Parenting is one of the toughest jobs in the world and there are no hard and fast rules for apt parenting. However, in India it seems that a lot of parents still blindly follow the 'medieval art of Indian parenting'. The primary principle of this technique is that children are the inherent property of a couple, which allows them to do whatever they want. They think they have every right to design and script their children’s lives. This includes hard violence, abusive words, lack of trust, silent treatment, emotional abuse, false promises, partiality between boys and girls, unnecessary criticism and comparison to other kids. 

If a child does something wrong, he is subjected to, beating, criticism, blackmailing, rage and threats, which results in deep psychological damage to a child. Often parents think that this method of "disciplining" their kids is totally correct as to put it in their words, "These things didn't do any harm to them and they grew to be successfully men and women". Parents make fake promises like "if you do that, I'll buy you this", which most of the times aren't fulfilled. Often kids are told to follow rules and principles that their parents themselves don't follow. A child's own needs and feelings are not taken into consideration. Their mental health and well being are not given any importance as parents quote these things as "stupid Western trends". Children sometimes watch their father curse and beat their mother. A child grows to learn that males are "superior" to females, and that the bread-winner is the boss of the family. A child is taught to behave in a way that a typical boy or girl should, according to our traditional and sexist society. They are told to become like someone that the society admires and not what they truly are. Children in India are reported to have low self esteem, compassion, understanding, confidence than children of Western countries.

Parents think that the right method to "discipline" a spoiled kid is by the harsh one, or by sending them to a boarding school. Hatred, rage, fear and violence are the worst elements of nurturing. Why can't we simply tell our kids that a certain thing is wrong without physical or emotional abuse. The impact that this parenting technique has on our children's life is humongous. Why can't we replace scolding with compassion, self doubt with self worth, and hatred with love. 

I urge the Ministry of Women and Child Development to look into this matter and create awareness ads and programmes on radio, tv and in schools and villages involving direct interactions with fellow parents. Also I request parents and parents-to-be to reconsider how they would nurture their kids.

Resources for detailed reading 

https://parenting.firstcry.com/articles/bad-parenting-signs-effects/?amp

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-legacy-distorted-love/201802/the-real-effect-narcissistic-parenting-children

https://www.regain.us/advice/parenting/examples-of-bad-parenting-what-to-do-about-it/#