"We live with a distinct double standard about male and female aggression. Women's aggression isn't considered real. It isn't dangerous; it's only cute. Or it's always self-defense or otherwise inspired by a man. In the rare case where a woman is seen as genuinely responsible, she is branded a monster - an 'unnatural' woman."
- Katherine Dunn
"Teaching women to fight today could stop rapes tomorrow."
“When we talk about violence, we do not always talk about death, I said. Sometimes violence can mean the difference between life and death. The difference between waiting for someone's help and continuing to suffer abuse, and helping yourself when you most need it.”
― Tanaz Bhathena, A Girl Like That
“If someone hates you so much that they try to hurt you, defending yourself is not being aggressive, it is doing what’s necessary.”
― Charles F. Glassman, Brain Drain The Breakthrough That Will Change Your Life
How to Prevent a Potential Rape:
Rapists are predators. They are sadists, misogynists, cowards, perverts and psychopaths. By following these steps, you can try to make your world a little safer from those predators. You will get information and skills you need to protect yourself psychologically and physically. Remember, although being aware of your surroundings and knowing how to defend yourself is important, rape is ultimately the rapist's fault, not the victim's. This article is not meant to justify a rapist's actions in any way—it simply provides tips that can help you feel safer. In an ideal world, the best way to prevent a potential rape is to educate all members of both sexes to respect and help each other. However, being informed can also go a long way in helping you avoid dangerous situations.
Know that nothing you do will ever make rape your fault. Before you even start thinking about preventing a potential rape, you have to understand that if you are raped, it is 100% the rapist's fault, and that nothing you did, wore, or said could have caused you to be raped. There is no such thing as "asking for it," and anyone who leads you to believe otherwise is deeply misguided. Though you can certainly take measures to improve your chances of avoiding danger and staying safe, in the end, nothing you can do can "cause" you to be raped.
Understand that the best thing that can be done to prevent rape is to prevent people from raping. In today's culture, there are many things that can be done to prevent rape, and it starts with the way women are perceived. If we work, as a society, to raise men who are respectful of women and stop contributing to a culture that objectifies and belittles women constantly, then we can slowly start to turn things around. Sometimes, adolescent boys think "rape jokes" are funny and that it's okay to joke around about sexual assault, and it's important to let them know that this is not the case. Men can also be raped, but society has taken into itself that men "can't possibly be raped", and so most men are ashamed and afraid if they speak out.
Many people feel that giving women guidelines about things that can be done to stay safe actually shames them and makes them feel like avoiding rape is all about having women act "the right way," and that if they make a misstep, it is basically their fault that they got raped.
We must empower women, girls and female childs to avoid dangers, rape and sexual murder.
However, women are not the only sex to be raped. Men can be raped, but it just isn't as prevalent.
Don't ever stop living your life. It can be overwhelming to read the advice about preventing rape. You'll start to feel like there's no place you're safe -- not your grocery store parking lot, not a restroom at a bar, not your car, and not even your own home. You might start to wonder where one can go to be completely safe from rapists. But you can't think like this. Though you should take some precautions, you can't be afraid to leave home by yourself, to be outside late at night, or to go to some of your favorite places. You can still enjoy your life and feel secure without the constant paranoia that you may feel after reading about how to prevent rape.
Know that the majority of rapes are committed by a person the victim knows. The statistics vary, but it is said that only 9%-33% of rapists were complete strangers to the victim. This means that the vast majority of women are raped by men that they know, whether they are friends, people they are dating, co-workers, acquaintances, or even family members. This means that it's far more likely for a person to get raped by someone he/she knows instead of a stranger in a dark alley. Therefore, while it's important to take precautions when you're alone, you shouldn't completely let your guard down when you're with people you know.
When you're in a social situation with someone you know, be extra careful and don't fully let your guard down unless you feel truly safe with the person. Even then, rape can occur. Know that if your gut tells you the situation is not okay, you should leave as soon and as safely as you can.
Date rape is also extremely common -- according to one study, nearly 1/3 of rapes are committed by a date. When you're dating someone new, understand that no absolutely means no, and don't ever let anyone make you feel guilty about knowing what you do and don't want. Don't be afraid to communicate your needs clearly and loudly, if necessary. The sad fact is, most of the rapists and attackers are members of the family, friends, classmates, neighbours and in many cases they stalked the victims before the attacks, rapes and sexual killings.
Be aware of your surroundings at all times. Parking lots and parking garages are two of the sites that are most often targeted by attempted rapists. These people are predators, so view your surroundings carefully. If you are in a parking lot and feel someone is following you, start making noise -- talk to yourself loudly, talk to an imaginary person, or pretend to talk on your cell phone. The louder the potential victim, the more the predator is apt to freeze.
Scope out your surroundings during the day. Whether you're working in a new place or new to campus, make sure you learn the safest way to walk from place to place. This means staying under well-lit lights, walking in places where people tend to be around, and even being near blue light emergency call boxes, if your campus, school or work place has them.
If you're in college, know that the majority of rapes happen during the first few weeks of the year. According to the Department of Justice, the majority of rapes in college occur during the first few weeks of your freshman and sophomore years. These are the riskiest days because people are just getting to know each other, there are a lot of new people around, along with an abundance of alcohol. Though this shouldn't keep you from having fun or leaving your dorm room, you should be extra cautious about meeting new people, and make sure that you stick with your friends and your sound judgment.
Don't leave your drink unattended. Treat your drink like a $100.00 bill. Don't let anyone hold your drink. Avoid anything that somebody gives you. It could be "counterfeited." Always hold, keep and get your own drinks. Keep your hand over the top of your drink because it's easy to drop something into it. Do not accept a drink from a date unless the bartender or waitstaff delivers it straight to you. Even if you're pretty sure the drink you left on the other side of the room was your drink, it's a much safer bet to buy or get another one. Many rapists and gang rapist are using rape drugs, that is a real fact.
Drink responsibly. Again, this does not mean that drinking irresponsibly makes it your fault if a rapist approaches you; it does, however, make you more vulnerable and susceptible to unwelcome attacks. Make sure not to drink more than 1 drink per hour (which means a glass of wine, a beer, or one shot of alcohol) and to stay in control of your mind and body as much as you can. Do not opt for the sketchy punch or jungle juice in a frat house; do not let anyone who is not a bartender make you a mixed drink because it is likely to be very, very strong. If a man or a boy wants that you must drink very much during a date, then he is planning something very evil, that is a fact too. Many rape victims are after that gang rape victims on the social media.
Stick with your friends. And my advice is, stick with your girl friends. Because the most sex offenders are male and young. Wherever you go, show up with a group of friends and leave with that group of friends. Even if you and your friends have ended up at different parts of the party, always know where your friends are and make sure that they see where you are, too. Keep in touch with your friends, make eye contact, and make sure you're on the same page. Your friends should have your back if they see you with a person whose company you don't want, and you should do the same. Don't leave your friend out with a person he/she's met for the first time, either, especially if there has been alcohol involved.
Be assertive. If somebody is giving you unwanted attention, tell them to back off. There is no need to be polite when somebody is making unwanted sexual advances. Firmly tell the person thanks, but no thanks, you're not interested. This may be more difficult if it's someone you actually know and care about, but it will still be possible. Once you get the message across, the person will be much more likely to move on. Many men and boys are treating women as fuck bodies and sex toys and you are more worth than that.
Keep personal information private. Don't advertise your info verbally or on the Internet. Also, be very wary of meeting up with anyone whom you meet on the Internet. There is very rarely a good reason to meet up with a person whom you have never met in person, or who talks you into meeting-up when you are hesitant. If you think you must do so, bring someone else, preferably a friend who is older and meet the person in a public place.
Always keep your phone charged. Don't step out with an almost-dead phone. It can be your saving grace, whether you need to call the cops or call your friends and ask them for help. Make sure you do this before you step out for the night, whether you're alone or with friends. You can even make a habit of bringing a charger out with you if you tend to forget it.
Be careful about using technology when you're out alone. Let's get this straight: you should not stop enjoying your life or doing the things you love to do because of fear that you're going to be raped and assaulted. If you love running with your iPod in, then fine, but be extra careful and look around your surroundings at all times, trying to run near where the people are. If you're walking in a dark parking garage or parking lot, then stay focused on where you need to go instead of playing around with your iPod or your iPhone.
Attackers look for the weakest victims. If they see that you are highly vigilant and walking with purpose, they will be less likely to attack you than if you're texting and not looking where you're going, or rocking out to your new favorite song on your iPod.
Learn to trust your gut instincts. If you feel uneasy or unsure in any way, it is in your best interest to get away and get help. Use your instincts and be aware of your freeze instinct. If you're in a situation where you're alone and suddenly run into or see someone else who just makes you feel unsafe, then change action as quickly as possible. If you're really getting the sense that you're unsafe, then it's important to stay calm, move quickly, and to go to the place where you're the most likely to find other people.
If you're walking down a dark street (and my urgent advice is, to avoid this, when possible) and have the feeling that the person behind you is following you, cross the street in a diagonal and see if he/she does the same. If so, then walk towards the middle of the street (but not so much that you can get hit by a car) so that you're more likely to be seen by an oncoming car that could help you and scare away the potential attacker.
You must not cut your hair just to deter a rapist. But it's really better to have short hairs in dangerous situations, rapists are getting always running away and fighting victims on their long hairs. Sure, a lot of people will tell you that rapists go for people with long hair or ponytails because they are easier to grab onto. Does this mean you should rock the short-haired bob so people are less likely rape you? Of course not. (Unless you want short hair, of course.) Don't let a potential rapist deter you from looking how you want to look, and don't ever blame yourself for attracting the wrong kind of person.
Don't change your dressing style to deter rapists. Okay, so many people will tell you that you're more likely to get raped if you wear clothes that will be easier to remove, or to "cut away" with a pair of scissors. This includes thin skirts, thin cotton dresses, and other light and short clothing. They'll say that wearing overalls, jumpsuits, and rompers are the best, and so are pants that have zippers instead of elastic waists. They'll also say that belts keep your clothes in place, that layers help deter rapists, and so on. While this may not be exactly false, you shouldn't have to feel like you need to wear bulky overalls, combat boots, or scuba gear to avoid getting raped. In the end, it's up to you to decide what you want to wear, and you shouldn't feel like the light clothes you're wearing are making you more "prone" to rape.
Some people will also say that dressing provocatively invites rapists. Avoid this kind of anti-humanist thinking as much as you can.
No victim is to blame for it's dressing, but in a fight with rapists you have more chances, if you can not get naked easily. Many rapists are checking how easily they can get victims naked, if you have short dresses then rapists have a a easy play.
Carry defensive items only if you know how to use them. Remember, any "weapon" that could hurt a potential attacker can be used against you if you are not well trained and comfortable with it. If you are going to carry a handgun, make sure to take classes in its use, practice often at a firing range, and apply for a concealed weapons permit; if you carry a knife, take a course in the most effective way to use it. Remember that even an umbrella or purse can be used as a weapon against an attacker, and has less chance of being turned against you.
But self defense is a human right, in the case of the cases defend yourself so much you can, because, if you are fighting not, you can die a cruel death, full of humilation, mutilation, rape and torture and you will never see your family and your friends again.
Yell, shout, and draw attention to yourself. Attackers usually have an idea of how the attack will happen. Disrupt that idea. Fight like a furious cat, and yell loudly and strongly. You can also buy a small personal alarm keychain that will emit a high pitch siren like a car alarm when its pin is pulled, similar in design to a grenade. Keys, umbrellas, bags, books, shoes are very good self defense weapons.
Yell "CALL 911 NOW" (or whatever your local emergency number is). Yelling this can have the double effect of scaring away the attacker and getting other people involved. If you yell these words, people around you or nearby are likely to come running to your aid. Studies have also suggested this effective strategy: pointing at an individual bystander and saying "you sir, in the white shirt, I need your help now! This man is attacking me..." Tell it like it is, and point to an individual.
Some studies show that yelling "Fire!" instead of "Help!" or "Call 911(in Europe 112 and Russia)!" can actually be more effective in getting the attention of bystanders. You can try this tactic as well, but others feel that it may be difficult to remember to yell fire instead of to call for help in the moment.
Take a basic self defense course. One course you can take is called Rape Aggression Defense (RAD). Contact your local police office for programs such as RAD. These programs can teach you many effective methods of attack, from hitting to eye gouging. Eye gouging is a very good self defense attack. Having these skills under your belt will make you feel more safe when you're walking alone at night.
Learn "SING". This stands for Solar Plexus-Instep-Nose-Groin, the four attack points you should focus on if grabbed from behind. Elbow them in the solar plexus, stomp on the foot as hard as you can, and when they let go, turn around and jam the palm of your hand into their nose in an upward motion, then finish with a knee to the groin. This may disable your assailant long enough for you to get away. Have no mercy with your attackers, they will have no mercy with you too.
Walk into your house with confidence. Don't dilly dally in your car or stand on the street rifling through your purse. Leave your car with everything you need. Practice being careful when going into your house or car because someone could easily push you in and lock the door behind you. Be aware of your surroundings; carry your keys ready in your hand and look around you before opening the door.
Walk like you know where you're going. Look up as you walk and stand up straight; pretending as though you have two big panthers on either side of you as you walk may sound silly, but it can help boost confidence. Attackers are more likely to go for those who they think cannot defend themselves. If you look weak or like you're not sure where you're going, you're much more likely to catch an attacker's attention. Even if you really are lost, don't walk as if you are.
Notice and leave identifying marks. A large bite mark on their face, punctured eyeball, deeply scratched leg, ripped out piercing etc. is easily identifiable, as are memorable tattoos, etc. Think kill. Go for weak spots like eyes (poke hard), nose (hard upward motion with the lower part of your open hand) genitals (grab really tightly and squeeze or punch hard) etc. to make sure the person's hands aren't free to punch or hold on to you and you can run for it.
If you are in a place where you can't run, notice your surroundings and leave a mark on them if you can. Rapists have been caught because their victims left identifiable teeth marks, nail marks, or DNA in the cars or rooms where they were assaulted.
Remember, the most cruel sexual serial killer in the U.S., Ted Bundy, dies on the electric chair, because on the bite marks on his victims. Bite marks from the victim on the offender and from the offender on the victim are a good chance that the police is getting the culprits.
Make eye contact if you are being followed by someone who may be a potential threat. An attacker may be less likely to strike if they think you will be able to clearly identify them. Though you may be scared and this may feel like the last thing you want to do, it could ensure your safety. If it is possible make a secret picture of him or them with your handy.
Don't be afraid to intervene. Sticking up for other people can go a long way toward preventing potential rape. It's not always easy to intervene in uncomfortable situations, but it's worth the awkwardness when you stand the chance to prevent rape from occurring. Call other people near you for help, if it is possible strong and young men.
Watch the potential victim. For example, if you're at a party and you see a person trying to make a move on your friend who's intoxicated, walk over and make it clear you're keeping an eye on him/her. Find an excuse to insert yourself into the situation.
"I brought you some water."
"Do you want to get some air?"
"Are you doing okay? Would you like me to stay with you?"
"I love this song! Let's go dance."
"My car is out back. Would you like a ride home?"
"JESSI! Oh my gosh, it's been so long! How have you been?" (This works even on strangers. Unless they're too drunk to understand, they'll happily play along in order to get rid of the predator.)
ddress the potential rapist. You may wish to confront them, or simply distract them.
"Leave her alone. She can hardly stand on her own. My friends and I will walk her home."
"Hey, he said no. He's clearly not into it."
"Excuse me, sir? Your car is being towed."
Get backup if you need help dealing with the situation. Just having a few people present could be enough to deter someone from attempting rape.
Tell the host or bartender what is going on.
Enlist friends (your own, or friends of one of the parties).
Call campus safety, tell a security guard, or call the police.
Create a disturbance. If you don't know what else to do, bring a social gathering to a halt. Turn off the lights, or turn off the music. This can distract or embarrass the would-be rapist, and call attention to the fact that something is wrong.
Don't leave your friends behind at parties. If you go to a party with a friend, don't leave the person behind when you're ready to go. Leaving someone behind, especially with a group of people who are just acquaintances or strangers, puts that person in a vulnerable position. This is especially true when there are alcohol or drugs involved at the party.
Before you leave, locate your friend and see how she's doing. Don't leave unless you're confident the situation is safe and she'll be able to get home without a problem.
If your friend seems drunk or on her way to getting there, see if you can convince her to come home. If she refuses, stay at the party until she's ready to go.
Use a buddy system to make sure everyone gets home safely. Taking a simple precaution like having everyone text each other when they're back home is a good way for friends to protect one other. For example, if you meet up late at a coffee shop and your friend bikes home in the dark, exchange texts or call each other when you're home. If you don't hear from your friend, find out what's going on.
Speak up if you know someone to be a rapist. If your friend is about to go on a date with someone you know to be a rapist, saying something about it is the right thing to do. Whether there are rumors going around that the person raped someone, or you have firsthand knowledge on the matter, you don't want the person to be able to hurt someone else.
If you were personally attacked by the person in question, it's up to you to decide whether you want to publicly "out" the rapist. It's undoubtedly a very brave act, but your life will be deeply affected by your decision, so it's not a choice most people make lightly.
However, even if you don't want to make things public, warning people you know against spending time alone with the person will help prevent potential rape.
Silence is not golden, many sexual serial killers and rapists have begun at Highschool time with rapes and stalking and then they got every year more sadistic and at last they were cruel serial killers, for example the Toolbox killers in the U.S.
Do your part to get rid of rape culture. This is important for women, but it may be even more important for men. Preventing potential rapes ultimately depends on educating people on rape and taking a stand against it. Even when it's just you and the guys, don't say degrading things about women or make jokes about rape. When men see other men empathizing with women, they may be more likely to do the same themselves.Rape jokes are not funny, they are hate crimes and the beginning of a misogynist rape culture. Have no friends among people like that, because you can be their next victim.
We must change our minds worldwide to end the cruel rape culture. Because there is no culture in rape, only sexual torture, sexual mutilation and murder.
Self defense is life saving and very important for women, girls and female childs:
For Example India:
Women are taking recourse to self-defence techniques in increasing numbers in the wake of the Delhi gangrape!
Vibha Sharma could well be the poster girl for Delhi Lt Governor Tejinder Khanna's advice to gun licence holders in the woman-unfriendly capital of India. The 41-year-old gynaecologist was out on an emergency call at 3 a.m. on a foggy December night in Delhi last year when a group of hooligans started stalking her. Within seconds, she whipped out a glistening .32 revolver from her brown handbag and aimed it at them, ready to pull the trigger. The goons fled. "I often have to attend to emergencies at odd hours. The revolver gives me the confidence that I can protect myself," she says.Like Sharma, scores of women are playing their own personal security guards, ready to fight back if trouble strikes. Krav Maga kicks, Muay Thai boxing, nunchaku defence techniques and Ninja Kubatons moves are the new after-hours activity. Mumbai dance entrepreneur Aanchal Gupta, 34, started practising Muay Thai moves two days after she was groped by a fellow jogger at Dadar's Five Gardens while she was on her hour-long run. "It shook me up and angered me that I couldn't hit back but had to let him get away so easily. With abuse becoming so blatant and common, I now want to be able to hit right back," says the founder of Arts In Motion, a dance studio. Pepper sprays, knives and stun guns are the new must-haves in handbags. "Earlier a lipstick was an essential in my bag but now I don't step out without a knife. It gives me power to take charge of the situation in case someone touches or gropes me," says Divya Ghadigaonkar, 30, a sales executive in Mumbai. She was among the 21,000 women who were given Chinese retractable knives by the Shiv Sena in a women's empowerment drive. "Women should be able to fight back at the very moment when they are assaulted so it's important to equip them with such arms," says Ajay Choudhary, vibhag pramukh of the Shiv Sena.
We Kick and Tell
Finger nails, shoes or even a blunt stick can be ways to beat bad boys when there's no other help at hand. That's what Franklin Joseph, martial arts expert and founder of the BadAzz Combat Academy, teaches women to do. His Krav Maga-inspired sessions use Ninja Kubatons, or wooden tools, with blunt tips, used to fight without causing injuries. During his training sessions held in Bangalore, he brings in dummy knives, guns and sticks, sometimes even re-creates situations such as teasing on a bus. "Martial arts can be impractical. It's more important to make women think of creative solutions to counter a situation and to improvise using available resources when taken unawares. I teach women to overcome fear," he says.
At Krav Maga India's sessions in Delhi and Mumbai, kicks and punches work as physical and psychological defence mechanisms. "It teaches you how to turn anything from a handbag to a keychain into a weapon," says Payal Tiwari, manager of the Krav Maga India outlet in Saket, Delhi. "Besides increasing physical endurance levels, it instils confidence in women that they can protect themselves if there is trouble." Classes are held thrice a week and cost Rs 2,500 per month. Tiwari says there has been at least a "25 per cent" increase in enrolments since the gang rape incident in Delhi.
Cutting Edge is the Way To Go
The comfort of carrying knives and pepper sprays makes them the new must-have accessories in the handbag. Sanjeev Store in Delhi's Greater Kailash market sold 200 cans of pepper spray within a week of the brutal rape. On online shopping marts like Amazon, Groupon and Healthkart, women have begun to load their carts with sprays and stun guns. The hope is evident. Says Keya Mangalani, 21, a student at Delhi University: "Even if the assailant tries to wrestle the stun gun from me, he will still get an electric shock. It will give me enough time to get away safely."
However, Deven Bharti, IGP (Law and Order), Maharashtra Police, cautions, "Men and women should, of course, be trained in unarmed combat because every individual has a right to self defence. However, people should avoid using knives and arms because using them may backfire."
Apps, Alarms and Attacks
If home-grown apps by software companies can send out emergency alerts at the click of a button, a chip fitted in shoes can set alarm bells ringing at a tap of the feet. Apps like Nirbhaya-The Fearless, Stay Safe and Sentinel send out sos signals, messages to special contacts and even help track your location. If Stay Safe, a free app created by Jaipur-based software designer Vaibhav Jain, 24, sends distress messages to emergency contacts, Sentinel, developed by the Kochi-based Mindhelix Technosol, will continue to send alerts on text and email even if the attacker breaks the phone.
Shoes too are fast turning to be a good weapon for women in distress. A chip designed by Thane-based engineer Purshottam Pachpande, 26, can be fitted in your footwear and triggers an alarm if the wearer taps the right foot three times. It can even be connected to the mobile phone and can instantly sends out sos messages to five selected contacts along with details of the location of attack. "Everyone cannot carry guns. Women need a device that's always with them and is easy to access in case of an attack," says Pachpande, who is looking to share the technology with footwear manufacturers.
Soul Sisters in Cyberspace
Peer-to-peer counselling is the latest rage on social networks. In a bid to balance out physical limitations with mental confidence, young women are signing up to support each other online. "It's all about being strong from within. Women need to be prepared both physically and mentally to protect themselves," explains Kamna Chibber, 33, head of Clinical Psychology at Fortis Hospital, Delhi.
'Soul Sisters' is an online mailing list started by Roop Desai, 24, a Delhi-based insurance worker. The forum is moderated by Desai who personally approves every member wishing to join the list. "I check their profiles on social networks before accepting their request to join our forum," says Desai. "The goal is to bring together women who are serious about being there for one another." The forum, which now consists of over 5,000 members from all over Delhi, aims to help women overcome the fear of fighting back. Members post inspirational songs, quotes and links and try to set up meetings for members so that they can expand their support network. Finding strength in numbers has proved beneficial for the group. "I feel much more confident stepping out today because there isn't just one person watching out for me any longer, but a whole community of friends," says Mansi Desai, 19, Roop's younger sister and a member of the group.
Back to Basics
The power of numbers has prompted the Mararikulam South village panchayat in Kerala to launch the Stree Sauhruda Gramam (SSG) programme. "We were shocked by the high incidence of atrocities against women and children, even in the village," said N.P. Snehajan, chief of the village panchayat. The SSG will map roads unsafe for women, increase police patrolling there, form civil watchdog committees and resource centres, and teach self-defence techniques to women.
Elsewhere, the Bathinda-based Women Armed Special Protection (WASP) all-women squad has become the first of its kind in India. Headed by former Olympic shooter Avneet Kaur Sidhu, 31, now a dsp with Punjab Police, the squad has 25 women constables who are given small arms and special martial arts training. In just the first week since its launch on January 13, the scooter-borne girls apprehended over a dozen eve-teasers.
However, empowering women, experts have realised, goes beyond physical training. "We need to change our mindset and require cultural conditioning to remove biases and make the society more sensitive. For that, the women have to stand up and take charge of their lives," says Tarannum Dobriyal, 34, a Mumbai HR consultant who conducts workshops called Warrior Women to help women "deal with challenges and emerge stronger".
Sensing the mood of society, company and government authorities are waking up to the need for a women-friendly environment. If corporates are passing on pepper spray cans and organising cabs for women, Mumbai Police is holding self-defence classes for its women constables. When they, or the blue-clad girls of Bathinda's WASP squad, are on the streets, the men know that it's time to stay clear of the new age women warriors.
2012 Delhi gang rape:
The victim, Jyothi Singh, a young girl, was fighting against six evil and sadistic attackers with bravery and courage, but without any chance. She was raped, tortured, mutilated and killed in a horrible kind. In memory of this brave victim, we must say, self defense is a human right for every female person on this planet, for all women, girls and female childs.
The 2012 Delhi gang rape case involved a rape and fatal assault that occurred on 16 December 2012 in Munirka, a neighbourhood in South Delhi. The incident took place when a 23-year-old female physiotherapy intern, Jyoti Singh Pandey, was cruel beaten, gang raped,mutilated and tortured in a private bus in which she was traveling with her friend, Awindra Pratap Pandey. There were six others in the bus, including the driver, all of whom raped the woman and beat her friend. The partially clothed victims were found on the road by a passerby at around 11 pm (IST). The passerby called the Delhi Police, who took the couple to Safdarjung Hospital, where Jyoti was given emergency treatment and placed on mechanical ventilation. She was found with injury marks, including numerous bite marks, all over her body. According to reports, one of the accused men admitted to having seen a rope-like object, assumed to be her intestines, being pulled out of the woman by the other assailants on the bus. Two blood-stained metal rods were retrieved from the bus and medical staff confirmed that "it was penetration by this that caused massive damage to her genitals, uterus and intestines".Eleven days after the assault, she was transferred to a hospital in Singapore for emergency treatment but died from her injuries two days later. The incident generated widespread national and international coverage and was widely condemned, both in India and abroad. Subsequently, public protests against the state and central governments for failing to provide adequate security for women took place in New Delhi, where thousands of protesters clashed with security forces. Similar protests took place in major cities throughout the country. Since Indian law does not allow the press to publish a rape victim's name, the victim has become widely known as Nirbhaya, meaning "fearless", and her life and death have come to symbolise women's struggle to end the rape culture in India and the long-held practice of either denial of its existence within the country, or otherwise blaming the victim rather than the perpetrator.
All the accused were arrested and charged with sexual assault and murder. One of the accused, Ram Singh, died in police custody from possible suicide on 11 March 2013 in the Tihar Jail. According to some published reports, the police say Ram Singh hung himself, but defense lawyers and his family suspect he was murdered. The rest of the accused went on trial in a fast-track court; the prosecution finished presenting its evidence on 8 July 2013. The juvenile, Afzal(name changed) was convicted of rape and murder and given the maximum sentence of three years' imprisonment in a reform facility. On 10 September 2013, the four remaining adult defendants were found guilty of rape and murder and three days later were sentenced to death by hanging. On 13 March 2014, Delhi High Court in the death reference case and hearing appeals against the conviction by the lower Court, upheld the guilty verdict and the death sentences.
As a result of the protests, in December 2012, a judicial committee was set up to study and take public suggestions for the best ways to amend laws to provide quicker investigation and prosecution of sex offenders. After considering about 80,000 suggestions, the committee submitted a report which indicated that failures on the part of the government and police were the root cause behind crimes against women. In 2013, the Criminal Law (Amendment) Ordinance, 2013 was promulgated by President Pranab Mukherjee, several new laws were passed, and six new fast-track courts were created to hear rape cases. Critics argue that the legal system remains slow to hear and prosecute rape cases, but most agree that the case has resulted in a tremendous increase in the public discussion of crimes against women and statistics show that there has been an improvement in the number of women willing to file a crime report. However, in December 2014, the second anniversary of the attack, the girl's father called the promises of reform unmet and said that he felt regret in that he had not been able to bring justice for his daughter and other women like her.
A BBC documentary titled India's Daughter based on the attack was broadcast in the UK on 4 March 2015. Indian-Canadian filmmaker Deepa Mehta's 2016 film Anatomy of Violence was also based on the incident, exploring the social conditions and values in Indian society that made it possible.
‘I’m brave now!’ Victims of sexual harassment say they are finding their voice through new legal defense program:
For Example, the U.S.:
Malin DeVoue had just gotten fired from a Philadelphia hotel last month after complaining about being sexually harassed when she turned on her TV. She saw Oprah Winfrey delivering a rousing speech at the Golden Globes, calling on women to speak up about abusive men and declaring, “Their time is up!”
DeVoue said she felt Winfrey was talking to her.
The 27-year-old cook went online and submitted her story to the TIME’S UP Legal Defense Fund, an initiative created by Hollywood stars and activists to help victims of sexual harassment at work, especially those in low-wage jobs. She’s one of 1,569 people who have sought help from the fund since it launched Jan. 1, program officials said.
The fund, which was created in the aftermath of high-profile sexual assault and harassment charges against movie producer Harvey Weinstein and dozens of other famous men, has already raised $20 million to help victims without the means to pay for lawyers and public relations help.
Those resources are now being used to help waitresses, nurses, government employees, sales clerks and women in virtually every field who are coming forward, according new details released by the fund to The Washington Post.
“The breadth of it is certainly startling,” said Fatima Goss Graves, president and chief executive of the National Women’s Law Center, which is administering the fund. “These women are just trying to do their jobs.”
Shonda Rhimes, the TV producer and screenwriter who is a founder of TIME’S UP and a major donor to the legal fund, said she can feel the momentum building to “create real change for the long haul.”
“People are reaching out from all over the world,” said Rhimes.
The #MeToo and #TimesUp movement is set to see another high-profile burst of attention Sunday in London, where many attendees of the British Academy Film Awards are expected to wear black. Among the prominent guests slated to attend the event is Kate Middleton, the Duchess of Cambridge.
In the United States, the fund has recruited hundreds of attorneys from around the country to join its network, help with initial free consultations and determine what, if any, legal action should be taken. In select cases, the fund will defray the legal and public relations costs of pursuing harassment complaints and defending against related retaliation.
The stories that have come into the fund involve a wide range of alleged harassment in the workplace – including exposure to pornographic photos, obscene talk, and groping and assault, attorneys said. In many of the cases under review, the alleged harasser was in a more senior and higher-salaried position, they said.
It is too early to tell how many of the cases will result in lawsuits, since the alleged misconduct often did not occur recently. The statute of limitations in many states to file workplace harassment complaints is relatively short – as little as 180 days in some places.
And many of the women who have contacted the fund do not want their cases to be public. Rather, they want to end the culture of silence and, quite often, they simply want someone to believe them, according to attorneys familiar with the cases.
“I’m brave now! I’m brave now!” DeVoue said after she had told her story for the first time to a reporter.
DeVoue said that a male engineer at the hotel where she was head cook persistently followed her into the kitchen, asked her to go on dates, stared at her and made her feel “like a piece of meat.”
She said she reported his conduct to the manager after he did not respond to her requests to keep his distance. Instead of investigating his behavior, she said her supervisor fired her after she took two days off.
“I lost my job even though I was the victim,” DeVoue said.
Her Philadelphia attorney, Robert Vance Jr., said the hotel manager should have talked to witnesses when DeVoue complained.
Tina Tchen, former chief of staff for first lady Michelle Obama and a founder of the fund, said that before it existed, a lot of women didn’t know where to go to get help.
“The basic thing we are trying to accomplish is to fill that void and connect people to resources,” Tchen said. “The phones are ringing off the hook.”
Antuinette Miles, a 37-year-old mother of three, is one of those who has called. Miles, an Army veteran, had been chief of security for a private company running a jail in the District of Columbia when a new supervisor started disparaging women’s ability to do the job, she said. The supervisor even told her she was too attractive for the position, she said. When others she worked with were offered transfers following a change in management, Miles said she was let go.
She was connected by the fund to Aaron Herreras, an attorney at KCNF Law in the District, who helped her file a civil suit in federal court alleging gender-based discrimination.
Some men, too, have contacted the fund to report workplace harassment, but so far they number only 30, or less than 2 percent, of those who have reached out, officials said.
Rashida Jones, an actress and activist who works with TIME’S UP, said Hollywood whistleblowers may have kicked off the movement, but it gained broader reach after a letter of solidarity by Alianza Nacional de Campesinas, an organization that fights sexual harassment and exploitation of women who work in vegetable, fruit and other farms.
The workplaces may be different, but the dynamic of the harassment is the same, she said: It is ultimately about women not having equal power at work.
“It’s all about power and parity,” she said.
Hilary Rosen, a Washington political strategist who also helped create the fund, said “the goal is to change behavior.”
“And the reason this behavior exists in the first place is that there is an imbalance of power,” she said.