Social Services want a violent perpetrator to have full custody against my will
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Hi my name is Sherrie Chapman.
I am the mother to my beautiful 2 year old son Boy L ( Cannot disclose names for Legal purposes . ) I am grieving for my son along with thousands of other British families that are grieving for a child which is still alive . I created this campaign to raise awareness for Special Needs Children, Domestic Abuse and the problecations in the Family Courts that occur silently due to laws that stop free speech in Care Proceedings. I want to see change in our society for vulnerable families and children. My son was taken for Not meeting his speech milestones. I was alleged of having Borderline Personality Disorder but that has now been cleared.. I do not meet the criteria. I was alleged of neglect and future neglect due to mental health. I regularly met with professionals and social workers. Prior to the removal my little boy was living at home under a written agreement. The welfare company had the wrong details for me and appointments were sketchy. I was in and out of court on a weekly basis. On one day social services organised a LAC review on the same morning as meeting the parenting assessor i was not even told the address of the LAC meeting. My solicitor told me the parenting assessment was more important so i arranged to meet them and proposed the father took my son to the LAC so it was not missed. This was not accepted by the LA. In the end the parenting assessor cancelled and it was to late to go to the LAC even though I had no address for the LAC meeting. It was then put to the court that I didn't engage.
Social services want my sons father who was known as a violent domestic abuser to have full custody against my will . My mental health has been cleared. I met all social services asked demands however to meet targets it's still not enough. Police reports document Mr A. N abuse and a transcript was sent to the courts swinging punches and admitting to lying he was infertile to trap people. He has done no perpatrator course. He is in a Deduction from earnings order.. The local authority priority housed us due to him being a violent perpetrator. He stalked me at work and during court proproceedings sent semi naked videos humping the wall. This is not acceptable i do not consent to this perpatrator having full custody.
I was accused of not giving my child enough love and emotional warmth. I fell below the threshold for Borderline Personality Disorder on the NHS and a psychological test however professionals still say I have borderline and portray me as a loner with no social and emotional ability. Speech delay, learning difficulties and Autism ran In the paternal side with sporadic involvement from his father yet I'm still to blame. He was taken from friends and family and will be expected to make new friends and risk being moved from them again. Again, this is not taken into consideration when it comes to 'attachment.' Professionals have said I focused to much on his 'special needs' and didn't try to help him develop with speech. There is no evidence of this. I had picture books and took him to all his appointments to get his target words. He prefers to visual learn and point. I was not the first person to suggest autism. It was a parent infant psychotherapist and the health visitor.
I followed up what was asked of me and done singing activities with him yet I am to blame.Often children are removed with special needs for 'No Emotional Warmth' adopted without family consent then later a diagnosis is given but it's to late. Professionals say my mental health was the reason for Boy L not meeting his milestones in speech however I only had mild depression under GP control. A diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder is being pushed yet I was discharged and did not meet the criteria.
Picture evidence of my son playing with friends his age, at playgroup, soft play, swimming , making cakes at home, his friends birthday parties, at four kingdoms adventure playground, at the zoo are all evidence i did not fail to stimulate him. He had age appropriate toys and we played together. Social workers doubted my son had mixed with children his age. A psychological assessor alleged I had no friends which was far from the truth my son even went to my work colleagues family BBQs. I am still friends with people from primary school and had a happy loving childhood. Psychologist do not believe this.
Autistic and SEN children do not necessarily have the same needs as non-autistic children either. A social worker may for instance believe the parent is not socialising them enough, but many autistic children have meltdowns in the company of peers due to sensory issues, or do not want to play with peers who ridicule them, or they prefer playing alone. So social workers are judging parents by neurotypical standards, and autism families will therefore always be found lacking according to the tick-boxes.Social workers have little training in Autism.
I will share some of my story that I can legally share without prosecution. I know from personal experience what the system is like. Perpatrators using social services and family courts to get to their victims successfully and to try and break you down. It's not a justice system or fair but one we are forced to accept. Three years out of that relationship with my sons father and he still uses the courts to abuse the family further.
Local authorities will change their view on perpetrators depending on the case. Often than not the victim is blamed by the authorities labelled as " Attention seeking" or "Mentally ill." The victims find the strength and confidence to leave then forced to sit face to face with the abuser. Quite often the abuser will play the victim and make the victim the perpetrator this is known by the term ' Gas Light Abuse' It horrifies me how we are treated as victims by family courts and Local Authorities in proceedings. In some cases the victim is labelled mentally ill or Unstable the perpetrator gains full custody and then abuses the child. Where is the justice in that? Meanwhile loving doting dad's are fighting hard to see their children with no success.
Boy L had lots of clothes, toys and happy memories with family. I attended all his medicals and always engaged with the health visitor and other health services. I spent my maternity allowance on him and the home, saved for him in a Junior ISA account and took him on holidays. I done what any loving mother would do. He had lots of friends and would see family regularly at weekends. He loved soft play, going to the beach and aquarium. Yet social services say I'm a mother that prioritises myself.
He was content, reports were positive that showed he was running round confident, happy, eating, smiling etc. He has a sensory tent in his bedroom and it was decorateddsky blue. He loved having his own room which was much better than the studio flat we was cramped in. All those years in emergency accommodation were worth while when we finally had our safe haven.
The separation in care proceedings is very brutal families are ripped away from one another and proceedings started without even being informed. While the case is ongoing assessments are slow taking place. The local authority tried to remove him for months and as a lone parent I had to keep putting him in nursery to attend court proceedings. It meant I was not allowed to even take my child anywhere I was simply at the mercy of Social Services due to my son not meeting his speech milestone. Education is important and targets but why make young children see psychological assessors and run all these tests? Children should just be allowed to grow and be themselves . In England children have been adopted with autism and falsely accused of 'Emotional Neglect' years later informed by social services that "They got it wrong.." It's not good enough.
In my case, the father was introduced which was a shock as Social Services Support Worker ( That I can't name for legal purposes) had warned me we would go on a child protection if his father was involved. I took her advice and done as she said. I put my child first. His father didn't seek any contact he was always in and out. Fortunately i recorded the abuse as he waited outside my flat to me to return with my son. He threatened to slit my throat with a knife. He now sees his son supervised by family. The system is appalling.
Boy L has special needs he has limited language so partially non verbal and had mild hearing difficulties . Boy L says 3 words but communicates in other ways. Please help me raise awareness for SEN and special needs children and the importance of referring them onto courses such as MAKATON to help parents and children communicate. It should not be acceptable for society to discriminate against disability and young children not meeting their communication milestone threshold. Why should the children be punished for not meeting mainstream threshold?
Please Bring Boy L Home After Proceedings and Raise Special Needs Awareness
Promote additional Needs information and social groups in children centres. Social workers and Health visitors to be more educated on Domestic Violence, absent parents, parent alienation in care proceedings and Special Needs social groups. Courses for speech delay such as MAKATON should be advertised and free legal advice posters in children centres.
Many health visitors have little knowledge on special needs social groups and the referrals take ages. Make information, groups and courses easily accessible for families. Walk in Clinics often have a maximum number of children they see in the duration. Stop funding children to be removed unessisarily and provide better support networks in the community allowing all families to have there child seen by speech and language without a time scale or minimum number of clients for that session.
Children have the rights to see both mum and dad. It should not be one or the other. The childs wishes should always be put first in proceedings .This is rarely done.
Stop blaming science on young mothers. Allow capable parents to look after children with special needs before removing them. Look at biological conditions that may exist in maternal AND paternal blood line before speculating 'Emotional Abuse'
I refer to the process as legalised human trafficking . Thousands of children run away each year from abusive foster families each year and forcefully taken back to the abusive establishments or another home . The children are cut off from family and friends and many are abused in the system that claims they ' safeguard ' children. I'm not saying all carers are bad but the business is corrupt and money orientated . Social services bully,victimise and discriminate vulnerable families .
Thousands of people including myself felt obligated to communicate with Social services but eventually it gets to the point you cannot meet all the appointments announced / unannounced .We are brainwashed to see the authority as a 'friend' but really the day you accept any help even if you didn't ask for it they have their foot in the door and begin to twist and fabricate reports . They can make the most compliant , respected human appear to be a reckless unstable danger and then your child's fate really is in the governments fate. Reports from one family are often used to grade a totally different family . Thoughts and feelings aren't apart of the care proceedings process which is why the courts are referred to as 'silent courts ' not only my own experience has made me question the quality of service given but also other people's stories.
The police need a warrant to enter a private property yet we allow social workers to enter our home to take our children so freely. Social workers bully , victimise and play families off against one another in order to take the child against the will of the parents in order to reach targets and make money. The child's wishes and feelings are rarely taken into account even if they are an age to say what they want. Abuse that happens in a looked after placement is often played down or projected back onto the parents by claiming it's their fault. They will never admit to any harm being caused which is why you must record everything and document everything .
Social services can't be sure of my sons special needs despite seeing copies of his disability paperwork and have unfairly accused me of neglecting Boy L I have been fighting for months to keep Boy L with me and had been successful until Thursday 26th October I lost the fight. Boy L was separated from me for the first time since his birth Spring 2015 ( cannot give exact date to avoid being in contempt. ) His violent father wanted him to go into the system but I'm not backing down. I want Boy L to be reunited with family at home in April with his family. I need your support to make this happen. Please read the page and share this petition, I will be eternally grateful for any help towards this cause. My little boy was discriminated for not meeting his communication milestones. I have mild depression that's under the GP's control. I do not even receive the maximum dose of medication. Social services exaggerated this stating I had attachment issues and that Boy L may turn out like me if he was to stay with me. I was unfairly labelled as having BPD and yet receive no medication for this illness no referrals elsewhere and nothing on my records to prove I have BPD( The famous Borderline Personality Disorder.) I was diagnosed this by a court psychological assessor. I've now been cleared of this illness overnight. Treatment is normally 2-3 by which the children are gone. Years of treatment for a illness that you get diagnosed with when they cant fit you into a box.
There were slanderous comments made by social workers to only be told that I was an attention seeker and exaggerating Boy L's special needs. Social Services refused to let me say goodbye to my son nor did they ask about his medicals, his red book, allergies, appointments etc. They didn't take any of his clothes nor his belongings from home to help him settle the day he was removed from me. After I left court I was under the impression I'd be involved in the handover of my son to make this less stressful for him but when I went to the nursery to see him I was told by two women I was not allowed to say goodbye and was to stand outside (in the rain) and wait for the social worker to come. (I was not told when this would be) I was not allowed to enter the premises and was treated like a criminal. I waited at home with his bags packed but the social worker didn't collect it. The following day I brought the bag to contact. Boy L was crying and screaming before entering the room. He rushed to me when he saw me and clung on to me. It was clear he hadn't eaten or drank anything. He ate the packed lunch I made him and was even eating the crumbs out the carpet. He's anxious and scared. He has little understanding of what's going on. It breaks my heart. Since in care he's had bruises and cuts. Different stories were told and the social worker did not make it his priority to check that day the marks on Boy L's face . Coincidently the camera was not working but I got evidence of this despite the camera not working .
Boy L cries and gets distressed when it's time for me to leave. Whilst in care I am not updated on his medicals, told his address or nursery. I was told he is finding nursery challenging. Maybe this is down to being separated from his mother but It can't possibly be than can it right?
I have recorded him having bruises and at one point a red mark on the right side of his face. I was told he fell off a chair and injured himself but these incidents seem to be occurring more and more often. The foster carer hit Boy Ls head on her car boot. I was lied to before at a LAC " My husband was playing with L in the air and he fell." The social worker sent an email informing me it was the car boot.. The foster carer said I almost jeopardised his placement but all I am doing is reporting the truth.
The court process causes emotional harm and breaks families apart . It causes adults and children emotional trauma and can impact the results on a child's health and wellbeing. This is often not taken into account. My son has been to countless nurseries and medical examinations. The Authority place families in emergency accommodations that are full of alcoholics and drugs users. They ask if you can sofa surf with children at friends or family addresses . Like this would be healthy for a new family ? When you wait to finally get a settled permanent place of your own they take your children for no good reason other than ' potential risks.'
These past few months have been the worst of my life . I have been called a child abuser by professionals and in one report read that I should not be around my god child as I'm unstable and the LA need to find out the details of that child immediately. I am ashamed to call myself a British citezen.
I love and adore my son. The first Christmas without him is really hard but seeing his happy face and excitement to give me what he made me at nursery was the best gift of all. We took lots of happy photos and he loves his little red shiny car to add to his collection.
I dedicate all my time to the case in between working, going to appointments and advising others in the same situation in hope we will be reunited again. I can't thank my local community enough for all the support you've given me and my family. In time I aim to make a social group to provide a community to share thoughts and feelings with other people in the group that are going through care proceedings.
I hope in the event my case dismally progresses to an Adoption ( Against the will of me and my loving family. ) Boy L will be able to find me and his family when he is older and we will hopefully be able to form a mother son relationship when he is older. In the meantime I will be saving for his future in his ISA spending my time at work and building a future that one day he will hopefully be part of again.
The purpose of my campaign is to STOP forced adoption and punishment without crime. Family members are jailed for campaigning.. This comunist way of life in the UK is to take your money for tax and turn your family against you. My sons head on a car boot by the foster carer. She showed no emotion. I am not informed where he goes to nursery or lives. I am told he might be adopted. I work and pay tax,my mental health was cleared yet I cannot pay for a private lawyer. Social Services target the vulnerable and children become the kids of the state. The most horrific murders of children In care are played down.. How can this be child protection?
STOP FORCED ADOPTION. We our losing our children to forced adoption and to the care system in secret courts. For reason that shouldn't be used. 1Future emotional harm is one off them. 2 The parent being in care our 3 mental health 4 our past as children 5 domestic violence victim's 6 learning disability.. we lost our children social workers should be helping keeping family's together instead they DONT it 's happening all the time. Adoption should be a last resort it's not being used like that. Our Babies have been and our being stolen social workers our taking children from loving familys.we as parents grandparents call for every case to be looked into, we call for an inquiry. We want our babies return to us!! No MORE FORCED ADOPTION!!!!!!!! We must stand together RETURN OUR BABIES
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