is an urgent warning of a coming crisis, a predictor of imminent danger, and a weapon to take back control and protect ourselves-both online and off.

*Perfect for fans of She Said by Jodi Kantor and Megan Twohey, The Whisper Network by Chandler Baker and The Good Fight*

Bitch Fight: Put and End to Women Bullying Women in the Workplace/Jean-Francois Ducharme (Autor)
Thud! Crack! That’s the sound heard around the world as women bash their head against that impenetrable glass ceiling. It’s not only men who keep women from climbing the corporate ladder. Women mistreating their sisters in business are at the root of many bloodied heads and bruised psyches. Women bullying and sabotaging women in the workplace is pervasive. It’s a taboo subject cloaked in silence. This invisible threat leaves careers decimated and can create chaos in organisations. This book is for all those whose lives have been turned upside down by women bullies in the workplace. In this book we share our strategies, our insights and our understanding of the what, how and why this happens. We have solutions to help you deal with bullies at work and help you get the job and career you want and deserve. It’s time to put a stop to women bullying women in the workplace.

The Misogynist Woman: A Commentary on the Modern Woman Mindset /Rebecca O'Donnell (Autor)
Throughout history, women have been blamed for the problems of humanity. From Pandora's curiosity releasing all suffering, to Eve's greed getting us kicked out of Paradise, women have been the root of all evil. This falsehood has been fed to every child, both male and female, for centuries. The real tragedy is not that men are taught this, but that so many women believe it also. The Misogynist Woman spells out exactly how the Brainwashing works, and how women everywhere come to believe it as truth. It is not truth. It is, and always has been, the Great Lie.

Little Girls Can Be Mean: Four Steps to Bully-Proof Girls in the Early Grades/Michelle Anthony (Autor)
Worried about mean girls? Help your daughter respond and react to bullying where it starts---in elementary school

As experts in developmental psychology and each a mother of three, Dr. Michelle Anthony and Dr. Reyna Lindert began noticing an alarming pattern of social struggle among girls as young as five, including their own daughters. In today's world, it is likely that your daughter has been faced with bullying and friendship issues, too---and perhaps you're at a loss for how to guide her through these situations effectively. Little Girls Can Be Mean is the first book to tackle the unique social struggles of elementary-aged girls, giving you the tools you need to help your daughter become stronger, happier, and better able to enjoy her friendships at school and beyond.

Dr. Anthony and Dr. Lindert offer an easy-to-follow, 4-step plan to help you become a problem-solving partner with your child, including tips and insights that girls can use on their own to confront social difficulties in an empowered way. Whether your daughter is just starting grade school or is already on her way to junior high, you'll learn how to:

OBSERVE the social situation with new eyes
CONNECT with your child in a new way
GUIDE your child with simple, compassionate strategies
SUPPORT your daughter to act more independently to face the social issue

By focusing squarely on the issues and needs of girls in the years before adolescence, Little Girls Can Be Mean is the essential, go-to guide for any parent or educator of girls in grades K-6.

The Asshole Survival Guide: How to Deal with People Who Treat You Like Dirt /Robert I Sutton (Autor)
From the international bestselling expert on dealing with assholes

'With cutting-edge research and real-life examples that are thought-provoking and often hilarious, thisis an indispensable resource'
Gretchen Rubin, author of The Happiness Project

'At last someone has provided clear steps for rejecting, deflecting, and deflating the jerks who blight our lives. Better still, that someone is the great Bob Sutton, which ensures that the information is useful, evidence-based, and fun to read'
Robert Cialdini, author of Influence and Pre-Suasion

'If only Bob Sutton's book had been available to help me deal with the full complement of 1st-class assholes I've encountered in my 50-year professional life. No names shall be mentioned'
Tom Peters, co-author of In Search of Excellence

Being around assholes, whether at work or elsewhere, can damage performance and affect wellbeing: having one asshole in a team has been shown to reduce performance by 30 to 40%. And social media has only given rise to further incivility -- 40% of people have experienced harassment online.

In The Asshole Survival Guide, Stanford professor Robert Sutton offers practical advice on identifying and tackling any kind of asshole -- based on research into groups from uncivil civil servants to French bus drivers, and 8,000 emails that he has received on asshole behaviour.
With expertise and humour, he provides a cogent and methodical game-plan. First, he sets out the asshole audit, to find out what kind of asshole needs dealing with, and asshole detection strategies. Then he reveals field-tested, sometimes surprising techniques, from asshole avoidance and asshole taxes to mind-tricks and the art of love bombing. Finally, he explains the dangers of asshole blindness -- when the problem might be yours truly.

Readers will learn how to handle assholes - in the workplace and beyond - once and for all!

Anita Kanitz, Stuttgart, Germany
1 year ago
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