Removal of Kanyadaan Ritual from Hindu Marriage

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To,

Smt. Maneka Sanjay Gandhi, Union Minister for Women and Child Development

Some traditions/practices do not serve the best interest of our society as we are moving forth to a society with gender equality. They become redundant with time.

If dowry must be done away with, why not Kanyadaan? Why pay obeisance to an optional custom with so much blind obedience, when woman is legally not allowed to be Objectified.

I don't like to remember my wedding day (12-08-2012) because of the moment my parents decided to donate their MBA daughter in front of society at large. I was like,"why did you send me to a public school, Papa? Why did you send me to DPS? If you wanted to insult me so badly you shouldn't have educated me, papa."

I felt like an object or worse a Cow that day. In that one moment, I felt all the love they give me as a child was a lie, a complete lie. I understood, all the silences my parents kept in my relationship. My soul screamed that night....

I know both my parents love me, even more after marriage. But I don't want another daughter to feel so humiliated. We saw this in old movies. I couldn't believe this could happen to me.

But I don't want another daughter to feel so humiliated. We saw this in old movies. I couldn't believe this could happen to me.

How can someone donate one's child? 

How can someone donate another HUMAN without his/her consent in free India?

How can someone make a woman feel worthless/of zero value as she gets Donated to earn her parents a ticket to Heaven?

Some people argue that Kanya Daan doesn't actually imply donating a daughter. If it doesn't, then why can't its name be changed. Why can't Kanya Daan be rebranded?

Because this word Kanya Daan is downright humiliating - demeaning - extremely hurtful.

Can you ask an Indian boy how he will feel if he is getting donated by his very own parents? How would you feel?

How would you feel?

Can you create a ceremony that honors the transition from a girl to a married woman?

Why should a Kanya Daan be the turning point event of handing over....?

.........And Handing Over daughter certain doesn't translate into a Donation of the daughter........

Why can't it be "Sukanya Samarpan" and "Var Samarpan" - a mutual Samarpan of Bride and Groom to each other?

Even UN gives equal rights to both men and women in the event of their marriage.

Just to take a look,

Article 16. of the UN Declaration of Universal Human Rights, that was drafted after World War II says,


"Men and women of full age, without any limitation due to race, nationality or religion, have the right to marry and to found a family.
They are entitled to EQUAL RIGHTS as to marriage, during marriage and at its dissolution.
Marriage shall be entered into only with the free and full consent of the intending spouses.
The family is the natural and fundamental group unit of society and is entitled to protection by society and the State."


Kanya Daan as a concept is redundant in the light of modern day woman and the independence and freedom she enjoys as a Human.

We are educated people and do not require such heartless expression to get our passport to heaven.

Kanya Daan is not in sync with Universal Human Rights as defined by the United Nations.

The title of ceremony Kanya Daan is demeaning and attacks the dignity of a woman by objectifying her as an object for donation.

Dear Madam, please take charge of this social revolution.

We, women of India, give you big congratulations on the success of this change already.

Thank you Thank you Thank you, Always for bringing more dignity to the lives of Indian woman!!

 Regards and Heartfelt Thanks,

Aarti Razdan

 



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