Demand acknowledgement of abuse & accountability from Chappaqua Central School District

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Preethi Saxena
4 years ago
Lyn MCKay must be accountable..,truly deplorable..

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Preethi Saxena
4 years ago
I have been a victim of Lyn Mckays conniving ways...and this school district

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donna Robertson
4 years ago
How could I n0t.time 2 kill

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Anita Kanitz
4 years ago
"The way people treat you, is a statement about who they are as a human being. It is not a statement about you."

"Genocide begins, however improbably, in the conviction that classes of biological distinction indisputably sanction social and political discrimination.

As long as there is rape, violence, harrassment, stalking, bullying, because you are a girl or a woman... there is not going to be any peace or justice or equality or freedom or the hope of a life in freedom and humanity. You are not going to become what you want."

"Be the change and the hope for the future, the hope for our children and grandchildren!
Fear nothing and go your way for freedom, justice and peace on earth."

Anita Kanitz

"Creating a better world requires teamwork, partnerships, and collaboration, as we need an entire army of companies to work together to build a better world within the next few decades. This means corporations must embrace the benefits of cooperating with one another." Simon Mainwaring

"We have always held to the hope, the belief, the conviction that there is a better life, a better world, beyond the horizon." Franklin D. Roosevelt

"Courage, my friends, it's not too late to build a better world."Tommy Douglas

"The nature of women's oppression is unique: women are oppressed as women, regardless of class or race; some women have access to significant wealth, but that wealth does not signify power; women are to be found everywhere, but own or control no appreciable territory; women live with those who oppress them, sleep with them, have their children — we are tangled, hopelessly it seems, in the gut of the machinery and way of life which is ruinous to us."

Andrea Dworkin, Woman Hating, ch. 9, p. 23, E.P. Dutton, New York (1974).

"Feminists are often asked whether pornography causes rape. The fact is that rape and prostitution caused and continue to cause pornography. Politically, culturally, socially, sexually, and economically, rape and prostitution generated pornography; and pornography depends for its continued existence on the rape and prostitution of women."

Andrea Dwrokin, Pornography and Male Supremacy (1981), Letters from a War Zone.

“Femicide is on the extreme end of a continuum of antifemale terror that includes a wide variety of verbal and physical abuse, such as rape, torture, sexual slavery(particularly in prostitution), incestuous and extrafamilial child sexual abuse, physical and emotional battery, sexual harassment (on the phone, in the streets, at the office, and in the classroom), genital mutilation (clitoridectomies, excision, infibulations), unnecessary gynecological operations(gratuitous hysterectomies), forced heterosexuality, forced sterilization, forced motherhood (by criminalizing contraception and abortion), psychosurgery, denial of food towomen in some cultures, cosmetic surgery, and other mutilations in the name of beautification. Whenever these forms of terrorism result in death, they become femicides.”

Diana E. H. Russell, feminist writer and activist.


Femicide/Feminicide – the systematic murder of women – in Guatemala has reached record numbers with more than 6,000 women having been tortured, mutilated, and/ or murdered. The numbers in Guatemala continue to grow with an average of 1-2 women being murdered daily. MuJER participates on local, national, and international committees in order to help fight against such extreme forms of violence against women and to help protect the rights of all Guatemalan women. MuJER has testified and worked closely with the International Human Rights Commission in order to bring awareness to the daily violence that plagues women and to bring justice to the families of the victims.

“No nation can rise to the height of glory unless your women are side by side with you. We are victims of evil customs. It is a crime against humanity that our women are shut up within the four walls of the houses as prisoners. There is no sanction anywhere for the deplorable condition in which our women have to live.”
― Muhammad Ali Jinnah

We must help female childs, girls and women worldwide. There are many crimes and violence against them: daily hate speech (calling all women cunts and sluts, rape jokes), daily misogyny, daily sexism, daily discrimination, femicide (like in Mexico and Guatemala), female infanticide (like in all arabic countries, India and China) childmarriages,(in all Muslim and Hindu countries), forced marriages (in all Muslim and Hindu countries), FGM (in all Muslim countries and worldwide), stoning, inprisonment, murder and lashing of rape victims, sex slavery, human trafficking, femicides, tarraush gamea (mass assault and rape like in Egypt), Eve teasing (gang harrassment against women and girls like in India) , prison rape (like in Iran), gang rapes, police rape (like in India), rape deaths, war and conflict mass rapes (like in Congo, Syria and Iraq),child abuse and child rape, marital rape, heinous rape videos in the internet, witch hunts,widow murders, stalking, murder and assault of women right's defenders, domestic and sexual violence, honour killings, forced prostitution, assault and murder of lesbians, assault during child birth, force to unwanted childbirths, street harassment, workplace harrassment, school harassment, campus harassment, assault and rape in military, sexism in the media, online harassment, sexist dress codes, objectifying in the media, blaming of female rape and assault victims, body shaming, mass abductions and rapes of girls and women and girls and internet slandering and no rights for gender equality, equal pay or education, brainwashing worldwide of women and girls, to make them companions of violence and assault against other females (that's very common in all Muslim countries and worldwide for example in cases of honour killings, FGM and forced marriages, sex slavery, dowry murder, sexual and domestic violence, rape), sadistic forced sex practices like BDSM, paid rape in prostitution and pornography, forced by judges to marry the rapist (like in many Muslim countries like Marocco).
We must educate and force men and boys not to kill, to rape, to mutilate, to torture, to enslave, to beat, to harass, to stalk or to disrespect women, girls, female childs and babies. The female patience is now worldwide at an end.

The shame of femicide in Guatemala and worldwide, 2016:


Femicide/Feminicide – the systematic murder of women – in Guatemala has reached record numbers with more than 6,000 women having been tortured, mutilated, and/ or murdered. The numbers in Guatemala continue to grow with an average of 1-2 women being murdered daily. MuJER participates on local, national, and international committees in order to help fight against such extreme forms of violence against women and to help protect the rights of all Guatemalan women. MuJER has testified and worked closely with the International Human Rights Commission in order to bring awareness to the daily violence that plagues women and to bring justice to the families of the victims.

Femicide ocurrs all over the world although is particularly notorious in Latin America and the Caribbean with the rate Guatemala being third highest only to El Salvador and Jamaica. Rape, torture and Mutilation is a tragically common theme. Women are particularly vulnerable in unsafe environments such as sex work where poverty and organized crime are commonplace. The majority of victims come from disadvantaged backgrounds and have already been victims of trafficking or working in the sex trade.

Femicide is often misreported as “gang- related” crime or indeed, unreported completely. When it is reported, the laws specifically targeting Femicide have resulted in very low levels of conviction due to a lack of clarity and common definition. Perpetrators enjoy a state of widespread impunity. The Guatemalan government consider Femicide of low priority as a result of patriarchal beliefs and views on the role of women in society.

Heinous epidemic gang rapes connected with rape videos on the internet worldwide, 2016:

The most victims of barbaric gang rapes (very often connected with torture, mutilation and murder) are female childs and underaged girls!
Shocking gang rapes are the new kind of sport of male cowards and monsters.

One shocking case in Brazil, May 2016:
More than 30 men 'rape teenage girl in Rio' and post video on Twitter

The 16-year-old victim was unconcious during the attack, which has sparked protests calling for an end to Brazil's 'rape culture'!

Police in Rio de Janiero are hunting for more than 30 men suspected of participating in the rape of a teenage girl.

Two of the attackers posted pictures and video on Twitter of the assault, which has shocked the country and raised concerns over serious crime in the city.

The 16-year-old victim was visiting her boyfriend's house in a poor neighbourhood in the west of the city on Saturday when she was attacked by a group of heavily armed men, according to a leaked statement made to local police.

She woke up naked and wounded the next day in a strange house filled with men, with no recollection of the assault.

She had to put on their clothing to leave, reported the Globe and Mail.

The girl's 19-year-old boyfriend is among the suspects facing charges of rape, along with another man aged 41.

“She is not well, she is confused,” the girl's grandmother told Brazilian newspaper Folha de S.Paulo, adding that she “regretted watching” the video posted

Social media posts of the attack began circulating on Tuesday. The originals have now been deleted.

According to local media reports, a 40-second video posted by a man called Michel showed the victim appearing to regain consciousness.

It was accompanied with the words: “Pounded the girl – get it? Hahaha.”

Another picture showed a man's face next to the woman's genitalia with the caption: “Rio state opens a new tunnel for the speed train.”

An online campaign has been set up in response to the crime, using the hashtag #EstuproNuncaMais, meaning 'rape never again'.

There have also been calls for protests to end to what campaigners call Brazil's 'culture of rape'.

A Brazilian politician was ordered to pay damages to a female colleague last year after saying during a debate: "I wouldn't even rape you because you don't deserve it."

Rape epidemic in Europe, 2016:
‘Cologne is every day’: Europe’s rape epidemic!

GERMANY, Sweden and other European countries are facing growing public unrest amid a wave of reports of sexual assaults since the Cologne attacks.

New York-based conservative think tank Gatestone Institute has compiled a shocking list of sexual assaults and rapes by migrants in Germany in just the first two months of the year.

Drawing only from German media reports, the list documents more than 160 instances of rape and sexual assault committed by migrants in train stations, swimming pools and other public places against victims as young as seven.

German police use terms such as “southerners” (südländer), men with “dark skin” (dunkelhäutig, dunklere gesichtsfarbe, dunklem hauttyp) or “southern skin colour” (südländische hautfarbe) to describe the alleged perpetrators.

Authorities across the country have been accused of downplaying the true extent of the problem by suppressing information about migrant-related crimes, ostensibly due to a “lack of public interest”.

Police are also wary of fuelling civil unrest amid a rising number of attacks on migrants and shelters by right-wing vigilante groups. In response, Germans are increasingly turning to social media to spread information.

A German Twitter account, @XYEinzelfall (“individual cases”), has created a Google map to track police reports of crimes allegedly committed by migrants across the region. “Cologne was just the tip of the iceberg,” the page says. “Cologne is every day.”

Most recently, three girls aged 15, 16 and 17 were assaulted over two hours by a mob of up to 30 migrants at a shopping centre in the northern city of Kiel.

Since the attack, which began when two Afghan men began stalking the teenagers and sharing photos on social media, other women have come forward to report similar experiences.

“Groups of young men gather at the Sophienhof [shopping centre] every evening,” a restaurant owner told the Kieler Nachrichten newspaper.

“What they do here is unacceptable. The moment they see a young woman wearing a skirt or any type of loose clothing, they believe they have a free pass. It is about time migrants are made to understand: things in Germany function differently than in their home countries.”

However, refugee advocates have warned against tarring all migrants with the same brush, noting that the alleged crimes are rare incidents in the context of the enormous number of migrants who have come to Europe.

More than 1.1 million migrants flooded into Germany in 2015 and the country is expecting 3.6 million to arrive by 2020, according to internal government estimates.

UN Special Rapporteur on violence against women Dubravka Šimonović told Time that “against this background, we are currently speaking about incidents that must be carefully studied to establish any patterns and links”.

The release of BKA’s report followed allegations by a number of women’s rights groups in Germany that a “culture of rape and violence” was developing in migrant centres, with many assaults going unreported to the police.

After the Cologne attacks, which German authorities and media initially attempted to cover up, Justice Minister Heiko Maas described the incident as a “completely new dimension of organised criminality”.

A total of 1075 criminal complaints have now been filed over the Cologne attacks, including 467 alleging crimes of a sexual nature ranging from insults to rape.


The police in the Swedish city of Östersund advised women not to go outdoors alone following a string of public assaults and sex attacks in the past three weeks.

Sweden, which has a population of just under 10 million, took in around 163,000 migrants in 2015, making it by far the most generous on a per capita basis.

National broadcaster SVT reports what police area manager Stephen Jerand described as a “worrying trend” of unprovoked violence on women in public places.

Speaking at a press conference, police said they had never experienced crime of this nature in the small city of Östersund, which has a population of just 44,000.

“This is serious,” Mr Jerand said. “We care about the protection of women and that is why we go out and talk about this.”

Police said there had been six reports of attacks since February 20, including a 10-year-old girl who was molested at a bus station in the centre of the city.

On February 26, a woman was beaten by three men, one of whom was arrested. On Saturday night there was one incident of attempted rape and another of assault.

In that incident, police said a lone assailant walked up to the woman and “hit her in the face with a closed fist”. The attacker, described only as “foreign”, then flung the woman down and pressed her head to the ground, before disappearing from the scene, according to the police report.

In the attempted rape incident, three young men who “spoke Swedish with an accent” attempted to drag a woman to the ground and tear off her pants, but she resisted and managed to break loose, the police report said.

“Swimming pools have become prime hunting grounds for gangs of men looking to prey on vulnerable women,” 24-year-old Siri Bernhardsson told the Daily Mail.

“Loads of women here say they have been touched. We are tired of men thinking they can come to Sweden and molest women. We want to teach these boys how to behave and be left in peace to swim without being felt up.

“It happens in train stations and in swimming pools. This should not be the case in 2016 in Sweden.”

Pandemic crimes of stalking, often with deadly consequnces, worldwide:

Hyderabad, India , July 3, 2016:

A 17-year-old girl was killed by a man in Telangana's Adilabad district yesterday - her throat slit in full public view in front of her home - allegedly because she rejected his advances in an incident disturbingly similar to the murder of an Infosys employee in Chennai last month.

The accused, 22-year-old Mahesh was arrested and was a neighbour of the girl Sandhya. He attacked Sandhya on Saturday afternoon outside her home in Bhainsa town with a kitchen knife and repeatedly slit her throat and then ran away. Sandhya bled to death.

Sandhya had complained of being harassed by him and her family had lodged a complaint with the police last year. Mahesh did not want her to get married to anyone else and had even tried to disrupt her engagement in January this year, police said.

The police had earlier brokered peace between the two sides without taking any action against Mahesh.

Last month, Swathi S, a 24-year-old woman, was hacked to death by a man in a railway station in Chennai allegedly because she rejected his advances.

Swathi's body was left on the platform Chennai for over two hours as those who watched the attack did nothing to stop the killer; many left by the next train. The police arrived only hours later, which led the Madras High Court to comment that Swathi's body was left "lying like an exhibition".

The crime generated waves of shock and anger, not just over its gruesome nature, but also because of the complete lack of response from those who witnessed the crime.

The Predatory Stalker

For the predatory stalker, stalking is foreplay; the real goal is sexual assault. While they may gain satisfaction from the sense of control and power stalking gives them over the victim, it’s the violent and sexual fantasies that they engage in while researching, planning, and following the victim that really gets them off as they prepare for the ultimate thrill – the sexual assault itself.

The stalking may have a sadistic quality to it. For example, some predatory stalkers mess with their victim’s minds by leaving subtle clues that they are being followed without revealing their identity. However, even when the victim is unaware that she is being stalked, the perpetrator can still take delight in the details – deciding how long to prolong the suspense, rehearsing the attack, fantasizing about the victim’s response.

Predatory stalkers are not “love-sick” (i.e., due to unrequited love). Nor are predatory stalkers motivated by strong emotional attachment to their victims. Their stalking does not reflect efforts to establish or maintain close, positive relationships with victims; nor did it reflect separation protest or intense personal distress over the dissolution of a close relationship. Predatory stalkers are more likely to use stalking o gratify their need for dominance and control and, ultimately, to gratify sadistic sexual desires.

Predatory stalkers have a different set of problems. In comparison to other types of stalkers, predatory stalkers are more likely to have a history of convictions for other sexual offense and to have a diagnosable paraphilia (pattern of deviant sexual arousal), particularly involving sexual sadism. Unlike stalkers who develop delusions that their victim is really in love with them or has committed some imaginary offense, these stalkers rarely have psychotic disorders. They do, however, often have personality disorders.

While most stalkers (or sexual offenders, for that matter) are not psychopaths, it is interesting that those stalkers who do have psychopathic traits tend to exhibit pursuit behaviors that are similar to stalking predators. For instance, research suggests that psychopathy is associated with what could be summarized as “boldness and coldness” in stalkers.

Predatory stalkers are also most likely to lead double lives, leaving their friends and family stunned and disbelieving when they are finally caught. Night stalker Delroy Grant, for example, who stalked, raped and terrorized retired pensioners for years, was viewed as a friendly, self-sacrificing neighbor who religiously cared for his wife who was paralyzed from the neck down from multiple sclerosis. Midwestern “Mall Rapist” James Perry stalked young girls in the malls and shopping center parking lots, was a popular member of his suburban community, where he lived with his wife and two young children.

The shame of domestic violence in France and in Europe 2016:

At least 2.000.000 women are victims of domestic violence in France
400 die each year under the blows of their spouse - that means more than one per day...
Worldwilde the most dangerous place of women, girls and female childs are their homes and most dangerous persons are the male relations, husbands, fathers or friends. American women called their homes hitting homes, because domestic violence with often deadly consequences is like an epidemic in the U.S.
Domestic violence knows no boundaries and it affects women of all ages, colours, creeds and social backgrounds. Amnesty International has revealed that in France a women is killed by domestic violence at least every 4 days, and that 1 out of 10 women in France is a victim of domestic violence at some point in their lives. These figures are shocking and the French government has been urged to tackle the situation. Bear in mind that figures are based on statistics gathered from reported crime, which makes it all the more horrifying when you start to think how many of these crimes go unreported or worse still how many women are out there living in fear?

The legal system is incredibly slow and extremely complicated and expensive, while legal aid is available in the case of an "un-amicable" divorce it often takes more than a month before the aid is granted and without the aid the solicitor cannot start proceedings or arrange an injunction against the violent partner. This often forces women to stay with violent partners in the family home. The legal system at times also seems to support the instigator of the crime rather than the victim - this needs to be redressed!

Liberte, Egalite, Fraternite? Surprising then that this is allowed to happen and more still more surprising that women in France only received the right to vote in 1944 and that most banks in France on opening a joint account still only issue a credit/debit card in the mans name, the women often has to apply & pay for her card separately. Although equal rights laws exist in France it is still common place that women earn on average one fifth less than their male counterparts!

Perhaps the most famous case of domestic violence occurred in 2004 when actress Marie Trintignant was violently beaten around the head and face and killed by her rock star boyfriend Bertrand Cantat who was the lead singer in the French group Noir Desir. What made the case more sickeningly ironic was the fact that Desir was seen publicly as a passivist whilst Trintignant was known as a strong supporter of women's rights. Marie Trintigant was beaten and tortured to death in a very heinous kind, the only reason for her horrible death was her boyfriend was in that day in a bad mood. Domestic violence is a very ugly face of women hating and worldwide a pandemic.
Domestic violence has become an endemic phenomenon in Europe where each week, a woman is killed by her husband or partner, according to the European Counsel who (recently) called its 44 member States to repress it more severely. According to statistics cited by a report of the European Counsel, domestic violence will be the main cause of death and invalidity, before cancer, road accidents and war for women aged 16 to 44. In Europe, depending on the country, from 20 to 50% of women are victims of domestic violence. But there is no "typical profile" of the violent spouse and no social layer is spared, says the report.
"Poverty and lack of formal education are not meaningful factors, the incidence of domestic violence even seems to increase with the level of income and education", emphasizes Mme Olga Keltosova (European Democrats, Slovakia), author of the text. According to her, a Dutch study even revealed that almost half of all perpetrators of violent acts concerning women have university diplomas. "Domestic violence, in all its forms - physical attack, sexual abuse, rape, threats and intimidation -, is the most shared plague", she underlined.
The report's author also cited "psychological violence", often obscured but sometimes more painful than physical blows.
"Verbal attacks, humiliation, threats, repeated harassment, imprisonment lead the woman to lose all self-esteem, which prevents her from later taking back control of her life", explains Mme Keltosova.
The studies cited by the report revealed that in 2001, there were 1,35 million women victims of domestic violence in France and approximately 10,000 per year in Norway.
In Russia, "13,000 women are killed each year, for the most part by their husband or partner", specifies the report which proposes the parallel figure of 14,000 Russians killed in 10 years during the war in Afghanistan.
Faced with this grave report, the European Counsel asked its member States to take preventative measures but also to elaborate a legal arsenal so that the perpetrators of domestic violence will be severely sanctioned.
If in certain countries, rape within the couple is considered a crime, "many others think that spouses have a right to unlimited sexual access to their wife", regrets Mme Keltosova. "The fact that this violence happens in the home of the victim, behind closed doors, has always been a pretext to qualify it as a problem regarding the private sphere", she laments.
Among the proposed measures figures notably "immediately removing the violent partner from the home and the daily environment of his wife and children, without proof and without waiting for a court's decision".

The French newspaper Le Monde cited Trintignant's death as "proof that domestic violence is not restricted to the underprivileged, unemployed, violent or alcoholic".

Safety First At All Times
If you are a victim of domestic violence or are living in fear of an abusive partner first take action to keep yourself and your children if you have any safe, memorise emergency numbers note that if you cannot speak French you're more likely to find someone that speaks English if you dial the European emergency service on 112 and they will connect you to the appropriate emergency service and translate for you. For the French police or gendarmes dial 17, for emergency medical treatment or ambulance dial 15. If you have a close neighbour that you can confide in arrange a code with them to alert them of your danger such as an item or ornament visible in the window.

Remember that your safety is paramount at all times and if at all possible remove your self from the family home and stay with friends or relatives. If you cannot or do not wish to leave make sure you have prepared an escape route or plan, if trouble starts try to position yourself near the door or exit, avoid rooms with no exits such as the bathroom and keep out of rooms likely to contain weapons such as the kitchen (knives). Keep a spare set of keys/car keys and some money either with you in a pocket or hidden in an easily accessible place preferably outdoors.

If You Are Injured
Firstly seek medical attention and ask the doctor for a medical certificate to prove you have been assaulted, make a note of the time, place etc of the assault and names & addresses of witnesses if any. Contact or go to your local gendarmerie and file a complaint. Then seek the assistance of an avocat - some legal assistance is available in France if you are on a low income or have no money of your own. It is also possible to seek an injunction through the French courts to have your abusive partner or husband removed from the family home. Unfortunately the French legal system is at best slow, you will also need to show the avocat originals of yours and your partners birth certificates and marriage certificate - if you do not have the originals you will have to contact the registrar of Births & Marriages in the UK and ask for a certified copy (around £11) to be sent to you - this is time consuming and requires a UK debit or credit card if applying by phone.

Secrecy & Abuse
Domestic violence and abusive behaviour tends to thrive on secrecy as the abuser gains more power over the victim if they are too frightened to tell. Do not be ashamed or embarrassed to tell someone what is happening to you. Always remember that it is not your fault, no one no matter what deserves to be beaten, threatened or abused.

And finally the sad truth is that abusers just get more abusive over time, the violence WILL get worse, take steps to break the cycle of abuse now!

The shame of domestic violence in the U.S., 2016:

More than 1,600 Women Murdered by Men in One Year, New Study Finds!

Study ranks the states on the rate of women murdered by men in advance of Domestic Violence Awareness Month in October

Washington, DC — More than 1,600 women were murdered by men in 2013 and the most common weapon used was a gun, according to the new Violence Policy Center (VPC) study When Men Murder Women: An Analysis of 2013 Homicide Data.

This annual VPC report is being released in advance of Domestic Violence Awareness Month in October. This year’s study applies to 2013, the most recent year for which data is available.

The study also ranks the states on the rate of women murdered by men. In 2013, South Carolina had the highest rate, followed by Alaska, New Mexico, Louisiana, and Nevada. (A list of the 10 states with the highest rates of women murdered by men follows below.)

The study covers homicides involving one female murder victim and one male offender, and uses data from the Federal Bureau of Investigation’s Supplementary Homicide Report.

Nationwide, 1,615 females were murdered by males in single victim/single offender incidents in 2013, at a rate of 1.09 per 100,000. The study found that nationwide, 94 percent of women killed by men were murdered by someone they knew. Of the victims who knew their offenders, 62 percent were wives or other intimate acquaintances of their killers.

The study also found that black women are disproportionately impacted by fatal domestic violence. In 2013, black females were murdered by men at a rate of 2.36 per 100,000, two and a half times higher than the rate of 0.95 per 100,000 for white women murdered by men.

Nationwide in 2013, out of the 1,615 female homicide victims, 1,086 were white, 453 were black, 36 were Asian or Pacific Islander, 21 were American Indian or Alaskan Native, and in 19 cases the race of the victim was not identified.

“Women are dying every day as a result of domestic violence, and our state and federal laws are insufficient in the face of this crisis,” states VPC Legislative Director Kristen Rand. “State and federal policymakers should take immediate action to help protect women from abusers and prevent future tragedies. This should include ensuring that men with a history of domestic abuse do not have access to guns.”

“When men murder women, the most common weapon used is a gun,” says Julia Wyman, executive director of States United to Prevent Gun Violence. “Closing gaps in state and federal gun laws will save women’s lives.”

The Violence Policy Center has published When Men Murder Women annually for 18 years. During that period, nationwide the rate of women murdered by men in single victim/single offender incidents has dropped 31 percent — from 1.57 per 100,000 in 1996 to 1.09 per 100,000 in 2013.

For each of the top 10 states, the study offers a detailed summary including: the number of victims by age group and race; the most common weapons used; the victim to offender relationships; and the circumstances of the homicides.

For homicides in which the victim to offender relationship could be identified, 94 percent of female victims nationwide were murdered by a male they knew. Of the victims who knew their offenders, 62 percent were wives, common-law wives, ex-wives, or girlfriends of the offenders.

Firearms — especially handguns — were the weapons most commonly used by males to murder females in 2013. Nationwide, for homicides in which the weapon used could be identified, 53 percent of female victims were shot and killed with a gun. Of the homicides committed with guns, 69 percent were killed with handguns.

The overwhelming majority of these homicides were not related to any other felony crime, such as rape or robbery. Nationwide, for homicides in which the circumstances could be identified, 85 percent of the homicides were not related to the commission of another felony. Most often, females were killed by males in the course of an argument between the victim and the offender.

The study calculates the rate of women murdered by men by dividing the total number of females murdered by males in single victim/single offender incidents by the total female population and multiplying the result by 100,000. This is the standard and accepted method of comparing fatal levels of gun violence.

The study urges state legislators to adopt laws that enhance enforcement of federal legislation and ensure that guns are surrendered by or removed from the presence of abusers. In addition, the study urges the U.S. Congress to adopt stronger legislation to protect victims of domestic violence, such as: the “Protecting Domestic Violence and Stalking Victims Act of 2015” introduced by Sen. Amy Klobuchar (D-MN); the “Lori Jackson Domestic Violence Survivor Protection Act” introduced by Sen. Richard Blumenthal (D-CT); and, the “Zero Tolerance for Domestic Abusers Act” introduced by Reps. Debbie Dingell (D-MI) and Robert Dold (R-IL).

The shocking case of Nicole Simpson:

The marriage of Nicole Brown with the famous O.J. Simpson, however, was far from serene. O.J. wasn't just unfaithful, he was very abusive and a woman beater. Friends and relatives would later recount seeing bruises on Nicole's body. There were numerous incidents, including the 1989 New Year's Eve party in which the former football player allegedly threatened to kill her. He pleaded no contest to spousal battery, but suffered little in the way of consequences.

Nicole Brown Simpson and her friend Ronald Goldman were fatally stabbed in a very cruel and brutal way at the evening of June 12, 1994, their bodies discovered early the next morning. Her two young children were asleep inside their Brentwood home at the time.

O.J. Simpson, her ex-husband, was acquitted Oct. 3, 1995, of their deaths in a trial that riveted the nation and divided many along racial lines.

In 1997, he was ordered to pay more than $33 milllion for their wrongful deaths. He is now serving a prison sentence in Nevada for kidnapping, robbery, burglary, assault with a deadly weapon and other charges for trying to obtain memorabilia he claims belonged to him.

On March 4, 2016, it was reported that Los Angeles police are investigating and testing a knife that was recovered on property once owned by O.J. Simpson and turned over to a police officer a number of years ago by a person working construction there.

The shame of domestic violence in Nigeria,2016:

Child marriages, forced marriages, connected with FGM is very common in Nigeria. The result is a pandemic of domestic deaths.

Ronke Bewaji Shonde was allegedly beaten to death in Lagos by her husband, Lekan Shonde Ronke Bewaji Shonde a married woman in her mid thirties was on Friday, May 6, allegedly beaten to death by her husband, Lekan Shonde at their home at Tiemo Crescent off Awori street in Egbeda, Lagos state. According to a post on Facebook, Ronke and her husband had a domestic dispute in their home while their kids were sleeping.
Neighbours forcefully opened the door only to find Ronke’s lifeless body on the floor, with blood coming out from her head. The husband was nowhere to be found as Ronke’s phone are also missing. He locked the two kids with the late wife in the house. Her body has since been deposited at the mortuary. According to family friends, Ronke suffered domestic violence in her husband’s hands for many years.

Another case of domestic violence in Lagos:
It was a typical husband-wife argument. She wanted to visit her parents. He wanted her to stay home.

So they settled it in what some here say is an all-too-typical fashion, Rosalynn Isimeto-Osibuamhe recalled of the incident in December 2001. Her husband, Emmanuel, followed her out the door. Then he beat her unconscious, she says, and left her lying in the street near their apartment.

Ms. Isimeto-Osibuamhe, then 31 and in the fifth year of her marriage, had broken an unwritten rule in this part of the world: she had defied her husband. Surveys throughout sub-Saharan Africa show that many men -- and women, too -- consider such disobedience ample justification for a beating.

Not Ms. Isimeto-Osibuamhe. A university graduate and founder of a French school, she packed her clothes and walked out as soon as she got back from the hospital. So far, although her resolve sometimes wavers and she does not want a divorce, she has not gone back.

"He doesn't believe I have any rights of my own," she said in an interview outside her French classroom. "If I say no, he beats me. I said: 'Wow. That is not what I want in life."'

Women suffer from violence in every society. In few places, however, is the abuse more entrenched, and accepted, than in sub-Saharan Africa. One in three Nigerian women reported having been physically abused by a male partner, according to the latest study, conducted in 1993. The wife of the deputy governor of a northern Nigerian province told reporters last year that her husband beat her incessantly, in part because she watched television movies. One of President Olusegun Obasanjo's appointees to a national anticorruption commission was allegedly killed by her husband in 2000, two days after she asked the state police commissioner to protect her.

"It is like it is a normal thing for women to be treated by their husbands as punching bags," Obong Rita Akpan, until last month Nigeria's minister for women's affairs, said in an interview here. "The Nigerian man thinks that a woman is his inferior. Right from childhood, right from infancy, the boy is preferred to the girl. Even when they marry out of love, they still think the woman is below them and they do whatever they want."

In Zambia, nearly half of women surveyed said a male partner had beaten them, according to a 2004 study financed by the United States -- the highest percentage of nine developing nations surveyed on three continents.

In South Africa, researchers for the Medical Research Council estimated last year that a male partner kills a girlfriend or spouse every six hours -- the highest mortality rate from domestic violence ever reported, they say. In Harare, Zimbabwe's capital, domestic violence accounts for more than 6 in 10 murder cases in court, a United Nations report concluded last year.

Yet most women remain silent about the abuse, women's rights organizations say. A World Health Organization study has found that while more than a third of Namibian women reported enduring physical or sexual abuse by a male partner, often resulting in injury, six in seven victims had either kept it to themselves or confided only in a friend or relative.

Help is typically not easy to find. Nigeria, Africa's largest nation with nearly 130 million people, has only two shelters for battered women, both opened in the last four years. The United States, by contrast, has about 1,200 such havens. Moreover, many women say wifely transgression justify beatings. About half of women interviewed in Zambia in 2001 and 2002 said husbands had a right to beat wives who argue with them, burn the dinner, go out without the husband's permission, neglect the children or refuse sex.

To Kenny Adebayo, a 30-year-old driver in Lagos, the issue is clear-cut. "If you tell your wife she puts too much salt in the dinner, and every day, every day, every day there is too much salt, one day you will get emotional and hurt her," he said. "We men in Africa hate disrespect."

Nigeria's penal code, in force in the Muslim-dominated north, specifically allows husbands to discipline their wives -- just as it allows parents and teachers to discipline children -- as long as they do not inflict grievous harm. Assault laws could apply, but the police typically see wife-beating as an exception. Domestic violence bills have been proposed in six of Nigeria's three dozen provinces but adopted in just two.

Women's rights activists say that the prevalence of abuse is emblematic of the low status of women in sub-Saharan Africa. Typically less educated, they work longer hours and transport three times as much weight as men, hauling firewood, water and sacks of corn on their heads.

Ms. Isimeto-Osibuamhe does not fit that standard profile. Articulate, with a fashionable haircut and a sociology book in her bag, she speaks in a confident, even assertive tone of voice. Her diary is full of plans for various projects she hopes to undertake. "I am an organizer," she said in a series of interviews. "I am a leader."

But that did not save her from a seemingly endless string of beatings during her eight-year marriage to her husband, Emmanuel.

By Nigerian standards, Ms. Isimeto-Osibuamhe said, her parents were progressive. Her father occasionally beat her mother, but he also encouraged his daughter, the oldest of seven children, to pursue her studies and, later, her careers as a marketing executive, French teacher and host of a French educational television show.

She was only about 16 when she met Emmanuel. Like her, he went on to graduate from a university, specializing in accounting. Slim and handsome, he slapped her only once during their long courtship, she said. She thought it was an aberration.

It wasn't. Now 35, Ms. Isimeto-Osibuamhe says that Emmanuel beat her more than 60 times after she married him in 1997. He beat her, she says, while she was pregnant with their son, now 6. He threw a lantern at her. He held a knife to her head, she said, while a friend pleaded with him not to kill her.

Emmanuel Osibuamhe, 36, now says he was wrong to beat his wife. But in a two-hour interview in his office, which doubles as barber shop, he insisted that she drove him to it by deliberately provoking him. Pacing the floor in freshly pressed pants, polished shoes and yellow shirt, he grew increasingly agitated as he recalled how she challenged his authority.

"You can't imagine yourself beating your wife?" he said. "You can't imagine yourself being pushed to that level? But some people just push you over the edge, and you do things that you are not supposed to do."

"For God's sake," he added. "You are the head of the home as the man. You must have a home that is submissive to you."

To him, that means accepting that he is the head of the household and makes the final decisions. It also means that all property be in his name and that his wife ask his permission before she visits her family, he said.

When Ms. Isimeto-Osibuamhe eventually sought help, others only seemed to support her husband's view. She went to the police. "They told me I am not a small girl," she recalled. "If I don't want to be married, I should get divorced."

She told her father-in-law. He advised her that "beating is normal."

She told her local pastor, who counseled her that "I shouldn't make him so angry," telling her "whatever my husband says, I should submit."

She found support, finally, at Project Alert on Violence Against Women, a nonprofit organization that runs one of Nigeria's two shelters. She lived at the shelter for weeks. She titled her statement detailing the violence "A Cry for Help."

Bridget Osekwe, the senior program officer, said the group's files contained 200 cases like Ms. Isimeto-Osibuamhe's. Even some women who are economically independent like Ms. Isimeto-Osibuamhe, she said, are loath to divorce their husbands for fear of social disgrace.

"In this society, a woman must do everything she can to make her marriage work," said Josephine Effah-Chukwuma, who set up Project Alert in 1999. "If it fails, the woman gets the blame."

Since she moved out, Ms. Isimeto-Osibuamhe said, her husband has hit her a dozen times, once knocking her to the floor of their church. She is torn over whether it is possible for him to change. She worries about how she will raise her son, now living with his grandparents, should she divorce. "Should I stay because of the baby and then get killed?" she asked. But at another point she asked a reporter to make sure that in any account of her story, her last name would be hyphenated to include his.

Her diary is filled with notes on how his views are wrong. "Marriage to you: A slavery relationship!" she wrote this January.

She has now found a new outlet as the creator and host of a local television show on domestic violence. After the first program was broadcast, she said, she was deluged with calls from women like herself. She hopes to pursue their cause through a little foundation she has formed called "Happy Family."

"An African man believes his wife is like a piece of property, is like a car, is like a shoe, is like something for him to trample on," Ms. Isimeto-Osibuamhe said. "Our men need education."

So do "our mothers, our fathers, our sons," she added. "The whole society needs to be overhauled."

Forced and inhumane dress codes in Islam:

Banning the burka is not racist - it's a kindness! Wearing a burka means wearing a lifelong prison. The husbands and male relations forced the women and girls to wear burkas, when they want to go outside. Under a burka you cannot see many, you are half blind, the whole life your sight on the world is dark without blue sky. All women, girls, female childs, which are wearing burkas or other inhumane islamic dresses like chador and so one, have lifelong eye diseases. That ist not of interest for their husbands or male relations, women and girls without burkas in their eyes are whores and so they forced the female members of their family to wear burka or live lifelong in the house and not go outside.

For the first time in Switzerland's history, the country has enforced a ban on the full-face veil - which means women wearing a burka (full body covering with mesh over the eyes) or niqab (full body covering with a slit for the eyes) could face fines of almost 10,000 euros.

But it is not the only country to introduce such a controversial law. Here's where Muslim women stand on wearing the veil across the world...

France was the first European country to ban the burqa in public. It started in 2004, with a clampdown on students in state-run schools displaying any form of religious symbol. But in April 2011, the government went further by bringing in a total public ban on full-face veils. President Nicolas Sarkozy saying they were “not welcome” in France.

Women can be subjected to 150 euro fines and instructions in citizenship for breaking the ban. Anyone who forces a woman to cover her face risks a 30,000 euro fine.

The burka, Niqab, Chador is taking away the right to know with who we are dealing. Burka is mostly use by the extremist Muslims and were their are in power other people are dictate and negate any religious freedom: women's are stone to dead and obligate too wear the Burka. We should negate top them to wear in our free world as is contrary to our security and culture that we should identify by our face.

The heinous crime of FGM connected with child marriage and forced marriage and child rape in all Muslim countries and worldwide:

200 Million women, girls, female childs and babies maimed:

The male Crime of Female Genital Mutilation:

In all Muslim countries the male relations and husbands want child marriages mostly connected with heinous FGM, that means lifelong torture and rape, painful and deadly childbirths and a short life of pain for the girls and women.If FGM would be made to men, all their sexual organs would be cut off. Why male circumcision is much lighter than the female.Forcibly handcuffed and detained, the babies, female children, girls and women are getting cut off parts of the genitals or the whole genital. They get no painkillers, the mutilation is performed with razors or knives. To scream or cry, is considered shameful. When they cry or shout during FGM , they are ridiculed or considered as cowards.

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All childs, girls and women were forced to go undergo FGM before they get married. That means a lustful sexuality for the men and a painful sexuality for childs, girls and women with mostly deadly consequences. Because most of the childs, girls and women are dying early, the men in these countries have mostly polygamy.

Female genital mutilation/cutting (FGM/C) refers to all procedures involving partial or total removal of the external female genitalia or other injury to the female genital organs for non-medical reasons.

According to a recent UNICEF publication at least 200 million girls and women have experienced FGM/C in 30 countries across three continents. But without far more intensive and sustained action now from all parts of society, hundreds of millions more girls will suffer profound, permanent, and utterly unnecessary harm. If rates of decline seen in the past three decades are sustained, the impact of population growth means that up to 63 million more girls could be cut by 2050.

Overall, an adolescent girl today is about a third less likely to be cut than 30 years ago. Kenya and Tanzania have seen rates drop to a third of their levels three decades ago through a combination of community activism and legislation. In the Central African Republic, Iraq, Liberia and Nigeria, prevalence has dropped by as much as half. Attitudes are also changing: recent data show that the majority of people in the countries where FGM is practiced believe it should end, but continue to compel their daughters to undergo the procedure because of strong social pressure.

FGM/C may cause severe pain and can result in prolonged bleeding, infection, infertility and even death. A 2006 World Health Organisation’s study found that FGM/C is also harmful to newborns due to adverse obstetric outcomes, leading to an extra 1 to 2 perinatal deaths per 100 deliveries.

FGM/C is a fundamental violation of the rights of girls and is typically upheld by a deeply entrenched social norm, especially in areas where it is widespread. It is a manifestation of gender discrimination. The practice is perpetrated by families without a primary intention of violence, but is de facto violent in nature. Communities practice FGM/C in the belief that it will ensure a girl's proper upbringing, future marriage or family honour. Some also associate it with religious beliefs although no religious scriptures require it. In many contexts, the social norm upholding the practice is so powerful that families have their daughters cut even when they are aware of the harm it can cause. If families were to stop practicing on their own they would risk the marriage prospects of their daughter as well as the family's status.

Though the practice has persisted for over a thousand years, programmatic evidence suggests that FGM/C can end in one generation within a population group. While UNICEF currently works in 22 countries on the elimination of FGM/C, since 2008 UNFPA and UNICEF have collaborated on the UNFPA-UNICEF Joint Programme on Female Genital Mutilation/Cutting: Accelerating Change , which now extends to 17 of those countries in West, East and North Africa. Among the largest programmes on the issue, UNFPA and UNICEF jointly support government and other partners to strengthen legislation outlawing the practice and to carry out activities enabling communities to make a coordinated and collective choice to abandon FGM/C. Integrated and culturally-sensitive programmes including community conversations and education about human rights and fundamental values with adults, adolescents and religious leaders allow community members to discuss alternative ways of doing the best for their daughters without having them cut. This participatory process has led communities to organize public commitments to abandon FGM/C. An independent evaluation of the UNFPA-UNICEF Joint Programme carried out in 2013 concluded that the Joint Programme had contributed to the acceleration of abandonment of FGM/C at community and national levels.

There are four main cruel types of FGM:

Type 1 (clitoridectomy) – removing part or all of the clitoris.
Type 2 (excision) – removing part or all of the clitoris and the inner labia (lips that surround the vagina), with or without removal of the labia majora (larger outer lips).
Type 3 (infibulation) – narrowing of the vaginal opening by creating a seal, formed by cutting and repositioning the labia.
Other harmful procedures to the female genitals, including pricking, piercing, cutting, scraping or burning the area.

FGM is often performed by traditional circumcisers or cutters who do not have any medical training. However, in sometimes it may be done by a medical professional.

Anaesthetics and antiseptics aren't generally used, and FGM is often carried out using knives, scissors, scalpels, pieces of glass or razor blades.

FGM often happens against a girl's will without her consent and girls may have to be forcibly restrained.

Effects of FGM

There are no health benefits to FGM and it can cause serious harm, including:

constant pain
pain and/or difficulty having sex
repeated infections, which can lead to infertility
bleeding, cysts and abscesses
problems passing urine or incontinence
depression, flashbacks and self-harm
problems during labour and childbirth, which can be life-threatening for mother and baby

Some girls die from blood loss or infection as a direct result of the procedure.
FGM make it difficult and painful to have sex.

FGM is an extremely traumatic experience that can cause emotional difficulties throughout life, including;

panic attacks
flashbacks to the time of the cutting
nightmares and other sleep problems
great problems and great pain during intercourse and childbirth
dangerous lifelong infections
early death because of many health problems

One early morning in an African village not far from Nairobi, Kenya, young girls are roused from sleep and taken to a nearby river. The waters are cold, helping to arrest the bleeding from a first menstrual cycle, making their genitalia stand out and slightly numb. Soon an elder village midwife takes the children one by one and with a rusty razor, scissors or shard of glass cuts out the clitoris, slices off the labia and applies ashes, herbs or cow dung to staunch the flow of blood. As the girl writhes in pain, other women hold her arms down, her legs apart, her mouth shut tight so that she cannot run away or alarm the other unsuspecting children waiting in their cool bath.

Over 200 million women, girls, female childs and babies in the world today have been subjected to similar barbaric mutilation, a traditional practice that continues unabated in at least 28 African countries. According to the Minority Rights Group International, 90 percent of women in northern Sudan, Ethiopia and Mali, and nearly 100 percent in Somalia and Djibouti, undergo ritualistic genital excision. In these countries women are also infibulated, the two sides of the vulva sewn together with catgut or held with thorns, a match stick shoved in place to ensure an opening the size of a pinhole. Lesser mutilations are performed on women in parts of the Middle East and Pakistan, and among some Muslims in Malaysia, India and Sri Lanka.

Typically the mutilations occur at puberty. But in many countries the procedure is performed on infants and in many others on girls between the ages of 7 and 10. Increasingly girls are excised at a younger age with none of the traditional ceremony associated with ritual initiation into womanhood. These young women are deprived of the organs of sexual pleasure, subjected to hideous pain in urination, menstruation and intercourse, and suffer multiple medical complications throughout their adult lives.

These practices have gone on for centuries, yet most of the world remained ignorant of them. In 1976 the British liberal humanist Jill Tweedie wrote in her column for the London Guardian:

“Those who do it, those to whom it is done, those in whose countries it is done and those outside who know it is done all too often collude in a conspiracy of silence engendered by an odd but very potent combination of ignorance, custom, shame, poverty, and academic aloofness.”

In the late 1970s a number of Western feminists, together with several outspoken African women, drew attention to these barbaric acts against women and forced reluctant United Nations agencies to take up the issue.

A wave of emigration from the desperate poverty and social upheavals in Africa during the ’80s has made the question a concrete reality in Europe as African immigrants and refugees continue to excise their children, either by importing a native midwife or by sending their girls home to have the operation performed. Recently the refusal of the French state to grant asylum to a 22-year-old Malian women fleeing ritual genital mutilation in her native village has received worldwide coverage. And liberal black feminist Alice Walker has just come out with Possessing the Secret of Joy, a powerful novel (surprisingly muted in male-hating bourgeois feminism) depicting the attempt of an African woman to grapple with life after being genitally mutilated. While some of the international reaction to the practice of female genital mutilation is clearly motivated by racist and hypocritical moralism, the practice is a heinous barbarity which must be categorically and unconditionally opposed.

Three forms of mutilation are generally found in a triangular band stretching from Egypt south to Tanzania in the east and across to Senegal in the west. Although often referred to as “female circumcision,” there is no equation with the removal of the penile foreskin that is practiced among all males in Muslim and Jewish societies and in the U.S. Only the most modified version, Sunna (“tradition”), can correctly be called circumcision. It affects only a small proportion of women, largely in non-African countries. Sunna can entail a simple pinprick of the clitoris; more often the hood of the clitoris is removed.

The Egyptian feminist Nawal El Saadawi, author of The Hidden Face of Eve: Women in the Arab World, wrote about the terrifying experience of her own circumcision at the age of six. She also described her work as a doctor in rural Egypt in the 1950s:

“There I very often had to treat young girls who had come to the out-patients clinic bleeding profusely after a circumcision. Many of them used to lose their lives as a result of the inhuman and primitive way in which the operation, savage enough in itself, was performed. Others were afflicted with acute or chronic infections from which they sometimes suffered for the rest of their days.”

Excision, the most common practice in Africa, entails the cutting of the clitoris, sometimes its removal, and slicing of some or all parts of the labia minora and majora. An inexperienced hand or poor eyesight can lead to puncturing of the urethra, the bladder, the anal sphincter and/or the vaginal walls. Heavy keloid scarring can impair walking; the development of dermoid cysts is not uncommon. A ritual frequently justified as a guarantor of fertility can lead to sterility.

Most women in the Horn of Africa are also infibulated. In addition to clitoridectomy, the reduced labia majora are sewn together, leaving a trivial opening. After the operation, the girl’s legs are bound together from hip to ankle for up to 40 days to permit the formation of scar tissue. Urination and menstruation are excruciating ordeals: it can take up to 30 minutes to empty the bladder; the retention of urine and menstrual blood guarantees infection.

For infibulated women, sexual intercourse becomes a practically unbearable burden, especially on the wedding night. Consummation may take weeks, beginning with the husband having to open his wife’s infibulation with fingers or a knife or ceremonial sword. The woman must lie still with legs spread through repeated, bloody penetrations until a large enough opening becomes permanent. Many women see pregnancy as an escape from these painful and pleasureless sexual encounters, yet childbirth itself is traumatic. Scar tissue is often ripped up as the baby pushes out. Those who have access to hospitals need both anterior and posterior episiotomies. Many infants die or suffer brain damage in the second phase of delivery because thick scarring prevents sufficient dilation of the cervix. In many countries custom demands reinfibulation after each pregnancy to ensure women remain “tight as a virgin.” Hanny Lightfoot-Klein, a social psychologist who spent six years studying female genital mutilation in Sudan, notes that women without reinfibulation fear their husbands will leave them. Some claim to prefer it; in her 1989 book Prisoners of Ritual, she writes: “A tight fit makes the most of what is left after an extreme excision.”

The practice transcends all class, national and religious bounds. In areas where it is the norm, it is so not just for the women of the bush but for those from the elite petty bourgeoisie, professional government bureaucracy and intelligentsia as well. All women in northern Sudan are infibulated, yet the practice has been anathema among the southern peoples. Among every religion on the continent—Coptic Christians, Muslims, animists, the “Black Jews” of Ethiopia, both Catholic and Protestant converts in Nigeria—there are peoples that persist in female mutilations. Moreover, it is practiced in Burkina Faso among tribes with both patriarchal and matriarchal cultures.

Various, often contradictory explanations exist for the tradition. In the main, rationales reflect prevalent mythology, ignorance of biological and medical facts, and religious obscurantism. Almost every reference links the custom to the family’s fear that their daughter won’t be “marriageable.” Unmutilated young girls are ostracized, labeled as “unclean” or branded as whores; children born to unexcised women are considered bastards in many societies, and unscarred genitals are associated with prostitution. Often unmutilated women are considered illegitimate; they cannot inherit money, cattle or land, nor do they fetch an adequate bride price. One Somalian woman defended her granddaughter’s wish to be infibulated, saying it “takes away nothing that she needs. If she does not have this done, she will become a harlot.” The girl’s father, a college-educated businessman, expressed his uncertainty: “Yes, I know it is bad for the health of girls. But I don’t want my daughter to blame me later on because she could not find a husband.”

Different religious and social groupings see genital mutilation as the only way to protect women from unbridled sexual passion and promiscuity. Sir Richard Burton, a 19th century British adventurer/ethnologist who spent many years studying the culture, language and sexuality of eastern Africa, wrote that “all consider sexual desire in woman to be ten times greater than in man. (They cut off the clitoris because, as Aristotle warns, that organ is the seat and spring of sexual desire.)” Unfortunately, a good portion of Burton’s research was destroyed by his devoted, but Roman Catholic, wife.

Overwhelmingly the practice is linked to virginity before marriage and fidelity afterward. Among almost every one of the peoples where the practice exists, polygamy is the norm. One argument for female excision is that no man can satisfy all of his wives, so it helps to have women who don’t desire sex. FGM is femicide and misogyny.

Women, girls and female childs are forced since humankind exists, to work together with their opressors, but this has at any time saved their lives and freedom.

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Pamela Scobbo Alvi
4 years ago
I am outraged at the cover up by CCDD administration!

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Jennifer Lyne
4 years ago
The district is both blaming the victims and denying that it happened. How is the community allowing this to continue?

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Tina Jones
4 years ago
Thank you for advocating for safety of children and demanding accountability.

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Graciela Heymann
4 years ago
former parent of Chappaqua students, all our children are vulnerable and CCSD violated our trust

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Prachi Sharma
4 years ago
I support the parents and kids who have suffered in this process.

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Jacqueline Meyer
4 years ago
Jacqueline Meyer not Lauren meyer
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