"We were sold a lie on an almighty scale, that equality had been won, the battle was over.“
- Kat Banyard, British feminist
„Woman is not born: she is made. In the making, her humanity is destroyed. She becomes symbol of this, symbol of that: mother of the earth, slut of the universe; but she never becomes herself because it is forbidden for her to do so.
Feminists are often asked whether pornography causes rape. The fact is that rape and prostitution caused and continue to cause pornography. Politically, culturally, socially, sexually, and economically, rape and prostitution generated pornography; and pornography depends for its continued existence on the rape and prostitution of women.
Pornography is used in rape - to plan it, to execute it, to choreograph it, to engender the excitement to commit the act. [Andrea testimony before the New York Attorney General's Commission on Pornography in 1986]
Women, for centuries not having access to pornography and now unable to bear looking at the muck on the supermarket shelves, are astonished. Women do not believe that men believe that pornography says about women. But they do. From the worst to the best of them, they do.
Sexism is the foundation on which all tyranny is built. Every social form of hierarchy and abuse is modeled on male-over-female domination.
Men who want to support women in our struggle for freedom and justice should understand that it is not terrifically important to us that they learn to cry; it is important to us that they stop the crimes of violence against us.
The fact that we are all trained to be mothers from infancy on means that we are all trained to devote our lives to men, whether they are our sons or not; that we are all trained to force other women to exemplify the lack of qualities which characterizes the cultural construct of femininity.
Intercourse as an act often expresses the power men have over women.“
PORNOGRAPHY: MEN POSSESSING WOMEN
by Andrea Dworkin
Men of the Right and men of the Left have an undying allegiance to prostitution as such, regardless of their theoretical relationship to marriage. The Left sees the prostitute as the free, public woman of sex, exciting because she flaunts it, because of her brazen availability. The Right sees in the prostitute the power of the bad woman of sex, the male's use of her being his dirty little secret. The old pornography industry was a right-wing industry: secret money, secret sin, secret sex, secret promiscuity, secret buying and selling of women, secret profit, secret pleasure not only from sex but also from the buying and selling. The new pornography industry is a left-wing industry: promoted especially by the boys of the sixties as simple pleasure, lusty fun, public sex, the whore brought out of the bourgeois (sic) home into the streets for the democratic consumption of all men; her freedom, her free sexuality, is as his whore--and she likes it. It is her political will as well as her sexual will; it is liberation. The dirty little secret of the left-wing pornography industry is not sex but commerce.
The new pornography industry is held, by leftist males, to be inherently radical. Sex is claimed by the Left as a leftist phenomenon; the trade in women is most of sex. The politics of liberation are claimed as indigenous to the Left by the Left; central to the politics of liberation is the mass-marketing of material that depicts women being used as whores. The pimps of pornography are hailed by leftists as saviors and savants. Larry Flynt has been proclaimed a savior of the counterculture, a working-class hero, and even, in a full-page advertisement in The New York Times signed by distinguished leftist literati, an "American Dissident" persecuted as Soviet dissidents are. Hugh Hefner is viewed as a pioneer of sexual freedom who showed, in the words of columnist Max Lerner, "how the legislating of sexuality could be fought, how the absurd anti-play and anti-pleasure ethic could be turned into a stylish hedonism and a lifeway which includes play and playfulness along with work. 15 Lerner also credits Hefner with being a precursor of the women's movement.
On the Left, the sexually liberated woman is the woman of pornography. Free male sexuality wants, has a right to, produces, and consumes pornography because pornography is pleasure. Leftist sensibility promotes and protects pornography because pornography is freedom. The pornography glut is bread and roses for the masses. Freedom is the mass-marketing of woman as whore. Free sexuality for the woman is in being massively consumed, denied an individual nature, denied any sexual sensibility other than that which serves the male. Capitalism is not wicked or cruel when the commodity is the whore; profit is not wicked or cruel when the alienated worker is a female piece of meat; corporate bloodsucking is not wicked or cruel when the corporations in question, organized crime syndicates, sell cunt; racism is not wicked or cruel when the black cunt or yellow cunt or red cunt or Hispanic cunt or Jewish cunt has her legs splayed for any man's pleasure; poverty is not wicked or cruel when it is the poverty of dispossessed women who have only themselves to sell; violence by the powerful against the powerless is not wicked or cruel when it is called sex; slavery is not wicked or cruel when it is sexual slavery; torture is not wicked or cruel when the tormented are women, whores, cunts. The new pornography is left-wing; and the new pornography is a vast graveyard where the Left has gone to die. The Left cannot have its whores and its politics too.
And my meaning is:
Unfortunately, the porn industry contributes to the brutalization of men with sadistic torture porn, rape porn on. And not enough with this women hating unprotected sex is always shown, the porn industry still contributes to the spread of sexually transmitted diseases and AIDS. Infections of porn starst are always covered up, but there are cases where a male porn actor has infected hundreds of colleagues with AIDS. In addition, 90% of all porn is sadistic, misogynistic, the porn actresses are all very young, disgusting practices such as mass rape, BDSM, simultaneous multiple penetration of vagina, anus and mouth, which may be associated with serious injuries, are portrayed as normal. Vomiting, pleading, begging and crying of porn actresses are portrayed as normal. This is pure women hatred and should be banned worldwide! Many men want sex not in this kind, even not women! Because if men are wanted oral sex and anal sex all the time they should even times swallow their own sperm and getting tooth damage and injuries in the neck area and can make anal sex with huge dildos and vibrators and then they know what avoid injury, and bleeding of the intestines until incontinence means. Every normal man will then take considerate of a woman and those which want cruel and dangerous practices belong to jail! This misogynist pornography must be banned worldwide anywhere!!!!!
Pornographers are women's haters and women's despisers at it's finest. Pornography means war against women, girls, children and it also means the mental and physical destruction of female people and childs. Pornography has nothing to do with sex, eroticism and love, but with femicide, rape, torture, humiliation, annihilation.
As a teenager, I was damned unhappy that suddenly there were sex films, porno films, porn posters, sex posters everywhere. Verbal and physical sexual assaults by men and boys towards female children, teenagers, young women and even older women have become part of everyday life ever since this time. I did not like anything of the sexual liberation, because now women and girls should find bad and violent sex suddenly good. In the cinemas ran perverse films like Clockwork Orange or the last Tango of Paris. We women and girls hated all that, but if we said something critical, we were abnormal and frigid and male haters, not real women and crazy.
Not a single woman or girl was sexually enthusiastic at the time, dating rape and rape in partnership and marriage were the norm. Even I have several jobs terminated because of sexual harassment and a rape attempt. And I was not alone with this problem, all women and girls I know had the same problem. The police did not pick up ads at all, they often found it funny to laugh about what the women and girls reported, and even made sexist remarks, who wants to rape something like you, or are you one of the modern crazy feminists?
The first sex was for everyone female person I know and that is still today, associated with great pain and blood, mostly this sex was unwanted.
Today, as I know from two very young female acquaintances, it is almost impossible to find men as partners, spouses certainly not at all,to find partners who do not want BDSM sex, almost excluded. Many men, no matter their age, are brothel visitors and looking for sex contacts over the Internet. They are not interested in women and girls at all, in disputes it is the rule to call women and girls as cunts, sluts, whores and fuckbodies.
As I was very young, men and boys became verbally and physically violent towards women and girls who either did not want sex or who did not like sex or find the sex worse or did not fake an orgasm. From, let's sew your ugly hole up to let you cut off everything, you do not need it anyway, was insulting everything for all females. Very often I also heard from female acquaintances and girlfriends that their friends and partners abruptly removed the condoms during intercourse and unloaded their fish smelting sperm unrestrained into their vaginas. As a result, the women and girls then had to undergo pregnancy tests and HIV tests. Sometimes they also get sexual and dangerous infections. That kind of the worst and inhuman violence makes me sick. Also, it often happened that vaginal intercourse suddenly became unquestioned anal intercourse, resulting in anal injuries, bleedings and severe pain. The screams of pain did not interest the men and boys in all these cases, they still called the women and girls as impossible and cold. Violent and bad sex is rape, a fact that men and boys do not want to acknowledge and never will do everworldwide. That's a heinous scandal!And that has not changed until now, things are getting more and more worse.
A young female acquaintance told me that her friend slammed her against the wall when she did not want to have BDSM sex. Then she fled the apartment and he sold her private things. Even her father, who wanted to pick up her things, was threatened and the Ex-friend told him that he could keep the stupid bitch, his daughter. Her ex-boyfriend immediately found a new sex contact over the Internet and then posted on Facebook with her als newsexy friend. So much for the great love he had lied to my acquaintance.
Another female friend was friends with a theology student who liked violent sex. He also slept in front of everyone at a party with another girl. When my girlfriend left him because of this, she had to leave the apartment without her clothes and personal things because of verbal and physical attacks. After months she got these, but not as thought. At night, after attending a pop concert with me and another female friend, this lunatic already lurked in her apartment with his friends, had cleared her fridge and emptied all drinks, put her bag full of insects and maggots in the bedroom and threatened her still with a gangbang. If other homeowners did not call the police, that would have been damned bad for my female friend. In my youth was it a sad fact, that going to the movies often meant that the guys drove with the girls in sex cinemas or movie theaters with sex movies or porno films and then raped them in woods. When they became pregnant, they were beaten by them. But even later, a girlfriend, only 16 years old, happened an oral gangbang with 20 men instead of a date with a man in love. This gangbang was filmed and she was blackmailed with it.
A old woman I met in a clinic told me that her son-in-law had so strangled her daughter in enforced BDSM sex that she has been permanently in coma ever since. He was actually acquitted, a scandal in my view.
So much for the great sex life we women and girls get commanded by men. It's a shame that violence and humiliation are now so glorified by the porn industry. This should be stopped as soon as possible, because a sexual femicide, which has never existed in human history in this form, is emerging worldwide.
books about that:
Pornland: How Porn Has Hijacked Our Sexuality by Gail Dines (Autor);
Astonishingly, the average age of first viewing porn is now 11.5 years for boys, and with the advent of the Internet, it’s no surprise that young people are consuming more porn than ever. And, as Gail Dines shows, today’s porn is strikingly different from yesterday’s Playboy. As porn culture has become absorbed into pop culture, a new wave of entrepreneurs are creating porn that is even more hard-core, violent, sexist, and racist. Proving that porn desensitizes and actually limits our sexual freedom, Dines argues its omnipresence is a public health concern we can no longer ignore.
Battling Pornography: The American Feminist Anti-Pornography Movement, 1976–1986 by Carolyn Bronstein (Autor):
Pornography catapulted to the forefront of the American women's movement in the 1980s. In Battling Pornography, Carolyn Bronstein locates the origins of anti-pornography sentiment in the turbulent social and cultural history of the late 1960s and 1970s. Based on extensive original archival research, the book reveals that the seeds of the movement were planted by groups who protested the proliferation of advertisements, Hollywood films and other mainstream media that glorified sexual violence. Over time, feminist leaders redirected the emphasis from violence to pornography to leverage rhetorical power. Battling Pornography presents a fascinating account of the rise and fall of this significant American social movement and documents the contributions of influential activists on both sides of the pornography debate, including some of the best-known American feminists.
Sexual Enslavement of Girls and Women Worldwide by Andrea Parrot (Autor):
They are in different countries but share the same hell. Maria is one of 14 women lured from Mexico to Seattle, Washington, with the promise of a job, then held by force in a brothel and required to sexually service men 12 hours a day. Anna is a young mother from the Ukraine who left her husband and children there to take a job as a housecleaner in Italy, where she was put in a barred, guarded house and forced into prostitution. Nadia is an 11-year-old girl in Africa, kidnapped and forced to have sex with a militiaman daily, with a machete ever ready nearby should she refuse. All three women are part of horrific sex slavery that has drawn the attention of officials in countries around the globe. It is not rare; officials say it is increasing, at least partly due to the billions of dollars it brings in for organized crime. The U.S. State Department estimates 800,000 victims, mostly women and children, are trafficked for sex trade across nations each year and millions more are trafficked within countries - including the U.S., Britain, Spain, and the Netherlands. As a Seattle Times reporter explained when Maria's case hit the news there, the reality is that sex slaves for the most part are young women and teenaged girls who come from almost every one of the world's poorer countries and end up in almost every country where there is a combination of sexual demand and money. But they are also in undeveloped Africa, in prisons internationally, locked in forced marriages, or sold to men by parents.
In this book, Parrot and Cummings outline the scope and growth of the sex slave market today and explain the history with various elements - including economic, political, cultural, and religious - that make this trade difficult to fully expose, quell, combat, and shut down. We hear from girls and women around the world describing how sexual enslavement has tortured them physically, emotionally, and spiritually, whether they suffer at the hands of prison guards in Turkey, criminals in Washington, or buyers dealing with parents who sell their daughters for the sex slave trade in Greece, Belgium, or France. The authors also describe national and international efforts and legislation passed or in design to stop sex slavery. Successful countries and regions are spotlighted. Then Parrot and Cummings point out actions still needed to stop the sex slavery trade.
Girls Like Us: Fighting for a World Where Girls Are Not for Sale: A Memoir by Rachel Lloyd (Autor):
"Powerfully raw, deeply moving, and utterly authentic. Rachel Lloyd has turned a personal atrocity into triumph and is nothing less than a true hero. . . . Never again will you look at young girls on the street as one of 'those' women—you will only see little girls that are girls just like us." —Demi Moore, actress and activist
With the power and verity of First They Killed My Father and A Long Way Gone, Rachel Lloyd’s riveting survivor story is the true tale of her hard-won escape from the commercial sex industry and her bold founding of GEMS, New York City’s Girls Education and Mentoring Service, to help countless other young girls escape "the life." Lloyd’s unflinchingly honest memoir is a powerful and unforgettable story of inhuman abuse, enduring hope, and the promise of redemption.
Pornography: Men Possessing Women by Andrea Dworkin (Autor):
Andrea Dworking is one of those special people,who occupies that category of 'prophet of our times', presenting aspects of life in which, as human beings, we must look at, examine and do much personal reflection if we, as men and women, are interested growth and becoming aware, compassionate human beings in relation to each other. I am heartened that there are people, men and women, like herself in this world.
After Pornified: How Women Are Transforming Pornography & Why It Really Matters by Anne G. Sabo (Autor):
Porn brings up a lot of negative images in our sexualized, pornified culture. But today a growing number of women are radically changing porn to respectfully capture the authentic sexual lives of women and men, empowering and inspiring the viewer to claim her sexuality against a sexualized culture, and creating a real counterweight to pornified media and porn as its been known. In these womens hands porn has become a vehicle for women to explore and define sexuality on their terms, shining the light on how we can all break free from traditional gender roles and shatter erotic conventions.
Tracing the movement from its inception, After Pornfied visualizes this transformed porn to the reader in a way that no other book on porn has done, so that she too can see the power and potential of this new porn by women to free our minds and bodies from the demeaning imageries of our sex in all other porn and pornified media.
Porn affects us. Today, women are leading the way to make those effects empowering.
Pornography and Genocide: The War against Women by Thomas Trzyna (Autor) :
One out of every thirty five women born is killed for cultural or sexual reasons. In the twentieth century more women were killed for those reasons than all the people who died in wars. Women everywhere live in the higher stages of Gregory Stanton’s eight stage genocide scale. Pornography contributes to the peril, whether in the form of battlefield rape films, the rape chants of frat boys, or the massive distribution of violent images on the web and through other media. The United Nations definition of genocide must be changed to recognize women as a targeted group. Pornography and Genocide pulls together the evidence from legal scholars and a myriad of contemporary studies and news accounts from around the world. It is time to face the war against women.
Child Pornography: An Internet Crime by Ethel Quayle (Autor) :
Child pornography, particularly that available via the Internet, has become a cause of huge social concern in recent years. This book examines the reality behind the often hysterical media coverage of the topic. Drawing on extensive new research findings, it examines how child pornography is used on the Internet and the social context in which such use occurs, and develops a model of offending behaviour to better help understand and deal with the processes of offending. Detailed case studies and offenders' own accounts are used to illustrate the processes involved in offending and treatment.
The authors argue that we need to refine our ideas of offending, and that while severe deterrents need to be associated with possession of child pornography, a better understanding is needed of the links between possession and committing a contact offence. Only by improving our understanding of this complex and very controversial topic can we hope to deal effectively with offenders and with their child victims. This is a book which will become an essential read for anyone involved with offenders or victims from a psychological, judicial or social background.
Violence against Women in Pornography by Walter DeKeseredy (Autor), Marilyn Corsianos (Mitwirkende) :
Violence against Women in Pornography illuminates the ways in which adult pornography hurts many women, both on and off screen. A growing body of social scientific knowledge shows that it is strongly associated with various types of violence against women in intimate relationships. Many women who try to leave abusive and/or patriarchal men also report that pornography plays a role in the abuse inflicted on them by their ex-partners. On top of these harms, male pornography consumption is strongly correlated with attitudes supporting violence against women. Many researchers, practitioners, and policy makers believe that adult pornography is a major problem and offer substantial evidence supporting this claim.
Violence against Women in Pornography, unlike books written mainly for scholarly and general audiences, specifically targets students enrolled in undergraduate criminology, deviance, womens studies, masculinities studies, human sexuality, and media studies courses. Thoughtful discussion questions are placed at the end of each chapter, and appropriate PowerPoint slides and suggestions for classroom exercises will be available to aid student understanding. The main objective of this book is to motivate readers to think critically about adult pornography and to take progressive steps individually and collectively to curb the production and consumption of hurtful sexual media, including that from the "dark side of the Internet."
The Pimping of Prostitution: Abolishing the Sex Work Myth by Julie Bindel (Autor):
This book examines one of the most contested issues facing feminists, human rights activists and governments around the globe – the international sex trade. For decades, the liberal left has been conflicted as to whether pro-prostitution activists or abolitionists hold the correct view, and debates are ongoing as to who holds the key to the solutions facing the women and girls involved.
Paid For: My Journey Through Prostitution by Rachel Moran (Autor):
When you are fifteen years old and destitute, too unskilled to work and too young to claim unemployment benefit, your body is all you have left to sell.' Rachel Moran came from a troubled family background. Taken into State care at fourteen, she became homeless and got involved in prostitution aged fifteen. For the next seven years Rachel worked as a prostitute, isolated, drug-addicted, outside of society. Rachel's experience was one of violence, loneliness, and relentless exploitation and abuse. Her story reveals the emotional cost of selling your body night after night in order to survive-loss of innocence, loss of self-worth and a loss of connection from mainstream society that makes it all the more difficult to escape the prostitution world. At the age of 22 she managed, with remarkable strength, to liberate herself from that life. She went to university, gained a degree and forged a new life, but she always promised that one day she would complete this book. This is Rachel Moran's story, written in her own words and in her own name.
Sex, Lies & Statistics: The truth Julie Bindel doesn't want you to read by Brooke Magnanti (Autor), Belle de Jour (Autor) :
"An enlightening must-read for anyone exposed to the press" THE INDEPENDENT ON SUNDAY "Should be read by anyone claiming an interest in sex and, especially, sex equality" EVENING STANDARD "An important book... exactly the kind of level-headed analysis that could help to dispel some of the hysteria surrounding the sex industry" THE TIMES "As entertaining as it is erudite" THE OBSERVER As Belle de Jour she enthralled and outraged the nation in equal measure. Now her real identity is out in the open, Brooke's background as a scientist and a researcher can come to bear in her fascinating investigation into the truth behind the headlines, scandals and moral outrage that fill the media (and our minds) when it comes to sex. Using her entertaining and informed voice, Brooke strips away the hype and looks at the science behind sex and the panic behind public policy. Unlike so many media column inches, Brooke uses verifiable academic research. This is fact, not fiction; science not supposition. So sit back, open your mind and prepare to be shocked...
Between The Streetlights & Red Lights: Escaping from Human Trafficking, Sexual Slavery and Exploitation by Jack W Gregory (Autor):
This book is equal parts tragedy and triumph. All the contributers survived horrific sexual abuse, assault, rape, and human trafficking. To quote the opening of Law and Order: SVU...these are their stories.
The author spent several months talking to and listen to survivors and then provided them with a platform to speak with their own voice.
For his efforts he keeps being banned from FB by people who are offended by the sexual nature of the topic. So...if nothing else ignites your desire to read this book...read it because it's "banned".
In seriousness...this book is not for the faint of heart. It will make you angry. It will make you sad. And it will also open your eyes to the reality of what sexual abuse and human trafficking looks like. It is worth your time to read.
I Never Called It Rape - Updated Edition: The Ms. Report on Recognizing, Fighting, and Surviving Date and Acquaintance Rape by Robin Warshaw (Autor):
Featuring a new preface by feminist icon Gloria Steinem, and a new foreword by Salamishah Tillet, PhD, Rutgers University Professor of African American Studies and Creative Writing
“Essential. . . . It is nonpolemical, lucid, and speaks eloquently not only to the victims of acquaintance rape but to all those caught in its net.”— Philadelphia Inquirer
With the advent of the #MeToo and Time’s Up movements, and almost daily new reports about rape, both on and off campuses, Robin Warshaw’s I Never Called It Rape is even more relevant today than when it was first published in 1988. The sad truth is that statistics on date rape have not changed in more than thirty years. That our culture enables rape is not just shown by the numbers: the outbreak of complaints against alleged rapists from Bill Cosby and Harvey Weinstein to Matt Lauer and President Donald Trump has further amplified this horrifying reality.
With more than 80,000 copies sold to date, I Never Called It Rape serves as a guide to understanding rape as a cultural phenomenon—providing women and men with strategies to address our rape endemic. It gives survivors the context and resources to help them heal from their experiences, and pulls the wool from all our eyes regarding the pervasiveness of rape and sexual assault in our society.
The Other Side of Silence: Women Tell About Their Experiences With Date Rape by Christine Carter (Herausgeber) :
About the heinous crime date rape!
Dinah Jacob: A young woman’s nightmare On her first date by Silvanus Oluoch (Autor) :
Dinah Jacob is a story of an ill-timed passion and betrayal involving a young woman whose family had just relocated into a new city. As soon as she picked-up friendships with the local girls and she began frequenting one of the girl’s residence, a young man in the city got interested in her. Unfortunately, no one was prepared for what followed. Before they could even get well acquainted, the young man date-raped her on their first encounter to the dismay of everyone else. It is a heart rending story that began well with the girl’s birth, but did not end well. Because when the heinous act was perpetrated upon her, her brothers took the law into their own hands and slaughtered the whole city. Regrettably in this situation, the consequences were as harsh as was the act itself. Lamentably, this is not an isolated case. There are records showing that rape is a widespread and frequent phenomena even today. Yet the thrust of this story is meant to alert the young people to the fact that rape and other sexual abuses are common and can happen to anyone. Some studies have shown that at least a third of girls and a quarter of boys have been sexually molested or abused in some way. Her words; I have written as if I favor the girl child simply because this story is about a girl and also because they are the most vulnerable to sexual manipulations in the name of love. The opinions and facts I have expressed herein are not all original with me; I have picked up some here and there along the way from a number of sources in my walk with God. But they are proven wisdom from a Judeo-Christian perspective based on the biblical principles, which are the best guide for every human life. This little volume does not purport to be a text-book on sex or youth behavior, but it is a provocation to the young people to pursue relevant knowledge on sexology rightfully. Though it is small and does not exhaust all there is to be said on this subject; it is conservatively forthright and explicit in its address.
What She Was Wearing by Shawn Aveningo Sanders (Autor) :
How long can you keep a dark secret before you become completely unraveled? In What She Was Wearing, Shawn Aveningo Sanders uses poetry, prose, and letters to tell her #MeToo story--one that has taken over 30 years to reveal.
In this collection, Shawn shares her nightmare of being raped at a fraternity toga party, and examines the event from a variety of perspectives, including poems written from the viewpoint of her attackers; the toga she was wearing; homecoming years later; and even the moment she told her college-aged children. As Shawn's story unfolds, the reader will come to understand how significant the aftermath of rape can be. For decades, she was "triggered" in the most unexpected ways and is just now recognizing how those triggers impacted her self-worth.
Inspired by the countless number of women who are bravely opening up to share their truth, she adds her voice to the fight against the oppressive, misogynic times we live in. It's time to stop blaming the victim and to stop asking what she was wearing! For Shawn, writing through the pain and sharing these poems has proven to be cathartic and even epiphanic at times. It is her hope this work can help women of all ages face and cope with their own traumas, while letting them know they can indeed heal and go on to enjoy loving, trusting relationships.
Advance Praise for What She Was Wearing
"Starkly honest and memorably graceful, these poems are a virtuoso performance of feminism and survival."
--Amy Miller, author of The Trouble with New England Girls
"Forced into silence for too long, women all over this world are now speaking out, saying #MeToo. What She Was Wearing is Sanders' brave voice joining this transforming chorus."
--Paulann Petersen, Oregon Poet Laureate Emerita
"Shawn Aveningo Sanders has turned shame, anguish and grief into poetry, ... teach[ing] the audience about pain in a way they will absorb and comprehend, creating deep levels of empathy?"
--Judith Arcana, poet & activist for reproductive rights, author of Announcements from the Planetarium
"What She Was Wearing demonstrates how sexual assault impacts the entirety of the survivor's life and shows us how one can fight their way back to feeling whole again."
--Christopher Luna, Clark County, WA's inaugural poet laureate
"As a fellow #MeToo survivor, all 25 poems in the book spoke to me."
--Sharon Wood Wortman, poet, storyteller, author of The Portland Bridge Book
"Fresh and unflinching"
--Leslie Anne Mcilroy, co-founder HEArt: Human Equity through Art
Sassy Sonja: Behind the Closed Door of Marital Rape by Sarah Sewell Wolters (Autor) :
Sonja Kent is a bright and talented girl who was raised in the home of a domineering, abusive father and a passive mother. Her life is turned upside down at age sixteen when her father's business fails and she is forced to move from Augusta, Georgia, to Jacksonville, Florida. With her college scholarship gone and separated from her beloved Aunt Mabel and Grandmother Mary, Sonja finds solace in her music. Sonja does her best to survive in a home ruled by a money-obsessed, selfish, and angry father. At First Baptist Church, Sonja plays the piano and meets Walter, the young choir director. She is swept off her feet by Walter and marries him. But rather than finding the escape from her father and the simple life of peace and stability she craves, Sonja quickly realizes she made a terrible mistake. Her husband is sexually abusive and emotionally disturbed. Her life becomes a dual existence, where she publicly pretends to be a happy newly married woman while she privately tries to convince her husband to stop hurting her and seek professional help. A woman of faith, Sonja fights for her marriage. But some things are not meant to be. Read how Sonja survives Virgin Bride. Sarah Sewell Wolters began the study of piano at age five, and music was the primary method for expressing her feelings. She wrote for political reasons during the Vietnam War and later published a book of poetry. Today she is a senior citizen with an empty nest and a brand new BA degree in technical communications. She lives in Virginia and is writing the sequel.
Doing Harm: The Truth About How Bad Medicine and Lazy Science Leave Women Dismissed, Misdiagnosed, and Sick/Maya Dusenbery (Author)
Editor of the award-winning site Feministing.com, Maya Dusenbery brings together scientific and sociological research, interviews with doctors and researchers, and personal stories from women across the country to provide the first comprehensive, accessible look at how sexism in medicine harms women today.
In Doing Harm, Dusenbery explores the deep, systemic problems that underlie women’s experiences of feeling dismissed by the medical system. Women have been discharged from the emergency room mid-heart attack with a prescription for anti-anxiety meds, while others with autoimmune diseases have been labeled “chronic complainers” for years before being properly diagnosed. Women with endometriosis have been told they are just overreacting to “normal” menstrual cramps, while still others have “contested” illnesses like chronic fatigue syndrome and fibromyalgia that, dogged by psychosomatic suspicions, have yet to be fully accepted as “real” diseases by the whole of the profession.
An eye-opening read for patients and health care providers alike, Doing Harm shows how women suffer because the medical community knows relatively less about their diseases and bodies and too often doesn’t trust their reports of their symptoms. The research community has neglected conditions that disproportionately affect women and paid little attention to biological differences between the sexes in everything from drug metabolism to the disease factors—even the symptoms of a heart attack. Meanwhile, a long history of viewing women as especially prone to “hysteria” reverberates to the present day, leaving women battling against a stereotype that they’re hypochondriacs whose ailments are likely to be “all in their heads.”
Offering a clear-eyed explanation of the root causes of this insidious and entrenched bias and laying out its sometimes catastrophic consequences, Doing Harm is a rallying wake-up call that will change the way we look at health care for women.
Editor of the award-winning site Feministing.com, Maya Dusenbery brings together scientific and sociological research, interviews with doctors and researchers, and personal stories from women across the country to provide the first comprehensive, accessible look at how sexism in medicine harms women today.
Medical Bondage: Race, Gender, and the Origins of American Gynecology/ Deirdre Cooper Owens
The accomplishments of pioneering doctors such as John Peter Mettauer, James Marion Sims, and Nathan Bozeman are well documented. It is also no secret that these nineteenth-century gynecologists performed experimental caesarean sections, ovariotomies, and obstetric fistula repairs primarily on poor and powerless women. Medical Bondage breaks new ground by exploring how and why physicians denied these women their full humanity yet valued them as “medical superbodies” highly suited for medical experimentation.
In Medical Bondage, Cooper Owens examines a wide range of scientific literature and less formal communications in which gynecologists created and disseminated medical fictions about their patients, such as their belief that black enslaved women could withstand pain better than white “ladies.” Even as they were advancing medicine, these doctors were legitimizing, for decades to come, groundless theories related to whiteness and blackness, men and women, and the inferiority of other races or nationalities.
Medical Bondage moves between southern plantations and northern urban centers to reveal how nineteenth-century American ideas about race, health, and status influenced doctor-patient relationships in sites of healing like slave cabins, medical colleges, and hospitals. It also retells the story of black enslaved women and of Irish immigrant women from the perspective of these exploited groups and thus restores for us a picture of their lives.
Birth Trauma and the Dark Side of Modern Medicine: Exposting Systematic Violence During Hospital Birth and the Hijacking of Human Love / Jeanice Barcelo (Author)
"Birth Trauma and the Dark Side of Modern Medicine" offers a critical analysis of technological interventions during childbirth and the abuse of mothers and infants during hospital birth. The book contains a mixture of personal commentary, combined with many stories of severe birth trauma and extensive citation of research to affirm that what is happening during hospital birth is detrimental to mothers, infants, families, and our entire civilization. The book covers a wide array of topics including postpartum depression and post-traumatic stress, marital breakdown after childbirth, disrupted mother-infant bonding, birth rape, circumcision, induction, cytotec, pitocin, epidural, cesarean section, abuse in neonatal intensive care units, vaccines, the dark side of artificial reproductive technologies, and much more. Additionally, there is pertinent information about prenatal trauma and the impact of the first nine months on the rest of our lives.
This book is an intense read but the revelations are important. It deserves to be widely read.
The Rape of Innocence: Female Genital Mutilation & Circumcision in the USA/Patricia Robinett (Author)
Genital mutilation in the USA has been a well-kept secret. "The Rape of Innocence" is an autobiographical account of a white Anglo-Saxon Protestant woman who discovered she had been the victim of clitoridectomy as a child in Kansas in the 1950s.
The author is a therapist who deals with trauma. In her work, she has met many other American women and men who were genitally mutilated as children and adults. Could you -- or someone you love -- have been cut too?
This book may explain the U.S. epidemic of sexual dysfunction, anger, anxiety, depression -- unresolved psychological trauma from circumcision. Now that the word is out, the healing can begin.
Battling Over Birth: Black Women and the Maternal Health Care Crisis / Julia Chinyere Oparah (Author), Helen Arega (Author), Dantia Hudson (Author), Linda Jones (Author), Talita Oseguera (Author)
Battling over Birth is a critical and timely resource for understanding black women’s birthing experiences in the United States, a country where black women’s lives—and the lives they create—are at much greater risk of death and injury than those of non-black women … By distilling the common and diverse threads from over 100 black women, the BWBJ researchers have woven a multi-faceted tapestry that reflects what black women view as important and central to optimal birth experiences. Their recommendations for improving care and outcomes are grounded in black women’s authoritative knowledge. … This wonderful, important, necessary research by and for black women points in the direction that black women think we should go to ensure they have safe, healthy, and satisfying birth experiences and outcomes. We need to listen and act.
STALKING THE STALKER: Fighting Back with High-tech Gadgets and Low-tech Know-how/ Diane Glass (Author)
This is a useful book. This author speaks from experience: she explains the common tactics that stalkers use to harass their prey, plus she provides tips on how to avoid the pain of getting caught up in a stalker's perilous web. She also writes about low cost counter-surveillance tips & info on how to work with law enforcement. I recommend it, even for those who aren't being stalked.
You're only a victim if you act like one.More than one million people are stalked every year in the United States. Spyware, computer software and online databases give stalkers easy access to your online accounts, daily habits and personal communications. Despite this terrifying reality, there is good news: the technology that stalkers exploit can be used against them. Stalking the Stalker empowers you to take charge. You'll learn:What tricks stalkers useWhich tools warn you when a stalker is nearHow to protect yourself with low-cost, high-tech spywareHow you can shield your computer from invasionHow to protect your home from a break-inHow to prepare yourself before you walk into a courtroom How to outsmart a stalker Stalking the Stalker provides you with the high-tech know-how and low-tech advice you need to protect your privacy, your home and yourself.
Safety for Stalking Victims: How to save your privacy, your sanity, and your life/ Lyn Bates (Author)
Stalking is a serious crime that disproportionately affects and endangers women. The National Institute of Justice says one in every 12 women and one in every 20 men will be stalked in their lifetimes.Some stalkers make phone calls, send messages, or deliver "gifts." Some follow their victims home, vandalize property, make threats, or kill pets. Some stalkers even attempt rape, kidnapping, or murder. And some succeed. Being the target of an obsessed person is a frightening experience. But it isn't necessary to live in fear. Learning how to live safely is the key.Topics include:Who stalks, who is stalked, and whyEvaluating the seriousness of the situationReplacing terror with sensible precautionsRestraining ordersgood or bad?Disappearingwhy, when and howProtecting your childrenSelf-defensewhat works, what doesntSafety on a budgetMaintaining your privacyStrategies that don't workHelpful web sites and organizationsUsing scenarios based on real stalking cases, this book overflows with detailed, practical strategies to put you in control of your situation, and let you break the cycle of terror.Mistakes by the legal system, employers, or even family members can make the situation worse. If you work with stalking victims, or are concerned about one, you need this information, too.
This book is a well written guide for anyone involved in the trauma of stalking--and not just the kind you see in those lame TV movies. In addition to providing victims with checklists, how-tos and what-not-to-dos, this would also be a good book for anyone who who knows someone in trouble--significant others, co-workers, family and friends. Bates' opinions are backed up with no-nonsense reasoning and this would also be an excellent book for anyone who writes fiction and wants to use a stalking plot. Each chapter builds the "story" of stalking, from recognizing its signs to coming away safe and each is presented in a useful way, highlighting action items the victim can take to stay safe.
Ending Child Marriage: How Elevating the Status of Girls Advances U.S. Foreign Policy Objectives/ Rachel Vogelstein (Author)
The practice of child marriage is a violation of human rights. Every day, girls around the world are forced to leave their families, marry against their will, endure sexual and physical abuse, and bear children while still in childhood themselves. This practice is driven by poverty, deeply embedded cultural traditions, and pervasive discrimination against girls. Yet in many parts of the world, this ancient practice still flourishes: estimates show that nearly five million girls are married under the age of fifteen every year, and some are as young as eight or nine years old. Child marriage, however, is not simply a human rights violation. It is also a threat to the prosperity and stability of the countries in which it is prevalent and undermines U.S. development and foreign policy priorities. Child marriage perpetuates poverty over generations and is linked to poor health, curtailed education, violence, instability, and disregard for the rule of law. Its effects are harmful not only to girls, but also to families, communities, and economies—and to U.S. interests—around the globe.
In Honor of Fadime: Murder and Shame/Unni Wikan (Author)
In 2002 young Fadime Sahindal was brutally murdered by her own father. She belonged to a family of Kurdish immigrants who had lived in Sweden for almost two decades. But Fadime’s relationship with a man outside of their community had deeply dishonored her family, and only her death could remove the stain. This abhorrent crime shocked the world, and her name soon became a rallying cry in the struggle to combat so-called honor killings.
Unni Wikan narrates Fadime’s heartbreaking story through her own eloquent words, along with the testimonies of her father, mother, and two sisters. What unfolds is a tale of courage and betrayal, loyalty and love, power and humiliation, and a nearly unfathomable clash of cultures. Despite enduring years of threats over her emancipated life, Fadime advocated compassion for her killer to the end, believing him to be trapped by an unyielding code of honor. Wikan puts this shocking event in context by analyzing similar honor killings throughout Europe, Canada, and the United States. She also examines the concept of honor in historical and cross-cultural depth, concluding that Islam itself is not to blame—indeed, honor killings occur across religious and ethnic traditions—but rather the way that many cultures have resolutely linked honor with violence.
In Honor of Fadime holds profound and timely insights into conservative Kurdish culture, but ultimately the heart of this powerful book is Fadime’s courageous and tragic story—and Wikan’s telling of it is riveting.
Shamed: The Honour Killing That Shocked Britain – by the Sister Who Fought for Justice/Sarbjit Kaur Athwal (Author)
In 1998, Sarbjit Athwal was called by her husband to attend a family meeting. It looked like just another family gathering. An attractive house in west London, a large dining room, two brothers, their mother, one wife. But the subject they were discussing was anything but ordinary. At the head of the group sat the elderly mother. She stared proudly around, smiling at her children, then raised her hand for silence. ‘It’s decided then,’ the old lady announced. ‘We have to get rid of her.’
‘Her’ was Surjit Athwal, Sarbjit’s sister-in-law. Within three weeks of that meeting, Surjit was dead: lured from London to India, drugged, strangled, and her body dumped in the Ravi River, never to be seen again.
After the killing, risking her own life, Sarbjit fought secretly for justice for nine long, scared years. Eventually, with immense bravery, she became the first person within a murderer’s family ever to go into open court in an honour killing trial as the Prosecution’s key witness, and the first to waive her anonymity in such a trial. As a result of her testimony, the trial led to the first successful prosecution of an honour killing without the body ever being found.
But her story doesn’t end there. Since the trial, her life has been threatened; her own husband arrested after an allegation of intimidation. Shamed is a story of fear and of horror – but also of immense courage, and a woman who risked everything to see that justice was done.
Radhika's Story: Surviving Human Trafficking/ Joanna Lumley (Author), Sharon Hendry (Author)
A seemingly innocent sip of Coca-Cola, drunk by a starving and desperately thirsty 16-year-old girl led to the first of Radhika Phuyal’s human trafficking experiences. Drugged, Radhika woke up hours later, in great pain, only to discover that her kidney had been removed and sold to the highest bidder. Radhika was married by force but tried to make the best of her situation. She had a much-loved son, but Rohan’s birth signified the next harrowing episode in Radhika’s life – she was trafficked again.
Living in India, separated from her son and forced to have sex with up to 25 men a day, Radhika refused to accept her lot. Desperate to be reunited with her child, she fought against the odds, finding the strength to escape her horrific life and rescue her son and finally find sanctuary in a refuge set up to help survivors of trafficking. Journalist Sharon Hendry tells Radhika’s horrifying but incredibly inspiring story. She also highlights the pervasive nature of human trafficking in the 21st century.
Taliban Escape! One Woman's Journey Out of Hell (Women In Chains) / Aabra NoLastName (Author)
"To be the firstborn and also a female in my country is to be an outcast from your very first breath."
These are the opening words of Adéela's story. It is the story of a woman who had the misfortune of being born into one of the medieval societies that, incredibly, still exist in the modern and interconnected world of the 21st Century. Adéela's society is a world controlled by men. Adéela's own personal life is dominated by her father, Najeeb, who is both a religious extremist and a Taliban warrior.
Najeeb's entire life has only one purpose: to produce as many sons as possible. A daughter, he says, is nothing more than an "empty useless mouth to feed." Najeeb's unquestioning mantra for all situations is the same: "It is God's will."
Adéela's mother, Deeba, perpetually lost in the grey and suffocating world of depression, can provide no support at all, either for Adéela or for her younger sister, Jadwa.
Adéela's two brothers, Ubaidah and Baahir, have wholeheartedly adopted their father's cruel and domineering lifestyle. Despite their religious training -- or perhaps because of it -- they see Adéela as nothing more than a slave; an empty receptacle for their violence and hatred.
Adéela's only support comes from her Aunt Zaafira, a woman whose courage and independent spirit is a slap in the face of the whole society. It is Aunt Zaafira who opens up a new world for Adéela, a world illuminated by freedom, education, and reason.
But to reach that wold, Adéela must travel a long and brutal path. It is a path filled with humiliation, emotional abuse, painful beatings, incest, and the constant threat of an Honor Killing. To make matters even more incredible, Honor Killings, like all of the other male tools of dominance, has the full blessings of their society's God. It is a God for men only.
When her Aunt Zaafira and her younger sister, Jadwa, are both forcibly removed from her life, Adéela finds herself totally alone in a merciless world. She now has only one person left to rely on: herself. That's when her trials really begin.
Sidetracked: The Betrayal and Murder of Anna Kithcart /Richard T. Cahill Jr.
As the sun rises over the quiet city of Kingston, New York, on July 12, 1988, a local transient discovers the remains of 19-year-old Anna Kithcart. She was strangled and beaten to death, with the letters "KKK" carved into her thighs.
While her heartbroken family mourns, and the police work around the clock to uncover the truth, the investigation is complicated by the entrance of the Reverend Al Sharpton who insists that a racist killer is responsible. As investigators struggle to find evidence, Sharpton and his supporters denounce the entire area as a "Klan den" and make public pronouncements that a "racist cult" is operating throughout the area.
Then, as if things can't get any worse, the transient who found the body confesses to an unspeakable sexual act against the corpse. Almost immediately after the media reports his alleged depravity, he changes his story and accuses the police of making him a patsy and a scapegoat. To add to the expanding circus, he tells the world he is really an undercover agent for the CIA, FBI, and Interpol.
Only solving the crime can quell the chaos that threatens to ignite a powder keg of racial tension and get past the rumors to catch the real killer. But can investigators overcome the outside forces that repeatedly sidetrack their efforts? Find out in this great new true crime from Richard T. Cahill, the author of Hauptmann’s Ladder.
Slave: The True Story of a Girl's Lost Childhood and Her FIght for Survival/Mende Nazer (Author)
Mende Nazer's happy childhood was cruelly cut short at the age of twelve when the Mujahidin rode into her village in the remote Nuba mountains of Sudan. They hacked down terrified villagers, raped the women and abducted the children. Mende was them. She was taken and sold to an Arab woman in Khartoum. She was stripped of her name and her freedom. For seven long years she was kept as a domestic slave, an 'abid', without any pay or a single day off. Her food was the leftover scraps and her bed was the floor of the locked-up garden shed. She endured this harsh and lonely existence without knowing whether her family was alive or dead, for seven long years. Passed on by her master, like a parcel, to a relative in London, Mende eventually managed to escape to freedom. Slave is a shocking first-person insight into the modern day slave trade. It is also a fascinating memoir of an African childhood and a moving testimony to a young girl's indomitable spirit in the face of adversity.